cruepain Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 do you think its possible for guys and girls to just be friends? nothing sexual happening
David87 Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 (edited) In many cases, the answer is no. Sometimes that is good thing, when both people see friendship as a step to mutually-satisfying love, sex, and/or commitment. At other times, men and women cannot be "just" friends because only one friend desires something more. Those mismatched desires between men and women lead to unequal friend zone situations, where one person's needs are completely satisfied at the other's expense. Those unfortunate instances and the frustrations around them are the friendship problems we hear so much about. Noproblem had a thread about this issue a couple of weeks ago. I think she hates me now Here's the link, you'll find all your answers. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/general/general-relationship-discussion/468896-s-sad-girls-judged-how-many-male-friends-they-have-have-not Edited April 4, 2014 by David87
Phoe Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 90% of my friends are men. I am a woman. Everything is platonic, no one has ever behaved inappropriately. I simply happen to have common interests and hobbies that are more often enjoyed by men than women, so friendships over those interests just develop naturally.
David87 Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 90% of my friends are men. I am a woman. Everything is platonic, no one has ever behaved inappropriately. I simply happen to have common interests and hobbies that are more often enjoyed by men than women, so friendships over those interests just develop naturally. To summerise. Women think that they can be friends with a man. Men on the other hand don't think this is posible. This is caled the friend zone. And every single time a thread like this one comes up, a ''fight'' will start. I'm not saying that's impossible but it's very rare. Ok now you can start throwing rocks at me.
somedude81 Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 Can guys and girls be just friends? The answer is sometimes, and it depends on the person. Personally, I know that if I'm friends with a girl who is a good person, (I wouldn't be her friend if she wasn't) and if she was cute, I'm almost guaranteed to fall for her. I've been friendzonend rejected far too many times so it's been a few years since I tried to have a platonic female friend. When I'm in a relationship, I shouldn't have any issue being just friends with girls.
Phoe Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 To summerise. Women think that they can be friends with a man. Men on the other hand don't think this is posible. This is caled the friend zone. And every single time a thread like this one comes up, a ''fight'' will start. I'm not saying that's impossible but it's very rare. Ok now you can start throwing rocks at me. None of the men I'm friends with were "friendzoned" because none of them were ever interested in me. Trust me, when strangers tried to insinuate that any male friends of mine should date me, the denials and declarations of disgust from those men couldn't have come any faster or more vehemently. Many well adjusted and mature men are capable of enjoying the company of a woman without wanting to bone her or date her. It's not just women who think this either. Plenty of men will eventually chime in on the subject as well, stating their ability to be platonic friends with women 1
Stay Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 Sometimes it's possible but I'll say it like this. If the man has no attraction towards a girl, it can be but if it's an attractive person or the woman has a great personality that really attracts the guy, the guy will ALWAYS want something more. Not sure how a woman might think of it in a position like this but that's at least how most guys if not all are. A lot of men just hang out with attractive girls and not escalate anything hoping something will happen. But if the girl feels the same way about the guy, I know he won't have an issue with taking it to the next level.
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 I've never been friends with a girl unless I was trying to fck her.
soccerrprp Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 ONLY if you don't find the other person attractive. I mean, yes, you can be friends with a girl, but there will always be some sexual tension if one or both feels some attraction towards the other AND if the opportunity presented itself, I feel that changes are good that that tension would be acted out. Of course, I am talking about if you are already taken, but if both single...even tougher.
Gaeta Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 I am a female I have a best friend male and a best friend female. My best friend male is in a relationship, I am also in a relationship. We never do or say anything inappropriate toward each other. I am happy he is in love, he's happy I got a decent man in my life. We talk about work, kids, life, we share our worries, etc. A few years ago I friend-zoned him after 1 date. I don't think he's been sticking around for years in the hope I will unfriend-zoned him.
PegNosePete Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 All of my female friends fit into 2 categories: 1) Those with boyfriends/husbands 2) Those I would like to date/whatever 2
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 I am a female I have a best friend male and a best friend female. My best friend male is in a relationship, I am also in a relationship. We never do or say anything inappropriate toward each other. I am happy he is in love, he's happy I got a decent man in my life. We talk about work, kids, life, we share our worries, etc. A few years ago I friend-zoned him after 1 date. I don't think he's been sticking around for years in the hope I will unfriend-zoned him. He sometimes still thinks about you when he climaxes with his gf.
Gaeta Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 He sometimes still thinks about you when he climaxes with his gf. What ever rocks his boat lol, I am not the fantasy police
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 What ever rocks his boat lol, I am not the fantasy police Going to have to start a thread on if he is or isnt cheating by doing this!!
d0nnivain Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 I have several male friends. Most developed as work colleagues 1st. I suppose part of it is that the friendships are somewhat compartmentalized. We chat at work, maybe have lunch, perhaps have a drink at an industry function but we have limited contact outside of work. If they are married or have a serious GF, I make a point to meet the women in their lives. If we do socialized outside of work it's in an environment where SOs are welcome.
Valen Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 Yes of course. I have had many female friends in the past and they were not sexual. I had no interest in them and nor did they. We just got along as friends.
twinkly84 Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 Yes! Without revealing too much, I know someone personally who has been in a non-romantic, friendship-only relationship with a man for years now. They even live together & have never had any form of sexual attraction. Both are career people, date others & just live their lives. It is possible because if both aren't attracted to either, but have similar interests, they can be their as good friends, still care but, not have sexual contact with each other.
jaycee1 Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 LOL reading the posts, it is funny. Every male friend I have or had in the last 20 years are men that at some point have hit on me and I "friendzoned". The ones I have known 20 years, the friendship does evolve I think to a real friendship, not to say a few are probably still hoping.. one day .. Now that I am attracted to guy that wants to be friends.. I feel maybe I was kind of unfair or cold keeping some guys around as my "friend" or emotional sounding board. The few long term ones though I wouldn't have done anything different.
Hello_is_it_me Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 I would also like to mention the possibility of an asexual man befriending an asexual woman. A low probability as asexuals make up only around 1% of the population but yeah!
thecrucible Posted April 4, 2014 Posted April 4, 2014 I prefer having female friends because having too many male friends doesn't look good for a girl, and it causes all sorts of complications. I can't bond as easily with men as friends. I've had a few friends fall for me in the past and I just couldn't be friends with them anymore. I can't be friends with exes either. I've never myself fallen for a male friend. In my experience, if they're not into me, they just keep their distance anyway. 1
isisisweeping Posted April 5, 2014 Posted April 5, 2014 do you think its possible for guys and girls to just be friends? nothing sexual happening Yes. Know it is.
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