Is there really some truth to the women age like milk and men like wine

[dragon_fly_7]

Or does it really depend on the individual's genes and how much he/she takes care of him/herself? I have an older male cousin that's only in his early 40's and already looks like a nearly 60 year-old and he has gotten bald in his late 30's. My mother and certain female members are older than him but look younger.

 

I just recently turned 27 this month and was wondering how many men also prefer women between their late 20's and 30's instead of the 18 to early 20's girls.

 

To get an idea of what I look like, these are two pictures from only 3 days ago. I do not ever plan to have kids; have no desire for that. Though, I'm not opposed to marriage one day as long as he isn't demanding babies.

 

Here is me (off course I'm with some make-up and mascara):

 

 

Additional info: Hispanic, 5'7 and 140ish lbs.

Edited April 11, 2014 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[melell]

I don't believe this to be the case at all- I think it is definitely genes.

 

All the females on my dads side- no exaggeration- aged amazingly well. They look a good 15 years younger than the females of the same age on my mums side.

 

Mother has fair coloring, and in her 50's looks like she spent her life getting sunburned- looks of wrinkles and what not (was a very attractive woman), my sister who looks very much like my mother is around 35, and is going downhill fast too. My Dad on the other hand hardly a wrinkle in site- same with his sisters- they look great.

 

My father is 1/4 of an indigenous olive skinned culture, and all of his relations that have kept that look all look really great.

 

Based on your pics, you look great, but it is hard to say how you will age- I think your skin tone is on your side though.

 

As far as what guys like, I think that the younger females would be more physically desirable in general, but that there is a lot more that goes into overall attraction

[dragon_fly_7]

True I don't know how I'll age within the next 10 years. It would be great if there was a magic lotion that made me either not age or age only every 10-15 years.

Truth be told I'm afraid of aging and getting wrinkles at some point. I hate aging. Oh well, you can't do anything against nature and can't stop the aging process. Sucks

[tbf]

The saying is because of this. Take a look at this cover for Iron Man 3 with Robert Downy Jr and Gwynneth Paltrow.

 

http://cdn02.cdn.justjared.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/05/paltrow-ew/gwyneth-paltrow-robert-downey-jr-cover-ew-iron-giants-issue-01.jpg

 

Notice how RDJ is allowed wrinkles and skin texture where GP's face has been photoshopped smooth?

 

It's not that the genders age so differently. It's the social perception of women not being considered attractive when they show visible signs of aging.

 

As far as your picture is concerned, you're lovely.

[Eternal Sunshine]

Personally, I am happy with how I am aging but maybe ask me again in about 5 years :/

 

As for men that are obsessive about younger women, it's an instant turn off to me (and was even when I was "young") so each to their own.

 

Both genders look better young and each person ages differently with combination of genetic factors and lifestyle.

[Koopa]

sometimes milk becomes cheese and sometimes wine becomes vinegar.

[FitChick]

Your looks are more dependent on lifestyle choices than anything else. They've done twin studies to prove it. I look far better than my contemporaries and younger women because I started taking care of my body when I was a teen. Everyone laughed at me but look at them now compared to me!

 

The easiest thing everyone can do now is to wear sunscreen everyday.

Edited April 11, 2014 by FitChick

[Emilia]

I'd say aging depends on how much booze, drugs and cigarettes you abused in your 20s. The rest is genes and the extent of sun damage.

[Els]

Pretty much what tbf says - inevitable signs of aging are generally considered more 'socially acceptable' in men.

 

That being said, like all social norms/stereotypes, there are people who ascribe to them and people who don't. Don't worry about the people who do, I've attended many a wedding of an older woman. Also, part of the appeal of an older man (for the women who do like dating men decades older than themselves) is often the fact that they have accumulated some riches - not sure I envy them for that.

[Andy_K]

Another point to remember is that the attractive physical characteristics of a man tend to be different from those of a woman, and less prone to ageing.

 

For example, a guy might be attractive because of a strong jawline and big arms. A few grey hairs and less flat stomach won't change that a great deal as he gets older. A young woman on the other hand is more likely to be prized for her flawless skin, and the curves of her waist/hips/bum/boobs. The skin will be one of the first things to go as you age, and if you don't exercise regularly then those curves will start to sag pretty quickly - if you live a sedentary lifestyle the difference is clearly visible by your mid or late twenties.

