joel Posted February 1, 2005 Share Posted February 1, 2005 ok whose asian here b/c i am . and in our cutlure from what i hear is that guy/gal go out guy pays for everything all the time and on each date. buhhhh yea sucks anyone here asian too that has anything to say about it-yea i am cbc -chinese meaning. ok after how mahy dates or how long of nowing should u say hey gal u pitch in this time. and how should u even say it -the wording oh ya from my experience the aisan gals seem to be more cautious and less willing to go on a date with a guy they juyst met. other forums are like just go ask her out..... well i think not nowing that asian gals are just more cautious about it thats all Link to post Share on other sites
HeartSprinkles Posted February 2, 2005 Share Posted February 2, 2005 I'm not asian, but it seems silly that you say asian women are more discerning than American women, or Canadian women for that matter. Can you only date asian women? Are you particularly attracted to asian women? If not, then why bother yourself about them? Link to post Share on other sites
opaleye Posted February 2, 2005 Share Posted February 2, 2005 From what I've seen the guys do pay for everything. I work at a movie theatre and with asian couples the guy will almost always pay, sometimes the girl will order up large at the candy bar then when its time to pay she will tap her boyfriend on the shoulder and he'll get out his credit card and pay for it. Nice for the girls but it must suck to be the guy. Some of these couples seem to have been together for a longish time so maybe the guy is expected to pay forever! Link to post Share on other sites
mysticrain Posted February 3, 2005 Share Posted February 3, 2005 No not really. There are a lot of girls who pay for everything ..movie tickets..dates on restaurants..and because the guy doesnt seem to have money...most of the time it is always more gentlemanly if the guys pays everything..HHHmmmm..It depends on how they want it..There are guys who really doesnt want to have the girl spend for the dates because it makes them look inferior or unmanly..It depends on who you go out with..And yes in the Philippines it is never good to look at if the girl pays for anything at all... Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted February 3, 2005 Share Posted February 3, 2005 im asian myself, based on past experiences with dates with asian girls, i wouldnt say i payed for them. We split it. there were a few occasions where i payed full, since i was the one that asked them out that time. IM acquantances with an asian couple, and i've hung out with them a few times, they both split, i mean they are both employed, so why shouldnt they split the fee? My bro is dating a jamaican, and most of the time i've seen him pay for almost everything. of course she was raised that way and sorta expects it. joel, good observations, its true with some asian girls, but often not with the ones born here. Often they are hesitant to go on 1on1 dates until they know you better. Usually they will introduce you to their circle of friends, and you hang out with her/them, im not really absorbed into the asian culture all that much...so im not sure how things are suppose to go...but i do know hanging out like this they consider to be a "date"...but truth is i dont, maybe thats why things never worked out for me. Link to post Share on other sites
EL Posted February 11, 2005 Share Posted February 11, 2005 The belief that only men should pay is not only in asian culture! I know that my white friends and family all believe this as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author joel Posted February 11, 2005 Author Share Posted February 11, 2005 i mean its great if u have a buynch of freinds where u can hang with em and its a group date but if ur like me and u have no friends to hang with then good luck. its eiterh hey lets go out one on one or forgot about it or she brings her freinds since i have none. i understand the group dating being less pressuyre than the one on one. \\[\QUOTE]Originally posted by monkey00 im asian myself, based on past experiences with dates with asian girls, i wouldnt say i payed for them. We split it. there were a few occasions where i payed full, since i was the one that asked them out that time. IM acquantances with an asian couple, and i've hung out with them a few times, they both split, i mean they are both employed, so why shouldnt they split the fee? My bro is dating a jamaican, and most of the time i've seen him pay for almost everything. of course she was raised that way and sorta expects it. joel, good observations, its true with some asian girls, but often not with the ones born here. Often they are hesitant to go on 1on1 dates until they know you better. Usually they will introduce you to their circle of friends, and you hang out with her/them, im not really absorbed into the asian culture all that much...so im not sure how things are suppose to go...but i do know hanging out like this they consider to be a "date"...but truth is i dont, maybe thats why things never worked out for me. Link to post Share on other sites
nattfodd Posted February 12, 2005 Share Posted February 12, 2005 Find out if a girl accepts an invitation to a date with you. Then, discuss payment before the date actually occurs. The man should not have to pay for everything if he does not want to. Link to post Share on other sites
oceanlove_gx Posted February 19, 2005 Share Posted February 19, 2005 wow, Chinese culture dude, let me tell you what happens to China these years. If you still think Chinese gal as traditional as Japnese or Koreans that will be a huge mistake. In China, our goal is to find a Japan or Korean wife cuze they are really good to their husband.But in china, things are different. China has much more men than women 1.07 to 1, and as the opening of China, much more gals are proud to be married to westerners. Although it leads to a lot of problems after marriage. First of all is appearance and sex, westerner are much more handsome in face and much more stronger in body. Second of all is that westerners are richer, love needs cash. So the Chinese culture here will never be obeying husbands, let the male pay so easy, everything changes so fast, and for a Chinese husband, we have to pay much to just maitain a stable family. ~~ So, how can there be a equal true love? Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted February 19, 2005 Share Posted February 19, 2005 Originally posted by oceanlove_gx In China, our goal is to find a Japan or Korean wife cuze they are really good to their husband. I was always under impression that Chinese, Japanes and Koreans did not intermingle or get along due to history. is this true OCEANLOVE?? love needs cash. so true! Link to post Share on other sites
oceanlove_gx Posted February 21, 2005 Share Posted February 21, 2005 yup, alpha,farely true here Link to post Share on other sites
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