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thecrucible

Does anyone else feel ugly being single?

 

I seem to vary between days when I feel kind of pretty and days when I feel really ugly. It would help if I had a man and then I would feel better about how I looked. I have not been in a long-term relationship for almost 3 years. I do get attention and compliments from men on nights out but it doesn't make me feel good at all 'cause men hit on everyone. I hate meeting sleazy guys.

 

I just lost 50lbs, am constantly calorie counting and obsessing over my looks. After losing weight, my boobs are smaller. I went down from a 38D (UK) to 32C. My measurements are now 32-27-38 and I weight 140lbs. I used to have good abs but I haven't trained as much for a while.

 

My ex boyfriend was really critical to me about my looks. He'd tell me he thought I was hot and then say that he hated my boobs and wished they were bigger. He said he wanted me to be thinner and all this. My self-esteem has been affected by what he said. A few years back a guy I liked rejected me because he said he wanted a girl with bigger boobs who's thinner. It makes me think that there's something wrong with my boobs because I've heard it twice now.

 

I'm not built like that - I'm built more like J Lo and it gets really upsetting for me when men say stuff like that. I feel constantly under pressure to look pretty and feel ugly a lot of the time. Online dating doesn't help because I get rejected by guys who look at least as attractive as previous boyfriends...so makes me feel even uglier and that I must not be what men want.

 

It sucks as well because I felt confident just after I lost the weight and before I met my last boyfriend...After dating him, my confidence in my looks has gone down quite a bit.

 

Basically how do I boost my self-esteem regarding my looks?

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