Are there other ugly/super insecure women here?

[stillafool]

Anybody remember Vertclhrzn? Whatever happened to her? I've always wondered.

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Yes she is still around. I saw a post from her yesterday. At first I thought this was her too.

[stillafool]

Hi,

Dumb, unemployed, etc. And because of that I can't get the plastic surgery I long for.

 

 

xxx

 

I think I would be more worried about thinking I am dumb and unemployable. Have you thought about going back to school and having a career? It doesn't take looks for that.

[Noproblem]

Go back to school. No boys, no drama queens.

Study hard, focus, get a purpose in your life and achieve it.

 

It might take you 4 years for that.

Education will enhance you as a person and will open your mind to a new world.

Be serious and do something about your life.

So, you think you are ugly and nobody wants you right?

At least try to succeed on the academic level!

 

I don't buy the I'm dumb thing. You are not dumb, get yourself together and act.

 

They call you ugly, call them losers!

 

Once you achieve something

in your life, you can get a job and get the surgery you always wanted.

 

Plus, it doesn't have to be in USA, there are other cheaper places.

 

The most important thing is you have to act and change your life.

 

I see unattractive and not beautiful people all the time, yet they managed to get a job and a decent man. Why? Because they really wanted that so they worked to get it.

 

 

I'm not trying to say you will forget what people said to you in the past, you will never forget those hurtful mean words.

I never did!

 

But you must work on your future, the past is gone now, time for the future!!!!!

 

 

Just go about in your life thinking you are worth it and you deserve what you want ,,,,, soon you will find things will change for better.

[mea_M]

@mikefromtheblock: I've already tried to ignore my thoughts countless times, they just came back everytime. But yeah, I will stop moaning about them for you, ok?

 

Don't ignore you're thoughts, get to the root of them. Figure out the driving force behind you're low sense of self. If you feel ugly yourself, you'll appear ugly to those around you. You are what you think and thats why I say don't ignore this, figure it out. You can do it.

 

Mea :-)

[Noproblem]

She was a normal girl. People called her ugly ugly ugly because she is not as beautiful as you are.

Her problem wasn't from the inside, stop kidding yourself

 

Her problem was from the outside and which ultimately corrupted her inside

 

 

She won't feel beautiful if she stayed the same.

 

Plastic surgery won't make her beautiful from the inside,

 

But she already hates her outside, having something new to look at the mirror might save her life.

She will still be insecure, but she won't hate herself as much as she does now.

 

You say, it's ok

Confidence confidence

No confidence will help her if she is really looks as she claims to be!

 

At the end of the day, people wants beauty, specially in this age and society.

 

Not beautiful people are treated badly and if they are really not beautiful at all, then No body would want them. ( in many cases their parents treat them badly too because of how they look!)

 

You tell her white lies, saying her personality will bring her someone

 

That someone might not be what her heart wants!

 

Maybe she wants the one!

 

Guys care for outside. It's true they will leave you if they discover your inside is ugly, but they won't even try to know her if her outside is not at all beautiful

 

 

So, she is unlucky the least.

 

But she should go back to school, even if she has to take one class at each semester. She should get tutoring, free tutoring is offered at schools.

Postpone the idea of getting a man right now and focus only about success. Then have her surgery.

Or

She should take loans from someone, go to Mexico or Brazil ( search online for a famous surgeon) have some surgeries to fix her appearance.

 

The surgery won't fix her, she'll have more work to do.

 

But she can't love herself now!

Not with that past and this present!

 

 

She needs a change and she deserves a good one

 

But she need to be patient, stronger, and she should believe she can succeed

Edited April 8, 2014 by Noproblem

[pseudosauce]

You remind me of me, except that I was chunky when I was younger, absolutely convinced that nobody had any reason to like me. I was so disconnected from reality, I only recently realized people used to bounce basketballs off my face in high school, it would invariably bend my glasses, and I would walk around like that. In fact there is a yearbook picture out there where my glasses are at a 45 degree angle across my face, I don't even know how I could actually see like that! I wasn't really looking though.

