confused21 Posted January 31, 2005 Share Posted January 31, 2005 Please help me make sense of this! -We're both 25, we've been neighbors for 3 months and have been friends for 3 years, -We've been FWB on and off for the last year or so; off for the last couple months since he got in a LDR. He tells me how he is happy in his relationship and thats we cant do anything b/c of that which is understandable. BUT his ex-g/f is at his place at least once a week or more and its making me crazy jealous since she has a b/f so why is she always there! Its like I cant see him b/c he's with his ex g/f.. I'm sure his g/f doesnt know about any of this. I just have these suspicions that something is going on b/c he had a new years party and his ex backed out of going there b/c she didnt want to see his g/f. Any thoughts?? Link to post Share on other sites
kypepeo Posted January 31, 2005 Share Posted January 31, 2005 Jealousy only hurts you more. Just forget about him and get involved with other stuff and other people. Watching him all the time is not healthy and if he's the kind of person to cheat on his g/f then you claerly don't need him Link to post Share on other sites
Eddie Lopez Posted January 31, 2005 Share Posted January 31, 2005 I think that you are about to break that golden rule when it comes to fwb's. It sounds like your geting emotionaly attached. Try starting a fwb with someone new. Link to post Share on other sites
louisejulie Posted January 31, 2005 Share Posted January 31, 2005 Originally posted by confused21 Please help me make sense of this! -We're both 25, we've been neighbors for 3 months and have been friends for 3 years, -We've been FWB on and off for the last year or so; off for the last couple months since he got in a LDR. He tells me how he is happy in his relationship and thats we cant do anything b/c of that which is understandable. BUT his ex-g/f is at his place at least once a week or more and its making me crazy jealous since she has a b/f so why is she always there! Its like I cant see him b/c he's with his ex g/f.. I'm sure his g/f doesnt know about any of this. I just have these suspicions that something is going on b/c he had a new years party and his ex backed out of going there b/c she didnt want to see his g/f. Any thoughts?? Link to post Share on other sites
louisejulie Posted January 31, 2005 Share Posted January 31, 2005 ooops! sounds like you've fallen for him. I did the same thing and it hurts like crazy but you have to let go, specially if he has a g/f. Whatever you do, dont chase him, you will only boost his ego! I did that too lol. Whatever you decide to do remember that you deserve better than a lying cheat, and it sounds like you're looking for something more, you wont get more from this type of man, he just wants to play. take care and be strong, plenty of nice guys out there hun. Link to post Share on other sites
Author confused21 Posted February 1, 2005 Author Share Posted February 1, 2005 he told me this morning that she keeps showing up at his place b/c she is having boy problems and just needs to vent. Isnt that what g/fs are for ? How is showing up at your exs going to solve any problems? He tells me she keeps showing up and obviously isnt getting too pissed at her for it since she is still doing it. Yea I fell for him awhile ago.. I'm jealous of his ex and im not even his g/f! I just think there is more then what he is saying and that is making me jealous. Link to post Share on other sites
AndrewJ Posted February 1, 2005 Share Posted February 1, 2005 Jealousy is the worst feeling it hammers u hard. Try and meet new peolpe. Never had the fwb thing before but can see how it could be emotionally fatal. Link to post Share on other sites
TheJammer Posted February 1, 2005 Share Posted February 1, 2005 You have absolutely NO RIGHT to even be wondering what he's doing, given the current nature of your relationship with him. It's absurd that you're even irritated by this whole situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Sunny3715 Posted February 1, 2005 Share Posted February 1, 2005 Originally posted by TheJammer You have absolutely NO RIGHT to even be wondering what he's doing, given the current nature of your relationship with him. It's absurd that you're even irritated by this whole situation. I really don't mean to sound rude but while she may not have a "RIGHT" to be wondering what he is doing.... I think it is absurd that you would think it was crazy for her to irritated by the situation. If she has feelings for him she would naturally be bothered by the situation. We don't always chose who we fall for. And even if someone isn't "available" that doesn't make one fall less hard for that person. So the mere fact that she has feelings is why she is irritated with what is going on. Link to post Share on other sites
louisejulie Posted February 1, 2005 Share Posted February 1, 2005 Originally posted by Eddie Lopez I think that you are about to break that golden rule when it comes to fwb's. It sounds like your geting emotionaly attached. Try starting a fwb with someone new. Seriously it sounds like a bit of we want what we cant have and cos u dont feel like he wants u, you want him more. I think if hes cheating on his g/f with his ex then you are lucky to be out of it. Find yourself someone you can trust, i know its not easy, im going thru the same as you, but u can do better. Link to post Share on other sites
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