Severe Personality Disorders

[AnneT1985]

Hi y'all!

 

 

I am looking for some insights from people who've experienced something like what I am describing- maybe you know someone or have been diagnosed yourself in the past with a personality disorder? I am not at all generalizing all people with a personality disorder but here are a few interesting things I've heard from talking to some of my loved ones who've experienced dealing with someone who refuses any sort of intervention.

 

 

A friend of mine and her sibling has literally had to "divorce" her mother with a severe personality disorder due to horrendous temper tantrums and verbal/emotional abuse. She says her mother expects her to parent her, will tell her she "doesn't support her enough" and "what have you done for ME lately" and will insult her terribly. She refuses to change her behavior, listen to constructive advice and will fire any therapist who challenges her.

 

 

I have personally had to move on from a friendship with someone who had similar issues. She had many nice qualities but her temper tantrums and extreme sense of entitlement far outweighed the health and vitality of the friendship. She has experienced losses of friends, family members and jobs and also refuses any sort of therapy.

 

 

I can't imagine why someone would want these consequences- they are very heavy. What is the payoff of all of this? Why are relationships and healthy adult living seemingly so impossible for some of these individuals?

 

 

I'd love to hear any thoughts and opinions from anyone who has dealt with anything similar or if you have dealt with this yourself.

 

 

Thank you so much y'all! xx

[Emilia]

What is the payoff of all of this? Why are relationships and healthy adult living seemingly so impossible for some of these individuals?

They don't have a choice because they are incapable of taking a rational step back and view themselves from the outside. The PD you have described means that the person has emotion regulation issues. This is because their skewed thought process (often resulting in feeling of deep shame, fear of abandonment, strong anxiety) dictates how they feel.