Yet another open ended reply?

[irc333]

Finally got a response from a single woman in my area...school teacher, with a Master's degree. I kind of made note that it's hard to find someone in my area that's only educated, but single as well.

 

I asked her how long she's been single and living in my area. She's average looking, but cute..has a nice smile and sounded intelligent as opposed to the rest of the backwoods crowd. lol

 

I finished off the email with a couple of questions, "How long have you been single and living in <name of my town>. Also asked her what kind of local places she goes to for her nights off.

 

She did reply, which is good I suppose, said with the selection of men in the area that are quite backwoods and toothless, she sympathized. She said she only has 2 years left to go in this town and she may move on...not sure...but she said there's always draw backs whereever you go when you relocate.

 

She said, though, even though being single and dating now-a-days has been a drag....that she's got her standards and not willing to lower them otherwise the relationship will wind up in disaster. Not sure if she was implying that I am not meeting her standards, but from what I read in her profile and what she was looking for "Long term relationship" (That's me), "Not looking for a one night stand (I'm not looking for one either), "Knows how to treat a woman like a lady (I usually say this when I talk about myself in my profile), and a few other things we are both looking for were the same.

 

She didn't ask any questions about me.

 

But I've received LENGTHY email responses that ...for whatever reason...are open ended. It's like they go "blah blah blah blah blah blah blah blah", but have no point or end game.

 

I feel like responding, "Soooo.....?? Do you want to get together?"

[iiiii]

Possibly she just wants to chat a bit/exchange a few emails to get to know you, before bringing up the idea of an actual date?

[Scales]

Why are you asking about her dating life online? You are almost guaranteed to become bestie best friends with her before you even meet. Don't base what she is looking for off her profile, what women write down and what they actually want are two completely different things.

[thecrucible]

Why are you asking about her dating life online? You are almost guaranteed to become bestie best friends with her before you even meet. Don't base what she is looking for off her profile, what women write down and what they actually want are two completely different things.

 

I'm a woman and I agree with the above. I think if a guy did that with me, I'd assume he'd want to be my friend/confidant.

[preraph]

I don't think her comments about not settling were directed at you. If they were, she's not very socially savvy! Ask her if she'd like to meet (someplace public) and have coffee. All she can do is say no or tell you she likes to talk more first.

[irc333]

I don't think her comments about not settling were directed at you. If they were, she's not very socially savvy! Ask her if she'd like to meet (someplace public) and have coffee. All she can do is say no or tell you she likes to talk more first.

 

Either that or its a way to reject a guy without actually rejecting them. I've had conversations with women like this before....always one-sided conversations...if they never ask questions about you, but you about them....either they are socially awkward or not actually interested.

[lookingforbalance]

Hey irc333, have some balls and get the situation moved forward, don't be wishy-washy. Ask her to meet, if she says no, move on. Its that simple, stop analyzing everything to death!