got back with my ex... ?

[wergotproblems]

I got back with my ex yesterday. I'll keep this short

 

• Were together for 3 years
  
• Broke up for 6 months
  
• She got with another guy 2 months ago
  
• She told me today that she had sex with him a few times already
  
• She broke it off with him to be with me
  

I felt like crap knowing that she did it with another dude. So...

 

• How can I deal with this?
  
• How can I make it all better?
  

I really do love her, but I guess this new information is pretty tough on me. She also said that this guy was really good to her, so she says that I have really big shoes to fill.

[BC1980]

Who was the dumper?

 

First, off, it's messed up that she is telling you that you have big shoes to fill. Why did she leave the other guy if he was so great? I mean, of course you aren't going to feel so great if she is saying things like that. Of course, you would feel insecure. How could you not if things like that are being said?

[FortunateSon]

I got back with my ex yesterday. I'll keep this short

 

• Were together for 3 years
  
• Broke up for 6 months
  
• She got with another guy 2 months ago
  
• She told me today that she had sex with him a few times already
  
• She broke it off with him to be with me
  

I felt like crap knowing that she did it with another dude. So...

 

• How can I deal with this?
  
• How can I make it all better?
  

I really do love her, but I guess this new information is pretty tough on me. She also said that this guy was really good to her, so she says that I have really big shoes to fill.

I was in a very similar situation, it didn't end well. Honestly, it might be a good idea to reconsider this reconciliation. You may be happy initially being back together, but previous issues combined with the new issues(her GLORIFYING being with another guy) are going to likely be huge obstacles later on. She is never going to be happy and will likely find a reason to leave again, boundaries have already been crossed. Sorry to be harsh, but she tried to do better and is now settling for you, is that what you want?

[Simon Phoenix]

This sounds like it will end very badly.

[wergotproblems]

You guys are right. well she just changed her mind and said she just can't decide between the both of us. her indecisiveness is really terrible and maybe I should just move on.

[wergotproblems]

i was the dumper, but she agreed with me.

[BC1980]

You guys are right. well she just changed her mind and said she just can't decide between the both of us. her indecisiveness is really terrible and maybe I should just move on.

 

When people are confused, walk away.

[BC1980]

i was the dumper, but she agreed with me.

 

Well, she probably has trust issues with you as well. This doesn't sound good at all. The entire thing sounds like a mess to me.

[hoping2heal]

She also said that this guy was really good to her, so she says that I have really big shoes to fill.

 

 

I think I would have a more difficult time digesting this remark, than the fact of sleeping with someone else during the break up.

 

I mean, what the hell?!

 

It sounds so bratty and childish, if the other guy was soo friggin great she might as well just run back over to him then. Instead of making implied threats that you had better jump through hoops for her. Puh lease

[FortunateSon]

OP, keep in mind she could be telling you she "broke it off to be with you" to make you feel better, the other guy could be as indecisive as she is. Like others have said, if he is so great why isn't she still with him? Be prepared to be held to some unrealistic/impossible expectations.