String_bean Posted April 12, 2014 Share Posted April 12, 2014 I made friends with the most amazing beautiful woman, via Instagram. After some short few weeks it became obvious that we were both into each other. We talk and text and FaceTime. A lot. Six weeks after we met, I made the cross country trek from Texas you Connecticut. We spent nine days and right nights knowing and learning one another. Four weeks later, I'm visiting again. Actually found and accepted job on NYC so we can be close enough to be together. My problem is that she doesn't want to define a relationship between us. I really do. And she lives with a guy. He's safely tucked into the friend zone. But I can see he wants more. And, he likes to try to belittle or talk down to me when I am with her, something about being southern, idk. She is unwilling to be affectionate or close when he is around. I feel like this 'friend' is ruining my chance to have a real relationship with this woman. But she has known him for nine years. I have no idea how to proceed around this, and move our coupledom further. Help, anyone? Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted April 12, 2014 Share Posted April 12, 2014 Well, if you want anything to happen, that will have to happen in some place that is not her home. So the most obvious thing would be to provide chances where you can travel or for her to leave her house and go somewhere together. If she likes trekking, there might be other events you could invite her to. Then you make the most of the time you have together, without pushing things further. It must come from her somehow. She must fall in love. If that does happen, your job brought results... if it doesn't happen in a reasonable time, then there's nothing you can do and maybe you're friendzoned too. Link to post Share on other sites
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