Fresh start in life by moving???

[Leegh]

Has anyone moved to a new city, perhaps for a job, etc., and decided not to keep in contact, or not much contact, with former romantic partners, difficult friends and/or family members, from their prior hometown? In other words, making a new start, hopefully making new friends, and ending toxic relationships. Do you think moving can emotionally "cleanse" a person and enable them to start anew? I have a friend who has had a lot of problems with an ex-spouse and relatives in her current city, but was offered a job about 1,000 miles away, and she is considering moving. Any thoughts on this subject?

[Jiivy]

I recently moved to a new city, after having my fiancée of 7 years truly **** me by leaving me for another man.

 

It was the best decision I made. Let me tell you why though -

 

I didn't do it to run away from her. I didn't do it to emotionally cleanse either. The level headed choice had to come from your friend and ultimately be about your friend. Do they truly want the opportunity? For themselves? Running away from their problems doesn't fix it...

 

Just ask your friend to make their decision with their ex off the table - as much as that is possible.

[mangetout]

Depends on her mindset. If she is open minded to new experiences then she would do well being in a new environment. She won't forget the ex entirely but she would be preoccupied with adjusting to her new environment. It would help her to move on faster.

 

But if she is solely trying to run away from an ex....well....he is still living in her head so she will still be battling with letting go of him despite being miles away.

 

When my marriage broke up years ago I decided to back pack around the world. Being in a different environment distracted me of my self pity in a way. Infact it opened doors and I fell inlove with someone new eventually