markmywords Posted April 3, 2014 Share Posted April 3, 2014 how do you guys handle jealousy? i mean everyone does it. so how do you handle it to where it doesn't become an issue? Link to post Share on other sites
TAV Posted April 3, 2014 Share Posted April 3, 2014 Jealousy is truly a green eyed monster that makes you think stupid things and sometimes act in stupid ways. For me jealousy has a lot to do with insecurity and somewhat with possessiveness. So find yourself someone you can trust; your instincts will often tell you when you can't hence the green eyed monster rearing it's head at a seemingly innocent incident. Nothing more soothing to the soul than knowing the person you are in love with would rather cut off his right arm than hurt you in that way (cheating). In my current relationship (LDR) I mostly get only envious; jealous of the time other women get to spend in my bf's company. He does like it when I show him a little jealousy, makes him feel more wanted. I also smile when I notice him asking too many details about some guy I had to work with or something. He knows that I'd never cheat on him but I like to think he just wants to make sure nobody is having any designs on me. My ex-husband was terribly possessive and not to be trusted himself (must be a correlation between the two) and jealousy was much more a factor in that relationship, also on my part. I never want to live like that again. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted April 3, 2014 Share Posted April 3, 2014 (edited) Not everyone is jealous, only insecure people -- and yes that does encompass a good portion of the general public! How I manage it is I know it's MY problem and don't want the guy to know how bummed I'd be if things didn't work out, and I just keep it contained but bitch to my friends about it and blow off steam and have been known to have all-female parties in which what we called "feckless toads" were symbolically skewered in our particular little homespun kind of hoodoo rituals while plotting strategies and conspiring to, as a group, avenge any openly inconsiderate acts of uncaring. This might involve exposing a player within the group and himself suddenly finding himself persona non grata with a small but determined faction of militant females or creating a buzz that I was sleeping with a rival. So you see, I manage to retain my self-respect by being cultish, creative, and proactive. But, you know, we just did things differently in my era. Edited April 3, 2014 by preraph Link to post Share on other sites
heartisredandblue Posted April 3, 2014 Share Posted April 3, 2014 i get jealous and i hate it..i know i shoudltn say anythign but i just cant help it Link to post Share on other sites
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