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You two are weird, you and ASG, I think y'all grew up in a different region or country, or something.

 

"you know this just a ONS and you might not hear from me again, right" :confused:

 

then

 

"oh I know, you don't have to me that, come on let's do this"

 

THAT DOESN'T HAPPEN

 

It does. It won't happen with every girl, but in your example, the girl was aware of the situation. In those cases YES IT DOES HAPPEN.

 

Now, if the girl was expecting something more... then she might not go for it. But that is not what you asked!

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nobody yet has made an argument in favour of ONS based on their own experiences, nobody yet has said that the free-wheeling ONS lifestyle is to be recommended because it feels great....

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nobody yet has made an argument in favour of ONS based on their own experiences, nobody yet has said that the free-wheeling ONS lifestyle is to be recommended because it feels great....

 

Why would anybody need to convince some one else of why they like or participate in one night stands.

If you don't like them, don't have them, rather than telling some one else how to love their lives.

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nobody yet has made an argument in favour of ONS based on their own experiences, nobody yet has said that the free-wheeling ONS lifestyle is to be recommended because it feels great....

 

I'm pretty sure I've said, time and time again, that I thoroughly enjoy my sex life and that my sex life is comprised of many ONS. Have I not?

 

But I feel no need to preach it to those who don't feel the same way.

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nobody yet has made an argument in favour of ONS based on their own experiences, nobody yet has said that the free-wheeling ONS lifestyle is to be recommended because it feels great....

 

I don't need to convince anyone to do anything. They can live their life how they choose.

 

Based on my own learning experiences, I actually am glad I have had ONS because I've learned a lot from them. They're not for everyone, and I have learned when to identify situatiosn where I should avoid them, and when I can embrace them.

 

I just think it's unfair to place a pre-determined label on me based on those choices. I know life is unfair, so I just avoid those people and don't date them or sleep with them.

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Blocking the emotional side is not healthy. Over time, it makes people dissociate their emotions from sex.

 

It's not healthy...for you.

Not everyone.

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You two are weird, you and ASG, I think y'all grew up in a different region or country, or something.

 

"you know this just a ONS and you might not hear from me again, right" :confused:

 

then

 

"oh I know, you don't have to me that, come on let's do this"

 

THAT DOESN'T HAPPEN

 

Sometimes I think I'm originally from another planet...

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People have their beliefs, so leave them to it I say. Some would call ME a heathen for my sex life, even though little experience. I let it go.

 

If people want to chastise you for your sex life when you know it works for you and are happy, let them. Keep doing you. No need to draw too much attention to it. Just stay abreast of your nature emotionally and mentally and act accordingly - that's what I do.

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You two are weird, you and ASG, I think y'all grew up in a different region or country, or something.

 

"you know this just a ONS and you might not hear from me again, right" :confused:

 

then

 

"oh I know, you don't have to me that, come on let's do this"

 

THAT DOESN'T HAPPEN

 

I thnk men should either be honest or get a hooker.

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Why would anybody need to convince some one else of why they like or participate in one night stands.

If you don't like them, don't have them, rather than telling some one else how to love their lives.

 

 

:) I just want to understand the topic fully

 

 

 

:) so you prefer the idea of promiscuity to settling down? do you intend to scr*w around indefinitely?

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Why would anybody need to convince some one else of why they like or participate in one night stands.

If you don't like them, don't have them, rather than telling some one else how to love their lives.

 

 

:) I just want to understand the topic fully

 

 

 

:) so you prefer the idea of promiscuity to settling down? do you intend to scr*w around indefinitely?

 

I know when threads get a little longer in the page count people tend to skip to the end. However, I have made my position known in this thread previously, and its one that isn't related to or involving one night stands. I'm not really capable of sex without emotion. I've learned this about myself over the years, and I've never had one.

 

 

However, I don't look down on people that do, and I'd never tell some one not to. I just believe in the freedom to make choices that myself or others disagree with.

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I thnk men should either be honest or get a hooker.

 

A lot of women aren't stupid, they know what's up, but if you put in words things change, their emotions come out. Most women I've meet are super emotional. I don't know too many women that are as logic as Gore and ASG.

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I have seen many posts over the past few months where girls will be surprised when it didn't work out with the guys they slept with on the first date / had a one night stand with.

 

I mean.......... seriously?

 

I'll admit, I have had a one night stand or two when I was like 21, but holy damn I would never respect them. I have pondered both sides of the argument, but seriously, if you have no respect for yourself, you will get no respect.

 

 

Have dignity people, I say. That **** is all bad

 

One night stands seem to be easiest to find in lounges and bars. I've come across more than several back in my 20s but only one of the women there actually thought of me as relationship material. The others didn't. :cool:

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I totally agree with you. I had a one night stand once that was a nightmare. I decide to make a thread about on LS and now I've got a crap load of enemies on here.
Yeah not sure if I even reply on your first thread but I remember it very clearly.

 

It's the fact that you wanted to post a picture of that said ''crazy, dirty girl'' to brag about as if saying ''Oh here is the trash I did it with, she's stupid, she's this and this''.

 

Yet, the one doing it with so called trash isn't better either. Same as I knew very well there are stale, outdated cookies but eat them anyways, only to critcize just the cookies. Why? I ate those cookies too. This makes me just as stale as the cookies.

