So most people think one night stands are okay?

[Thomas the Red Fox]

I have seen many posts over the past few months where girls will be surprised when it didn't work out with the guys they slept with on the first date / had a one night stand with.

 

I mean.......... seriously?

 

I'll admit, I have had a one night stand or two when I was like 21, but holy damn I would never respect them. I have pondered both sides of the argument, but seriously, if you have no respect for yourself, you will get no respect.

 

 

Have dignity people, I say. That **** is all bad

[WrinkledForehead]

Morality is relative.

[Omei]

You can have lots of self respect and have a one night stand, people got needs.

 

But I agree that once you take that step with a person its safe to say you are no longer going to be viewed as relationship material to that person.

[jay1983]

I totally agree with you. I had a one night stand once that was a nightmare. I decide to make a thread about on LS and now I've got a crap load of enemies on here.

[bluegreen]

I totally agree with you. I had a one night stand once that was a nightmare. I decide to make a thread about on LS and now I've got a crap load of enemies on here.

 

 

O god Jay I been trying to forget that one you scared me for life.

But as a girl who had few really good male friends and there for pretty much excess in their thoughts and behavior I agree with poster.

 

 

Its one in 1000 chance that a guy will not be hypocrite about this ...

[jay1983]

O god Jay I been trying to forget that one you scared me for life.

But as a girl who had few really good male friends and there for pretty much excess in their thoughts and behavior I agree with poster.

 

 

Its one in 1000 chance that a guy will not be hypocrite about this ...

 

Hey I'm honest, I get on here and talk about real life situations. This is the internet where you don't have to lie or fabricate stories. You can tell the truth and go back to your normal life. I had a ONS with some crazy *****, does that not happen to regular people. It does but for some reason they won't talk about it, it's like they're afraid to be disliked by people on the internet they don't even know.

 

Did you see the posts I was responding to when I was saying those bad things about her?

 

People see the last punch, but don't see the first punch that caused the fight.

[Smthn_Like_Olivia]

It is almost hilarious to hear men that participate in one night stands to talk down on the women they had the one night stands with BECAUSE they had a one night stand. Can you even hear yourselves?? No? This how you sound...

 

"So, yea, then we both drank a pint a vodka, but I could never seriously date someone that drinks that much! Flippin alcoholic!"

[bluegreen]

Hey I'm honest, I get on here and talk about real life situations. This is the internet where you don't have to lie or fabricate stories. You can tell the truth and go back to your normal life. I had a ONS with some crazy *****, does that not happen to regular people. It does but for some reason they won't talk about it, it's like they're afraid to be disliked by people on the internet they don't even know.

 

Did you see the posts I was responding to when I was saying those bad things about her?

 

People see the last punch, but don't see the first punch that caused the fight.

 

 

 

I appreciate honest enemy much more then dishonest best buddy reasons why should be clear enough right?

But I was actually just teasing you and yeah what if someone does not or they don't like me logic : Always made my skin crawl ...

[jay1983]

It is almost hilarious to hear men that participate in one night stands to talk down on the women they had the one night stands with BECAUSE they had a one night stand. Can you even hear yourselves?? No? This how you sound...

 

"So, yea, then we both drank a pint a vodka, but I could never seriously date someone that drinks that much! Flippin alcoholic!"

 

Okay maybe your right, sorry

[ThaWholigan]

I didn't exactly have a 1 night stand, but I did have sex with a girl on the first date - and I respected her all the same. She wanted it, let me know indirectly, and it was on.

 

I wouldn't have sex with someone I don't respect. And I wouldn't immediately come to the conclusion that someone who has one night stands has no self-respect. That is only applicable if they are perpetuating this lifestyle when they themselves do not respect it or what they are doing. If they are fine with it, and are healthy of body and mind, then who am I to tell them they don't have respect for themselves?

 

So yeah, I think 1 night stands are OK.

[Grumpybutfun]

Well I sanctimoniously and righteously only procreate to replenish the earth. I came out of the womb looking for my marital partner and therefore people who engage in such shenanigans as having sex before marriage or for any other purpose than having children are terrible and should not live one more fortnight. I must attend to and seek a relationship with a woman so that I can have respectful and relationship oriented sex because I am so much better than you fools. I am not guided by my basic biological needs because I would rather be respected than pleasured. My morals dictate to me that masturbation is bad, sex is a sin and dirty and I shall not participate in either without a ring....if you want this cock you better put a ring on it.