 

The good news though, is that women who do work out can still have the figure of a 20 year old well into their forties. They'll easily age as well as any man, and much better than most.

[Arieswoman]

Emilia,

I'd go along with that and expand further to say that skin pigmentation and type have a lot to do with it.

 

The more pigmentation skin has, the better equipped it is to withstand sun damage. Hence negros' skins "wear better" than causcasians'.

 

When I was a teenager I suffered with greasy skin, spots and lank hair that blighted my dating years. Now I have normal skin that is pretty youthful looking. My friends of the same age who started with "normal" skin have started with quite marked lines and wrinkles.

 

So that horrible greasy phase did me a favour in the long run.

[Woggle]

It depends on how good you take care of yourself.

[thefooloftheyear]

I'd say aging depends on how much booze, drugs and cigarettes you abused in your 20s. The rest is genes and the extent of sun damage.

 

 

This.....

 

Especially cigarette smoking...

 

I dont think its that men age better than women, per se...I mean, men go bald, but women have more of a tendency for weight gain...At the end of the day its genes and maintenance..

 

My mothers side of the family is amazing...My mom and all of her sisters are all 70-90 years old..They have virtuually no grey hair or wrinkles..Also, I also buy into the darker the skin, the better they age theory...I have a lot of friends of Irish heritage....They seem not to age very well..

 

Id like to think I look pretty good for my age, but I never smoked, work out religiously and take care of myself..And even though I am dark skinned, I try to stay out of the sun for extended periods and always use a sunblock-its not good...If you have ever been to Florida, you will see 40 year olds that look like a sun dried tomato..

 

TFY

[gaius]

Hey you cut your hair since the last time I saw you.

[veggirl]

Men are allowed to have wrinkles, women aren't. Basically.

 

On the plus side for women, we don't typically have to worry about losing our hair in our 20s/30s! My first boyfriend is almost totally bald now at only 29, it's awful.

[thefooloftheyear]

Men are allowed to have wrinkles, women aren't. Basically.

 

On the plus side for women, we don't typically have to worry about losing our hair in our 20s/30s! My first boyfriend is almost totally bald now at only 29, it's awful.

 

Women are allowed to have plastic surgery...men arent.. Actually...

 

TFY

[dragon_fly_7]

Emilia,

I'd go along with that and expand further to say that skin pigmentation and type have a lot to do with it.

 

The more pigmentation skin has, the better equipped it is to withstand sun damage. Hence negros' skins "wear better" than causcasians'.

 

When I was a teenager I suffered with greasy skin, spots and lank hair that blighted my dating years. Now I have normal skin that is pretty youthful looking. My friends of the same age who started with "normal" skin have started with quite marked lines and wrinkles.

 

So that horrible greasy phase did me a favour in the long run.

My skin is like a light olive brown. I'm not too white nor have reddish face like my mother neither that brown like my father. I'm like the mixture of both.

[dragon_fly_7]

Hey you cut your hair since the last time I saw you.

Yeah I was getting tired of the long hair. Thanks for noticing it. You're quite an observer.

[dichotomy]

Women are allowed to have plastic surgery...men arent.. Actually...

 

TFY

 

well not all men.

[KungFuJoe]

No truth in this type of generalization. I know a LOT of women who still look really hot in their 30s and 40s (my wife included) and guys who look like they fell off the ugly tree once they hit their late 20s.

[dragon_fly_7]

Women are allowed to have plastic surgery...men arent.. Actually...

 

TFY

I just hope I still can keep up in my 40's without undergoing operations (definitely do not ever want to do anything regarding my boobs; I'm happy with my 36c/38a size). I don't eat too much junk food, except on special occasions or once in a blue moon. I also hate pizza or lasagne; haven't eaten that since I was little kid so that must be somewhat of a good news too.

 

I hope I can look good in my natural form without major surgeries for more years (well with the exception of dying my hair once it starts to lose it's color a bit) to go.