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I'm not really capable of sex without emotion. .

 

Repeated sex is like that, but not with somebody I don't know. That's why FWB don't work out in my experience.

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:) I just want to understand the topic fully

 

 

 

:) so you prefer the idea of promiscuity to settling down? do you intend to scr*w around indefinitely?

 

That's not what it is. I can't speak for everybody but I personally do not commit to just anyone I like. It takes me time. Therefore I've been single for about 5 years with maybe 1 or 2 guys I dated for a few weeks in between.

 

I am personally not a bog fan of ONS and the reasons for that are my own. However, in the past few years I have kept a few FWB.

 

That being said, FWB can lead to more drama and I can understand why some people would prefer ONS over them...

 

There are enough people on here complaining on here that they're not getting sex (not by choice) I can't imagine choosing to not have sex for 5 years (and counting)...

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A lot of women aren't stupid, they know what's up, but if you put in words things change, their emotions come out. Most women I've meet are super emotional. I don't know too many women that are as logic as Gore and ASG.

 

I don't know about ASG, but I'm 33. This kind of thing comes with age.

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A lot of women aren't stupid, they know what's up, but if you put in words things change, their emotions come out. Most women I've meet are super emotional. I don't know too many women that are as logic as Gore and ASG.

 

Oh ok. Dont want to hurt someones feelings by being honest, but will hurt someones feelingswith the hump and dump. I think I get it.

 

There are plenty of men who will do more than just omit. Some will take a woman on dates, tell her how much he likes her, then run when he gets it. Others do the bait and switch and pretend they want to cuddle.

 

A lot of the problem is people not being forthright.

 

Oncs again, if you neee it that bad there are hookers, strippers, porn out there to whet a mans appetite.

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Yeah not sure if I even reply on your first thread but I remember it very clearly.

 

It's the fact that you wanted to post a picture of that said ''crazy, dirty girl'' to brag about as if saying ''Oh here is the trash I did it with, she's stupid, she's this and this''.

 

Yet, the one doing it with so called trash isn't better either. Same as I knew very well there are stale, outdated cookies but eat them anyways, only to critcize just the cookies. Why? I ate those cookies too. This makes me just as stale as the cookies.

 

Did you see the posts I was replying to when I said that?

 

Basically they were like "no way, I wouldn't have never done that" "she probably looked like the Sanford and Son lady." I got defensive, I was like "I have a pic if y'all want to see" to give the guys a better understanding of what she looked like. Then they would have been like "oh s**t, okay, I can see how this happened" Just to show them real quick, then take the pic off, not to make fun of her.

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Oh ok. Dont want to hurt someones feelings by being honest, but will hurt someones feelingswith the hump and dump. I think I get it.

 

There are plenty of men who will do more than just omit. Some will take a woman on dates, tell her how much he likes her, then run when he gets it. Others do the bait and switch and pretend they want to cuddle.

 

A lot of the problem is people not being forthright.

 

Oncs again, if you neee it that bad there are hookers, strippers, porn out there to whet a mans appetite.

 

Hey I haven't had a ton of ONS, I don't try and charm women into going home with me. So guess what, most time I go home alone and whack off, in my case she asked me, I didn't say no.

 

In my teens and early 20's when I first started driving and seeing girls regularly. I had a couple of chicks that were real cuddly, I thought there was something special. :)Next thing you know they're gone, just like that. I was hurt :(Either the emotions were fake, or they can just turn them on and off at will. So I don't get attached very easily and I sniff for clues.

 

Live and learn

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:) I just want to understand the topic fully

 

 

 

:) so you prefer the idea of promiscuity to settling down? do you intend to scr*w around indefinitely?

 

Can't speak for everyone, but for me? No. I don't prefer sleeping around at all.

 

But I also will not settle into a relationship just for the sake of being in one. And I don't fall in love easily. It takes time and effort and it's not something that happens overnight. For ME! I'm honestly always baffled when people jump from relationship to relationship. That, to me, is unthinkable! I don't judge, I just actually, honestly, do not understand how it works.

 

Anyway, I have been single for 3 years now. I have dated a couple of guys, but mostly I have maintained FWB or had ONS.

Do bear in mind, though, that when I say ONS, I don't mean going to a bar to pick up someone to have sex with. I am too afraid of complete strangers being axe murderers to do that, so the people I sleep with I usually know, either through work or through friends. Some I've known for years.

 

But I do want to find that person. Heck, I wanna get married and have kids! The whole 9 yards!

 

I just don't think I need to go without sex in the meantime!

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Hey I haven't had a ton of ONS, I don't try and charm women into going home with me. So guess what, most time I go home alone and whack off, in my case she asked me, I didn't say no.

 

In my teens and early 20's when I first started driving and seeing girls regularly. I had a couple of chicks that were real cuddly, I thought there was something special. :)Next thing you know they're gone, just like that. I was hurt :(Either the emotions were fake, or they can just turn them on and off at will. So I don't get attached very easily and I sniff for clues.

 

Live and learn

 

Maybe you didnt, but plenty of guys do. They target young girls, and say or do whatever they have to to get a piece.

 

I learned well. Most of the time a lot of men are just full of bs. They are not men of their words.

 

I dont have the problem as much now because I rarely date.

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