Honeysuckle Posted April 2, 2014 Share Posted April 2, 2014 I posted previously about my husband cheating and my thoughts about leaving him. All replies told me to get out now before he hurts me worse. I already knew this was the answer, for some reason I just needed reassurance. Well unpacked my things and left him. I did this while he was at work and left him a note. But he should have seen it coming anyways. I only left like that bc I couldn't bear the thought of me packing my things am seeing him completely not care at all. So when he came home from work and saw I was gone. He texts me and says "I need money". Apparently he didn't have enough money to get back and forth to work for the rest of the week. Well I gave him almost all the money I had, which wasn't a lot bc he had already ran my bank account down to less than a dollar. Well he got extremely mad at me for no giving him enough money. I told him we needed to set up a time to meet so we could take care of things like getting his phone taken off my account and moving his car insurance over. And his response was "unless its you giving me money so I can get to my job then we don't need to meet" I guess I just don't understand how he can continuously be so cruel to me and act like he doesn't even care that I left. I was trying to be the bigger person and help him get his stuff set up. But I really just want to go out and cancel it all and tell him to go screw himself... I just never responded when he said that to me. I don't usually act like an immature child but I really feel like I need to at this point. Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted April 3, 2014 Share Posted April 3, 2014 He is using you. He can continue to be cruel and act like he doesn't care because he is cruel and doesn't care. What people show you is the truth, stop thinking he feels anything other than what he shows no matter what he has said in the past. Go out and cancel it all and tell him to screw himself. He cheated on you and yet he wants your money...uh, no. Don't be a doormat. No one is going to keep giving and giving to someone who cheated on them and bled their bank account dry. Time to stop being his ATM. He is a douche. Go NC immediately and get a good solicitor and file now. You have nothing else to talk abut...he isn't interested in anything except moving on while getting everything he can from you. He isn't going to change just because you left. No more giving him anything, not even your time...cancel anything you two have together. This ship has sunk. Move on, Grumps 2 Link to post Share on other sites
beach Posted April 4, 2014 Share Posted April 4, 2014 It is HIS to figure out now! When you stop allowing him to treat you this way - it won't happen anymore! My response to him would be "it's not MY problem - you can figure things out on your own. Your car insurance will be cancelled today and your phone turned off too". Then take action on those things. He will realize he can't treat you terribly anymore - when you start taking action that's in YOUR best interest. I hope you get busy cutting him out of your life. You deserve to be treated properly and it's not going to happen with him. Change your bank account. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TiredFamilyGuy Posted April 4, 2014 Share Posted April 4, 2014 Prediction: anything You need his co-operation for, he will make difficult, and/or use to extract something he wants like more money. Answer: you do not need his co-operation. Cancel the phone, the car insurance. Give him a weeks notice of your actions if you must but I recommend not. Instead, do it now. You want to move on, not be stuck in sticky continued psychodrama. Don't listen when he switches track to try guilting you, or honeyed words. Good luck and keep strong. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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