Sedentary Lifestyle

[wargrrl]

my bf of two years is for the most part sedentary and prefers to be at home game and smoke. the only time he'll really enjoy chilling with other people is if smoking weed is involved. him and his friends chill here and there, but when they ask him to go out to a sports event or just anywhere really, he doesnt want to or feels like hes being dragged along. same case with me. the only reason why i ask him to come anywhere with me, even if its just for a walk in the park or around the city, is to spend time with him. we live together btw.

 

anyways i talked to him about it today and ive concluded that he doesnt really enjoy anything besides smoking and gaming. we're both introverted so i can sort of understand if he has social anxiety but ive noticed that he doesnt ever have much to talk with people, even his own friends, about anything unless if its weed or gaming. do you think his lack of interests and worldliness is beyond just being introverted or could he be possibly depressed?

 

im on the fence about whether i want to breakup with him or not. hes still a sweet guy and i love him but i keep wondering if our lack of common interests will get in the way. i keep suggesting things we could do together so we can spend quality time together but he just seems bored/bothered by em. ive tried playing games with him but i cant play for hours.

[mario_C]

Being introverted has nothing to do with a lack of ambition. Someone like that, you have to ask them, What do you want to be in life? Who do you want to be?

 

Actually, everyone needs to ask themselves that question. Once you've figured out what the point of your life is, you'll be amazed how much more energy you have and how much better you'll feel about life. And yes, I've struggled with it on both sides of the fence - it never gets easier. All I can tell you is, a nice walk always helps.

/rant Good luck!

[erklat]

I share the same lifestyle.

 

While I'm a freelance programer so working from home is part of my trade..

I don't particularly enjoy sitting hours in a bar with my friends who prefer that kind

of socializing. That doesn't mean I have no interests or things I enjoy..

 

I like reading, I like Gaming, I go to gym, I have beautiful Alaskan malamute I walk for hours

with sometimes. In the end my life has more content than those who judge me for staying indoors.

 

In short - if there is a right or wrong in this story - he is right. As long as his behavior is socially acceptable (smoking weed is not, albeit I do it sometimes too), you trying to pull him out is jeopardizing his individualism. Unless he does the same to you by looking you indoors, he is in the right here.