Targetlock Posted April 9, 2014 Share Posted April 9, 2014 (edited) Does anyone have any advice on good ideas or suggestions on how to deal with stress and worry? i seem to have hit a rut and my life feels trapped (lack of any love life at all , trying to change jobs, financial worries, very small social circle) so yeah I'm trying to change things which can be trying, but its causing me so much bother and worry that I'm concerned about my well-being and self-esteem (blame myself for these problems). Its good to get this off my chest and i imagine fellow shackers (is that the term?) have had similar experiences and can off me any advice or helpful ideas. thanks for reading and any comments. Edited April 9, 2014 by Targetlock error Link to post Share on other sites
thefooloftheyear Posted April 9, 2014 Share Posted April 9, 2014 Go to the gym and kill it.....works great...you'll sleep better, youre confidence level will elevate and you will look better as well... My best workouts are when I am stressed and/or pissed off..Maybe thats why I am so fit! TFY Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted April 10, 2014 Author Share Posted April 10, 2014 hmm, i'm a bit of a skinny awkward nerd i don't think the gym is for me, plus can be rather expensive. Link to post Share on other sites
melell Posted April 10, 2014 Share Posted April 10, 2014 hmm, i'm a bit of a skinny awkward nerd i don't think the gym is for me, plus can be rather expensive. Focusing on health is a good one, focusing on anything that makes you feel like you are doing something good will do the trick. I find cleaning and throwing things out helps me relax, and feel less suffocated. I also find going on little day trips can be refreshing. Trying to do everything in advance ie if I have things I need to do I will do them before even getting a chance to make a list-basically make it so there is nothing on my mind 'to do', it gets done too quickly. I think it is probably different for everyone- so trying to be very practical with my reply- but there are things you will find that will give you some relief. It sounds like your concerns are a mixture of wider/blanket problems, as well as little things- and I know what you mean that can lead to a pretty dim perspective/depressed feelings- but really putting energy into something that makes you feel like you are making progress will make you feel loads better Link to post Share on other sites
mea_M Posted April 11, 2014 Share Posted April 11, 2014 Does anyone have any advice on good ideas or suggestions on how to deal with stress and worry? i seem to have hit a rut and my life feels trapped (lack of any love life at all , trying to change jobs, financial worries, very small social circle) so yeah I'm trying to change things which can be trying, but its causing me so much bother and worry that I'm concerned about my well-being and self-esteem (blame myself for these problems). Its good to get this off my chest and i imagine fellow shackers (is that the term?) have had similar experiences and can off me any advice or helpful ideas. thanks for reading and any comments. It's great to get stuff like this off you're chest. Stress is like a big monster. Unfortunately to some degree we all experience it from time to time. What's helped me immensely is trying to be moment minded. Meditation taught me this. It's pretty powerful. Any form of physical exercise is good as well. Exercise helps to release those stress hormones that flood our bodies when we are at the breaking point. I suppose that's the best advice I can give you. Good luck. Mea :-) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jba10582 Posted April 11, 2014 Share Posted April 11, 2014 Meditation.... release those stress hormones that flood our bodies when we are at the breaking point. pretty good advice above... If you have a serious issue and are being chased by a hungry lion, then maybe circulating noradrenaline, adrenaline, cortisol is helpful and you can burn some fat in the short term (postives everywhere!). Find a way to RELAX and let go of small problems. YOUR heath is important and a LOT more so than a lot of other sh*t. Hopefully you have some laid back friends or family members also. High strung people can be contagious for the time being. It'll be alright! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted April 11, 2014 Author Share Posted April 11, 2014 Thanks for the comments Yeah I try and focus on my hobby stuff to de-stress, unfortunately this doesn't help solve the things I'm stressing about (my love life for example), and yes I probably do have some underlining problems as well (poor self-confidence from trying to sort out the things I'm stressing about) I am a fairly active person, I walk to work each day (around half a mile) and it is a fairly active job anyway (male care worker) and I don't really need to worry about losing fat, i have a high metabolism so I'm usually always skinny. Link to post Share on other sites
Keenly Posted April 11, 2014 Share Posted April 11, 2014 That's why I have pot ! Haha. Seriously though.. It works for me, its counterproductive to others, so basically I wouldn't recommend it if its not already your thing. But for me, it definitely makes me understand that life could be far worse, and helps remember that even if I don't have a woman, I'll always have me, and I'm forty darn awesome. That always makes me smile. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 12, 2014 Share Posted April 12, 2014 Does anyone have any advice on good ideas or suggestions on how to deal with stress and worry? i seem to have hit a rut and my life feels trapped (lack of any love life at all , trying to change jobs, financial worries, very small social circle) so yeah I'm trying to change things which can be trying, but its causing me so much bother and worry that I'm concerned about my well-being and self-esteem (blame myself for these problems). Its good to get this off my chest and i imagine fellow shackers (is that the term?) have had similar experiences and can off me any advice or helpful ideas. thanks for reading and any comments. Get a DVD on how to do mediation and also some yoga DVD's. Trust me, it'll make a huge difference in your life and the stress level will drop. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted April 12, 2014 Share Posted April 12, 2014 Thanks for the comments Yeah I try and focus on my hobby stuff to de-stress, unfortunately this doesn't help solve the things I'm stressing about (my love life for example), and yes I probably do have some underlining problems as well (poor self-confidence from trying to sort out the things I'm stressing about) I am a fairly active person, I walk to work each day (around half a mile) and it is a fairly active job anyway (male care worker) and I don't really need to worry about losing fat, i have a high metabolism so I'm usually always skinny. Maybe consider talking to a therapist? Google cognitive behaviour therapy. This is a good kind of 'talk therapy' that can help you resolve your past issues and also make you face issues that you have now in a healthier way that is more positive and does no damage to your self esteem. CBT will give you the tools to handle tough stuff in life. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Targetlock Posted April 12, 2014 Author Share Posted April 12, 2014 thanks for the suggestions. I've come to the realisation that most of my stress is caused by my job which leaving me feeling trapped and restricted, but I've known for that while and intend to change that when I can! and hopefully things will improve and new opportunities will present themselves. And Pot? no thanks, I will stick to an occasional dose of alcohol!! Link to post Share on other sites
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