ExpatInItaly Posted April 11, 2014 Share Posted April 11, 2014 (edited) I really need to clarify something: do you have children now? I wasn't clear if you were only fantasizing about future kids or if you actually both have kids now. If you do currently have kids: Remember that whatever irresponsible, naive and foolish decisions you make now (and yes, those are the most appropriate adjectives) are going to directly affect your children. Thrusting them so quickly into this new and unstable situation is extremely unwise and illustrates poor judgement. It isn't "raw and unconventional" - the pieces fell where they did, and look at how rotten he turned out to be. If I am mistaken and you do not yet have children (and even if you do, I suppose) think of how your lack of judgement is already affecting you. This man isn't in love you; not by a long, long shot. His words do not correspond to his actions. He's just very good at telling you what you want to hear and then having sex with different women. And now look at you - you want to win him back? That's ass-backwards, OP. It's a shame because you are likely a lovely woman who accepts disgusting treatment. EDIT: Are you using protection with this man? I really hope so, because heaven knows who else he's been parking his pecker in. Edited April 11, 2014 by ExpatInItaly Link to post Share on other sites
soccerrprp Posted April 11, 2014 Share Posted April 11, 2014 Scorpio female... In love with a very confused Taurus male. Excuse me, but you sound like a very CONFUSED and DESPERATE Scorpio female. I see no reason to get back with him, but then again, I value and respect myself and am quite aware that I deserve a good, loyal, trustworthy human-being to be in my life. You don't? Link to post Share on other sites
thecrucible Posted April 11, 2014 Share Posted April 11, 2014 Like someone else said, it can only get worse if you take him back because then he'll know he can walk all over you. Trust me. He's not the only guy out there. Another one will come along soon enough, who treats you a lot better. There are men EVERYWHERE. It's hard to let go when you really like someone but you need to be clear on where your head is at - whether you're with him for the fantasy of the situation or the reality of it. By the way I love this website - it's the best and it's helped me a lot with self-esteem and dating. Check out this post for instance: The Trouble With Lying & Cheating (Why you need to stick to a low BS diet) | Baggage Reclaim by Natalie Lue She's so inspiring. Link to post Share on other sites
KaliLove Posted April 11, 2014 Share Posted April 11, 2014 I notice that you posted the exact same thing in another section of LS and you got very similar answers to the ones you've gotten here. Honestly, I don't think anyone's going to tell you to keep trying with this guy no matter what section you post in. Cheating after a month is just weird. Despite your best efforts, I doubt you will convince anyone on LS that he is a good guy. He's just not. And I agree with the others about the astrological signs..it's nonsense. Like Simon said, a cheater is a cheater. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
FitChick Posted April 11, 2014 Share Posted April 11, 2014 (edited) He's not confused but you are. He talked about doing this and that and the future but what he did in the here and now speaks volumes. You'd prefer not to listen however. You feel he will come back to you. Yes, he will, when the other stupid women he is screwing wake up and give him the boot! Do you really want sloppy seconds? Edited April 11, 2014 by FitChick Link to post Share on other sites
Leigh 87 Posted April 13, 2014 Share Posted April 13, 2014 Hi, This man just isn't that into you. Or there are cases of men who have mental and/or emotional problems whereby they can love a woman as much as THEY are capable of loving, yet still have the ability to cheat. To put it simply; men who are emotionally health and who are capable of experiencing love to the fullest, DO NOT cheat on a women they are truly in love with. This man is either not that into you, or he has mental/psychological problems that hinder him FROM loving at all. Do you want to go after a man who isn't that into you? Do you want to chase a man who is not capable of loving a women to the fullest? Look you have issues if you fight for a man knowing this ^^^^^^^^ 2 Link to post Share on other sites
mangetout Posted April 13, 2014 Share Posted April 13, 2014 OP you need to take your rose tainted glasses off. You are in love with being in love. Remember you are in the honeymoon stage. It's NOT real. You need to think rationally. I can bet you that this man is feeding the same romantic crap to the ex. He sounds like a user Link to post Share on other sites
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