missjuli Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 I can only offer my perspective from the other side. I'm 27 and my parents are very upset with how I'm running my life. While 22 is still young, he is an adult. If you want to keep your relationship with your son, you need to let him live his life. That doesn't mean you need to agree with what he's doing. My advice is to express your love and concern for him calmly, pointing out that this relationship doesn't give you a good feeling and that you fear he may end up very hurt in this. Leave it at that because if every time you talk, you get emotional about what he's doing and tell him he's "wrong," he will resent you and not want to talk to you. Everyone is on their own path and learning what they will from their experiences. You can only trust that he'll learn his lessons. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 My son is digging a deep hole for himself and I am supposed to let him? I really don't get that. If he was 17, I'd say 'no', obviously. But he's 22. He's a man grown. He's four years above the legal adult age. It's time to let him make his own mistakes. You should be there to give him advice, but you can't 'forbid' him from doing anything. It's hard to let go, but the more you push the worse it's going to get. Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted July 23, 2014 Share Posted July 23, 2014 I hate her so much, I really do. They are talking about starting a family which is downright vulgar to me. I have to intervene before that happens. It's one thing to offer an opinion. But you have no right to tell an adult what they can and can not do. Link to post Share on other sites
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