ijustwannacry Posted February 2, 2005 Share Posted February 2, 2005 okay i need some advice...you see....i have a boyfriend...duh lol thats why im on here...and well we have been together 5 months tomorrow. I am absolutely head over heels for him...he has cheated on me twice and i have taken him back, with only a couple things missing from our relationship i need some help on how to fill in the holes or what i should do all together... well before the second time he cheated on me i didnt trust him...and he got mad or whatever...because his ex, the only other girl he ever loved wanted to be his friend so i wouldnt allow it....im sorry but he told me himself before all of this drama happened that he thinks he might still have feelings for her...and he was sexually attracted to her...well i put it off and didnt say anything until she tried getting ahold of him...well after she did, its like all he talked about was her...how she was, he would throw her in my face, he would talk to her when he was mad at me and stuff like that...well one afternoon we got into a REALLY big fight about it...im sorry but for someone who had cheated on me i think he atleast owes me this one thing...i want his ex outta our life...so anyways, we got into a big fight and we made an agreement that we still have more to talk about but i was going to let him go to the park with justin and matt his friends and i was going to go take pics with shelly...well we did just that...when i got back i found out that he had cheated on me once again with a lot younger girl...i was really upset but i took him back...well then the next night we went out to eat with his mom and wound up fighting again because kala his ex had called and he LIED and told me it was justin. i was like okay, and of course i got upset not only did he lie but his ex was calling him...so we wound up fighting most of that night, when he got home he unblocked her off of msn and talked to her for hours and i cried in his bathroom, well about 3ish we made up but then he just did the same thing the next day...sunday he swore he wouldnt talk to her anymore, but then he argued with me that night about how he wants to talk to her on xanga...i was like errrrr... i just dont get it...what should i do? Link to post Share on other sites
Rasella Posted February 2, 2005 Share Posted February 2, 2005 Sweetie, you deserve a partner who is respectful of you as a woman, a girlfriend, and most importantly, a human being. I know it's hard to make logical decisions when the heart is in play, but let this one go! He isn't hiding the fact that he's into this other girl. He's basically letting you know. Leave him and work on yourself. You deserve a guy who will treat you well and respect you. I know it will hurt to leave him, but trust me, this will save you from some major heartache down the line. You are hurt now, imagine if you stayed in this and it keeps happening. It's going to hurt more and more. Spare yourself some heartache and tell him, "Ciao, baby!" Link to post Share on other sites
emopunk Posted February 2, 2005 Share Posted February 2, 2005 Yep, that about sums it up. Twice in 5 months and he still talk to her? I think my view of exes is obvious to anyone who has read my posts on that matter... they're trouble for everyone. I also think that how they should be dealt with apparent... complete and total removal of the problem. That really is the only answer. It hurts now... and you may hate us for saying it (I know I'd be pissed,) but it is the only answer... he either changes everything about this situation because of how he feels about you, or you walk. There really is no other option that is fair to you. Link to post Share on other sites
bluechocolate Posted February 2, 2005 Share Posted February 2, 2005 Gather up some self-respect & dump this guy. Link to post Share on other sites
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