Issues With The Kids Weekend AT STBXW, Having A Hard Time With It

[george roy]

A couple of issues this weekend with the kids at STBX's...

 

1) I learned from the kids tonight that STBX had a mutual friend's daughter come over for 'about an hour or so' Saturday. STBX had errands to run.

Whether this was the case or not, my problem is that STBX skipped the ROFR phone call, and went immediately to the friend's daughter.

Temp orders have ROFR in them. Primarily based on one child's medical issues.

I guess my thing is that, in regards to the medical condition, had I gotten a phone call from the friend's daughter (not knowing why she would be calling me), I might have let the call go to voicemail.

 

2) As the kids were telling me about their weekend, I learned that STBX had a male friend that brought dinner over. With the kids there.

I'm unsure how to approach this as well. STBX and I agreed to not introduce new people to the kids until after the divorce was final. Don't know if there's anything I can do. If anything, it's confusing for the kids.

 

STBX has a separate issue that she needs to speak with me later about.

 

I should add that STBX has not retained counsel as of yet. She wants to 'stay out of court'.

Being that as it is, I'm wondering how to approach the situation(s).

 

As much as I'm pi$$ed off right now, I'm hesitant to bring the above issues up to STBX until after speaking with my attorney tomorrow (about ROFR). But I also think the above needs to be addressed.

 

Thoughts, input, and advice area appreciated...

[hurts1968]

A couple of issues this weekend with the kids at STBX's...

 

1) I learned from the kids tonight that STBX had a mutual friend's daughter come over for 'about an hour or so' Saturday. STBX had errands to run.

Whether this was the case or not, my problem is that STBX skipped the ROFR phone call, and went immediately to the friend's daughter.

Temp orders have ROFR in them. Primarily based on one child's medical issues.

I guess my thing is that, in regards to the medical condition, had I gotten a phone call from the friend's daughter (not knowing why she would be calling me), I might have let the call go to voicemail.

 

2) As the kids were telling me about their weekend, I learned that STBX had a male friend that brought dinner over. With the kids there.

I'm unsure how to approach this as well. STBX and I agreed to not introduce new people to the kids until after the divorce was final. Don't know if there's anything I can do. If anything, it's confusing for the kids.

 

STBX has a separate issue that she needs to speak with me later about.

 

I should add that STBX has not retained counsel as of yet. She wants to 'stay out of court'.

Being that as it is, I'm wondering how to approach the situation(s).

 

As much as I'm pi$$ed off right now, I'm hesitant to bring the above issues up to STBX until after speaking with my attorney tomorrow (about ROFR). But I also think the above needs to be addressed.

 

Thoughts, input, and advice area appreciated...

 

 

Hi

 

These situations are so hard, with regard to the male friend I'm not sure there is anything you can do.

 

I'm in the UK and my STBXW told me it was over 9 weeks ago, filed for divorce 2 weeks later and is moving in with a man she has just met in 2 weeks time taking my daughter with her!

 

You would think that in any 1st world country with an ounce of sense that I could stop my 3 YO daughter from living with what in effect is a strange man....but no, can't do a thing apart from sit back and watch!

 

Hopefully where you are might be different but if not I'm afraid you will just have to live with the fact you can't do anything about this man, sorry I know it's hard and I really do feel for you, I'm living the same nightmare.

[iris219]

She shouldn't have to check with you first to get a sitter for an hour. It was her day with the children and that doesn't seem like something to make a big deal over, even if you have ROFR.

 

Also, there's not much you can do about her male "friend." Not sure why you made an agreement to not bring dates (and he may not have been a date) around the children until after the divorce, especially if the divorce will take a year or more. That's not very realistic.

 

Staying out of court is often the cheaper option. Do you have a separation agreement? Have you filed yet or is there a mandatory separation period?