Edited April 11, 2014 by dragon_fly_7

[Candy_Pants]

My mother is 50 and still gorgeous. And she didn't exactly lead a pure life:).

[Ninjainpajamas]

I didn't catch your pictures but instead of being about men versus women I think it has more to do with race/skin color to be honest.

 

When it comes to men and women, I think there are different values and expectations between the sexes.

 

Men might be able to age a little more loosely in terms of expectations, "getting away" with a few wrinkles and hair loss here and there, but they also better have some kind of provider status or wealth to back it up once they get to that point...or they're not going to popular with anyone after their youth is gone. Not to mention we have no way of masking or hiding our aging, so we're stuck unless we want to plop on a toupee or inject botox, no breast augmentation for us.

 

For women the world is her oyster, she has a multitude of products, options in clothing, make-up, hair styling/extensions, to the point where by the time she's done she might not even look like the same person and if done wisely could knock off a chunk of years from her age.

 

And it's not men who perpetuate that cycle, it's women. Men don't send women to the beauty salon, ask them to paint their nails, get their hair done, spend money on that expensive make-up and clothes and everything else that comes with the package, the reality is women do that to compete with other women, you're setting the bar for each other...so I don't really know or understand why men get the blame for so much. Women indulge those kind of men with status that are aging because they enable them, they say hey, my youth is worth your money, status, power and what you can give me...so women keep the standard high in terms of beauty because they are constantly competing with each other to bag the best man or out perform the competition and critical about their own appearances more than any other man has ever demanded based on a perception of "what we want" when in reality they're constantly comparing themselves with other women not striving for the standards of men, what men? where? I've never been apart of a council of men whom decided how women should look, or dress...men are just sitting around taking it as it comes like a dog being thrown different bones and yet get blamed for the entire mess.

 

So I definitely don't think men are allowed any more freedoms, it's definitely a catch-22 but that tends to be overlooked by women trying to make it out like "woe is me, If only I get to the gym and tighten the bod I'd be good enough for a lot of men but I don't feel like doing that, I want to be accepted as I am, eating cake and icecream and on top of that deserve to have the best man that I selectively choose because I'm picky".

 

Bunch of cry-babies man! all the while men gotta be all that he can be, this well-rounded, diverse, multi-talented and successful provider who can recite poetic romantic hymns when necessary, while arm-wrestling down other men as a protector, excellent fatherly skills, oh and make sure he's a good listener, and good communicator, oh and respects your body and tells you you're beautiful everyday and that you're never fat even if you are, and of course doesn't make you feel like a sex object so he should never demand sex, oh and cooks, cleans, fixes the car...*voice fading into the abyss as it continues on and on*

 

And what do we demand! That you look decent enough, I mean is that too much to ask? *puppy dog face*

 

[thefooloftheyear]

I just hope I still can keep up in my 40's without undergoing operations (definitely do not ever want to do anything regarding my boobs; I'm happy with my 36c/38a size). I don't eat too much junk food, except on special occasions or once in a blue moon. I also hate pizza or lasagne; haven't eaten that since I was little kid so that must be somewhat of a good news too.

 

I hope I can look good in my natural form without major surgeries for more years (well with the exception of dying my hair once it starts to lose it's color a bit) to go.

 

 

Eh...Its an given that many women are going to have some work done once they hit that age...There is no taboo about it(not in the same way that a guy catches all kinds of ridicule for doing something about his hair loss)..

 

Id think if I was a woman Id probably not want to go down without swinging....

 

TFY

Edited April 13, 2014 by thefooloftheyear

[Negative Nancy]

Your looks are more dependent on lifestyle choices than anything else. They've done twin studies to prove it.

 

I've seen those twin studies and the pictures, the one about the smokers. Yes the non-smoker had slightly less visible lines, but at the age they were showing them at (70 or something), the non-smokers STILL looked old. Not smoking will not make you look like you're 20 when you're 40 or 60.

 

No one will ever look like they are 20 again, no matter what your "grrrrrrrlfriends" or some orbiters tell you.

 

We all age. The obsession is ridiculous. Would anyone wish to look like they are 11 again? No? Why not? After all, looking younger is better, isnt it?