 

My awaking happened on a vacation to Massachusetts (splitting time between Las Vegas and Los Angeles can psych out the most beautiful people, it's insane how many "beautiful" people are around)

 

I was about 17, walking with my grandparents on the sidewalk near a street in some city outside of Boston. I was wearing a skirt and somebody honked at me, I immediately jumped, but I still see it clearly today, I knew to my absolute core that they were honking at me and it was in a "hey baby" sort of way. It was like the fog lifted, I stopped drinking soda and dropped 40 lbs in a month (I was drinking over 2 liters of soda a day) I lost another 40 lbs in the next five months or so. I still had a long way to go, still oblivious when I got a job a few months later, and coworkers would act interested, but I just didn't notice, once two make coworkers were talking to me and said of the third guy "you know he has a crush on you!" I was totally shocked speechless. When another coworker asked me out I said "yes" out of shock and went on a very surreal date (he was a foot shorter than me almost, and could barely speak English)

 

This was two years into my first job, nothing happens quickly, over the course of dealing with males I got more and more comfortable with it, people complimented me constantly because they took my aloofness in conjunction with success with men as confidence, and eventually it became something like it.

 

In my opinion it is absolutely vital to get a job and be out in the world, my family would say disheartening things, and my first paycheck I didn't even think my contribution to work was worth as much as I was paid (6 days of work my check was $500, haha) I felt physically small even though I am taller than most women and some men. When your experience is limited to your interaction with your family, which is typically negative as it sounds, and I'm sure they push you and put you down because you're struggling to find a job, it becomes a negative feedback loop. Don't even think about men, focus on improving yourself and the men will come.

[Buzzkill]

Hi,

I was wondering if there are other women like me. I have been called ugly a lot of times during highschool by all kinds of different boys and I once had a ****buddy who called me ugly as well. This is years ago and I haven't forgotten it, no matter how hard I try. I have been told that I look like a guy by a stranger and I agree.

I have tried, changing my hair a lot of times, experimenting with make-up and skincare, but no matter what I do I don't find myself attractive. I am slim; I am actually super scared of getting overweight because then I would be ugly AND overweight as well.

Now, this would not have been so bad if my personality was great. I mean, guys that go for looks are a bit superficial anyway, aren't they? But my personality isn't that great either. Dumb, unemployed, etc. And because of that I can't get the plastic surgery I long for.

Are there other women in my situation? I feel like such a failure, because I can't imagine why anyone would ever settle for me, it makes me nauseous to only think about it.

Thanks in advance if you reply

 

xxx

 

I've seen all kinds of ugly/obese women with boyfriends, or with hook-ups. I have even seen tall, muscular, good-looking men(all of these qualities in one guy) with a very below average girlfriend. She wasn't rich, and he wasn't blind. Your personality is what keeps men away from you, you need to work on that negative attitude and become a pleasant woman to be around.

[darkmoon]

I was never attractive but unconcerned, I just went out looking for boyfs, I was fat with big teeth, I was an Ugly Betty, but looking back I showed quite a bit of skin I think, mini-skirts and lil tops and push-up bras for fun, I do not remember being shy or nervous, I was just not bothered about my Ugly Betty looks, I did hide my face under bangs as I just wanted to enjoy life as best as I could, I hope you can borrow from my story, that's all, am 60 years old now, today I am a wrinkled Ugly Betty...look, do not waste your time/life feeling distress xx

Edited April 8, 2014 by darkmoon

[mikefromtheblock]

You know what helps me to get over all the BS excuses in my life?

 

Read the following:

 

When I think I am not good enough, not rich enough, not smart enough, not GOOD LOOKING enough, I imagine this....

 

I am in my death bed many years later and I am having my last breaths. At that point I think to myself, could I have changed my situation many many years ago and done WHATEVER IT TAKES to be happy, cherished and fulfilled? Would all the BS excuses matter for me if I knew what I know NOW? What were the chances I could have taken? Opportunities that I lost? What people I should have met? Words I should have said?

 

I think regrets are worse than death itself. People who are not afraid of death have no regrets - they have lived their dream life.

 

Think about it for a minute yourself. As lame as it sounds - You only have one life to live. One opportunity to be happy, so cherish it. Seize the moment. Do whatever it takes.

[KaliLove]

Ok, I'm super curious. Anyone else? I want to see pics!