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Edited April 10, 2014 by Grumpybutfun

[Arieswoman]

If two people want to get together purely for sex then that is their choice.

 

The issue to me is honesty.

 

Judging by the number of threads on here (from girls who had sex on the first date and never heard from the guy again) someone, somewhere isn't being totally honest with someone else.

 

Sex causes pregnancies and STDs so anyone involved in ONS needs to be responsible in that area. The problem is that a lot of ONSs occuring when people are intoxicated so caution goes out of the window.

 

I used to know a nurse that worked at a GUM clinic (Genito Urinary Medicine) at a hospital. She told me that at noon on a Sunday the queue was around the block, mainly comprised of girls (20's) wanting the Morning After Pill because they had been out on the lash on the Saturday, then woken up in a strange man's bed.

 

In UK we have a National Health Service that is paid for out of taxpayers money. Now I don't wish to be a party-pooper here, and I'm all for freedom of sexual expression etc but I resent my taxes being used to bail out silly girls, when it could be better spent on treating really sick people.

[Imported]

It is almost hilarious to hear men that participate in one night stands to talk down on the women they had the one night stands with BECAUSE they had a one night stand. Can you even hear yourselves?? No? This how you sound...

 

"So, yea, then we both drank a pint a vodka, but I could never seriously date someone that drinks that much! Flippin alcoholic!"

 

 

I don't look at it so much as a "I am too good for her", just a she is not the one for me. We had fun, that is what she was good for and I am moving on. She should do the same.

 

I usually give women I am getting to know enough rope to hang themselves with.

[carhill]

As long as the participants are consenting and otherwise uncommitted adults, if they want to have a 'one night stand' or any sort of random sexual encounter, it's really their business. I seriously doubt any woman I dated or had a relationship with was immune to at least one ONS in her lifetime, probably more. Such was part of the free love culture of my generation. I didn't form any opinions about them. I do know no woman has ever had a ONS with me. That's all I need to know.

[Do_The_Herp]

If two people want to get together purely for sex then that is their choice.

 

Sex causes pregnancies and STDs so anyone involved in ONS needs to be responsible in that area. The problem is that a lot of ONSs occuring when people are intoxicated so caution goes out of the window.

 

I used to know a nurse that worked at a GUM clinic (Genito Urinary Medicine) at a hospital. She told me that at noon on a Sunday the queue was around the block, mainly comprised of girls (20's) wanting the Morning After Pill because they had been out on the lash on the Saturday, then woken up in a strange man's bed.

 

I may NOT be the kind of person that Grumpy is taking the piss out of, but, I still wouldn't be comfortable with a ONS, mainly for practicality reasons like this.

 

I don't trust anyone that I don't know. Condoms aren't fool proof, even something like herpes can pass through skin-contact that the condom doesn't provide cover for.

 

Also, I agree with your last statement whole-heartedly. (About the tax payers' money going to waste on irresponsible young folk)

[hoping2heal]

I'm not pro - ONS, but I think it is nothing to brag about that you engage in sexual activity with women who you think have no respect for themselves but are sexing you - I mean, what does that say about you exactly?

[ExpatInItaly]

Those who engage in ONS are simply in no place to judge or demean others who do, too. Irony is grand.

[Smilecharmer]

I think anything is okay as long as it is legal, both parties are honest about what they are engaging in, they practice safe sex, and they are positive and giving in their exchange. Adults should be able to participate in adult behavior without censure from others. Don't like it, look away and don't date people who engage in ONSs. Easy peasy.

[Thegreatestthing]

it's sad as anything to read twenty posts a day on here from girls who were used by some guy and he hasn't called and she's upset,whereas boys on other forums etc just talk about the girl as if she was nothing. I don't know why they do it,the guy rarely cares for them and there left feeling really low.

[Arieswoman]

TGT,

I agree that what you say is sad but I am afaid IMO the girls have only themselves to blame for this.

 

Firstly, and I can see people getting the napalm ready as I type this - if girls dress slutty, then they won't be taken seriously.

