All fair in love and war?

[contact1]

So as the topic says, is all really fair in love and war? (well mainly love for this forum ) I think it would be a discussion to some of the extremes people have gone for love, thing they may have done that could be seen as possibly being sneaky, unfair, what have you.

 

I'll start it off with my own story of love, with a girl I had been dating for about a year. She had broken up with me (honestly I can't remember the reason why) but I knew I didn't want to give up on her. Knowing that she would be looking at my myspace page (god who uses myspace anymore ) I pretended to have moved on quickly, setting my status to "in a relationship" and making posts of going to places and such, but never contacting her, they would just show on my page.

 

Well sure enough, as I had predicted, she was looking at my page and I get this long e-mail from her, how unfair life was and that this new "girl" would be getting the better of me she will no longer be able to have. The next day I show up to her place, we talk for a long time and I tell her I was going to end the other relationship so that we could be together again.

 

I think on this from time to time, how I essentially played with human emotions and jealousy, not to get back at her, but to win her back. And for those wondering, we are still together and not separated since than, and no, she does not know what I had done to get us back together.

[gaius]

Everyone will pretend you shouldn't do that, it isn't right to lie but at the end of the day they do it too or choose those who do it to them. It's really all about turning your partner on. Doing whatever works. Not embracing always telling the truth and being some sort of stand up person.

[SolG]

IMO the answer is 'no'. But in war there all manner of legal boundaries that define broadly what is and isn't acceptable and consequences for aberrant behaviour (not that they're all easily enforced mind); The Geneva Convention, Laws of Armed Conflict, Rules of Engagement... etc, etc. Not so in love. We have far more latitude in love to be 'unfair'. And many of us are.