familygone Posted April 11, 2014 Share Posted April 11, 2014 Divorce was final 1/27 /14.BUT I still cant understand how she can throw away 14 years of marriage.It wasn't abusive marriage on either side,and have a great daughter together.I made some mistakes,but nothing like cheating or abusing her in anyway.Its like she changed overnight. There wasn't nothing said to me if something was wrong [REALLY]Its like she throw it in the garbage,and just to lie and cheat and the next guy is the one I just trying to understand.I just don't get what is going through her head?The cheating ,lies,deceit,and blaming me.Even after what she did I still miss being a family. Something wrong with me?? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 11, 2014 Share Posted April 11, 2014 There's nothing wrong with you. Your EX probably had her reasons, valid or not. Her reasons certainly aren't correct but they are. You have to find away to accept what happened & move forward for your own sake. Good luck. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
nohardfelines Posted April 12, 2014 Share Posted April 12, 2014 There's nothing wrong with you. Your EX probably had her reasons, valid or not. Her reasons certainly aren't correct but they are. You have to find away to accept what happened & move forward for your own sake. Good luck. Agreed. I've been trying to understand my wife for the past four months, and i'm only lately coming to the realization that there really may never be any understanding. Like you, I was not abusive, didn't cheat and was pretty amicable about the split. Also like you, I no longer recognize the person that she is. Let it go, and move forward with your daughter first and foremost in your mind. Nothing your wife does will be logical until she gets it straight in her own mind, and be prepared for that never happening. Link to post Share on other sites
Soursoupz Posted April 12, 2014 Share Posted April 12, 2014 We dont know her reason and we dont know how both of you was 24/7 towards each other. Often no body wants to take the blame. While they all know they where doing stuff. What for one is not that bad, can be something that kills the other one. But what ever the reason, now you know its over. And its hurts a while but you need to take time to cry and think and time to move on. Because this is not the end of your life. Keep being a dad for your kids and keep the contact alive. That is family that will always be yours. And start getting busy with your hobbys and friends, do stuff you always wanted to do. Socialize etc. Learn from this and move on. Link to post Share on other sites
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