 

If I have been out in the city centre for a meal/show etc at a w/e I have seen loads of females 18/25 ish (?) wearing clothes that leave nothing to the imagination. Skirts that look like pelmets, tops that have spagetti straps and no bras etc etc. The guys come along, ply them with drink, shoot them all the right lines and by the time the girls wake up in the morning it's too late. Surprise ? - not.

 

Men are not wired like women. Men like sex. They like egg & chips. They like going for a beer. It's just something they like to do. It is their instinct to go out and try and impregnate as many females as they can.

 

Women are programmed to have children. Sex (for most women) is associated with bonding and raising a family. They form attachments after sex and get hurt when there is no followthrough.

 

The simple answer for women? Until you are sure a man has bonded with you, and cares about you (not just your vj) don't have sex.

[Soursoupz]

I have seen many posts over the past few months where girls will be surprised when it didn't work out with the guys they slept with on the first date / had a one night stand with.

 

I mean.......... seriously?

 

I'll admit, I have had a one night stand or two when I was like 21, but holy damn I would never respect them. I have pondered both sides of the argument, but seriously, if you have no respect for yourself, you will get no respect.

 

 

Have dignity people, I say. That **** is all bad

 

 

Hmm, well that doesnt show alot of respect also.^

 

I agree with you that men often dont respect those woman.

The men is made to chase a woman and to do his best to get her.

That is just how the men is made. You can believe what ever the media tells you but the men is made this way so you and the media cant change that by saying its 2014 so let us chase men and think it will work.

 

Men dont cleave easily to a woman.

Thats why we need to let them do the chasing.

Men can have sex and move on more easy then a woman.

That doesnt make it rigth.

 

If you are easy, men will think that if you can sleep that easy with him, you can do it with whatever person.

And they dont find that special or worth fighting for or marriage material often.

 

And i think for you as a person especially as a woman its not okay for your body.

Because you are the one that can get pregnant, and you can get so much STD, and emotionally it do something with you that you may be trying to block.

Also as a men you can get STD and you can get people pregnant and create broken homes with kids with separates parents intentionally.

Emotionally i think it breaks thinks in you. Because sex is made for two people

that love each other and married, and sex is what will cleave them and make them one on many levels.

When you do share sex in another situation you are forcing something

in the wrong situation. You are making yourself being one with the person while you dont even care for them etc.

That also can make it more difficult for you to have long stable relationships.

 

Sex is the one thing that should be done at the very end.

Because it will confuse you once you start doing it while dating etc.

[Soursoupz]

Its good for us all men and female to read some books (Christian books)about how men are and how woman are generly. How they think etc.(psychology)

And how to treat one another how to date in a healthy way etc.

And also to have a plan before you even start looking for a mate.

 

Instead of just date and go with the flow, what ever happen happen.

Having a plan etc. helps you not to do whatever and find yourself in bad situations. And you will be able to say no to something because you know what you want and want to achieve.

[pickflicker]

I have seen many posts over the past few months where girls will be surprised when it didn't work out with the guys they slept with on the first date / had a one night stand with.

 

I mean.......... seriously?

 

I'll admit, I have had a one night stand or two when I was like 21, but holy damn I would never respect them. I have pondered both sides of the argument, but seriously, if you have no respect for yourself, you will get no respect.

 

 

Have dignity people, I say. That **** is all bad

 

Sweetheart if you're shagging people you have no respect for, you've got bigger problems (and less dignity) than people who have an ONS...

[BikerAccnt]

I have seen many posts over the past few months where girls will be surprised when it didn't work out with the guys they slept with on the first date / had a one night stand with.

 

I mean.......... seriously?

 

I'll admit, I have had a one night stand or two when I was like 21, but holy damn I would never respect them. I have pondered both sides of the argument, but seriously, if you have no respect for yourself, you will get no respect.

 

 

Have dignity people, I say. That **** is all bad

 

So are you saying you don't respect yourself? I mean, sounds like you've had a few one night stands yourself.

[Gaeta]

You guys are funny.

 

A ONS is just that a ONS.

 

It's not meant to date, not meant to meet Mr. or Ms Right. It's not meant to judge people either, if you think she is a slvt for doing it then you are an equal male slvt.

 

It's meant as sex for sex then good bye.

 

By the way, I had a 4 year relationship with a man I had a ONS with.