Overly friendly or does he like me ?

[retroandbeyond]

So i have a friend who i live with at the moment, his girlfriend, who also happened to live with us, are not together anymore- its been a month now or more.

 

Tensions have been pretty high, because his ex was just being really over dramatic about the breakup. I did feel sorry for her at first, but then she was just being self-destructive and started to be paranoid about my friendship with him (understandable to some extent).However, she was never really friends with me. i was more friends with him from the beginning, therefore my loyalties were never going to be really lie with her and i felt 'girl-code' doesnt apply in this case because this just meant her friendship was on a conditional basis. She was just being really mean to me when he hangs around with loads of girls - i sometimes feel its just being directed towards me. I think its jealously.

 

Anyway, the whole thing with his ex has actually brought me closer to being friends with him. We literally spend most days together which has been great fun. Anyway one night we me,his ex and him went to predrinks at their mutual friends house - he was already pretty drunk and tad bit high - he then asked if i liked him ? i said no no no ! at first i thought he was kidding but then he started to elaborate saying my friend in the flat had told him and its messy right now, but tbh i never in broached the subject so i was just weirded out. I then went outside for a smoke with his ex as we were walking to the actual party when she asked me the same question ? i was completely baffled and sort of paranoid about the situation - i didnt want mine and this guys relationship to be awkward if he thinks i like him.

 

I really feel afraid or at least restrained when near him. However she went back home so i felt it was okay to be myself around him more fully. Since he asked he whole question, i was just confused about the situation - so i asked him about it, but as i had thought, he never remembered - he told my friend he was embarrassed about the situation. So i guess he never liked me - ouch !

 

I didnt want our friendship to be awks after that so i acted normally after that. Me and him both were watching back to back tv shows till like 5 in the morning. He was like lets watch black sails and just k.o. out on my bed - inferring i can sleep round. Usually he would normally wake me up so i can sleep in my bed, so i dont know whats changed. I eventually did kind of fall asleep and then he started to rest on me - he tends to be quite touchy with other girls - so i didnt really care to this point. He went out for a smoke and came back and wanted to sleep next to me but i felt this was awks so i kind elbowed him and he topped and tailed instead. I woke up and he was like hugging me feet lool and was like stroking my legs - kind of weird for a friend to do. So i up and left. He acted cool about it though apologising for hugging my leg and in front of my other flat mates.

 

Baring in mind- hes friendly with a lot of girls and has many female friendships and hes overly caring to others.

 

He's really confusing me? i think i like him so i don't want to end up hurt and losing a good friendship.... what do i do in this situation ??

[nescafe1982]

I can't translate the second half of your post, but if this is the gist:

 

1) he's your roommate; and

2) he's one month out from a messy breakup;

 

...it would be cruelly opportunist to jump on him, as well as risky and ill-advised. Just sounds like drama to be avoided in my opinion. Don't date where you eat... or something.