she said she missed me

[maybeimtheone]

My girlfriend and i split up a few weeks ago. She is 4 years younger than me, i'm 24 she is 20, and she said that she just isn't ready to commit. We were together for over a year and we had talked about moving in together when she suddenly realized she needed to work on her goals before she can commit to someone like that

 

I was hurt but understood though I initially was suspecting something else and we agreed to remain friends and see what happens

 

i haven't talked to her much, just trying to get busy, but we made plans to grab a shake and a burger tonight.

 

she said she would be a little late because of work and school and i told her if its aproblem we could just cancel.

 

she said "no i wanna go, i miss you"

 

kind of hit me, her saying that, especially since we didn't end on great terms. we did but i said a few things i shouldn't have and maybe come off a bit clingy

 

anyway...should i take it literally what she said?

[Simon Phoenix]

Of course she misses you -- you were a big part of her life. However, "I miss you" does not equal "I want to get back together with you". In fact, it usually doesn't mean anywhere in the same ballpark. I wouldn't meet up with her personally, but you will, so I will advise you not to read into the "I miss you" stuff. It likely does not mean what you want it to mean.

[mangetout]

Agree with simon

[chados]

At some point in life we all go through a day or two when we have no clue what we actually want. She might be sad after she left you, but you need to let some time pass and let her get back to you and not the they way around. She was the one saying I don't want this anymore. There's a possibility she wants you back, but even then it doesn't mean it's her true feelings. Cause when you're back she might not want that anymore. Don't act desperate and don't make her feel that you need her to live your life. Let her ask you out the next time.