Bloombergs Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 (edited) Background INFO: I'm in a LDR with a guy who is in his early 30's. He still lives with his parents, I'm in my late 20's. We met online last year. I'm going to try to keep this short and simple, so bear with me! Because I know is no fun to read long walls of text... here I go! I met my boyfriend in person 3 months ago or so. When I was there I noticed he spent a lot time watching TV with his parents downstairs. I didn't mind it too much back then. I also noticed when he did something he really liked he completely forgot about me. Well, now I'm back home I notice we barely communicate... we text everyday, but we don't really have a good communication anymore. He was so different before we met in person... he used to pay more attention to me and now when we are both online he is either making music or watching videos. He barely talks! We sometimes Skype, but it happens once or twice a week. By the way, he did this a bit before meeting me in person, but he didn't over do it like he is doing it now. He says he loves me a lot and wants to be with me, but his actions show the opposite (in my opinion). He talks about a future together as well. I feel so confused and tired of telling him how I feel (I've done it before, he changes for a bit but then goes back to the same). I told him I don't mind he has hobbies, but he is over doing it! I feel so neglected! Sometimes I really wonder if I'm being unfair... I've already told him I feel he is taking me for granted. I don't know what to think sometimes... I have told him how I feel, but he makes me feel guilty somehow. Am I overreacting? After all I got used to him being so affectionate and caring about my needs, now all he seems to care about is his music. If he likes to spend that much time on his own... what's the point of having a girlfriend? His past relationships didn't last either, not longer than half a year. Am I overreacting? What should I do? Thanks in advance. Edited April 15, 2014 by Bloombergs Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 What should I do? Make yourself less available. Be more vague about what you do, where you go to, etc. Then see what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bloombergs Posted April 15, 2014 Author Share Posted April 15, 2014 Thing is I already tried doing that, but after some days he starts behaving the same way. It's so frustrating sometimes. Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 Thing is I already tried doing that, but after some days he starts behaving the same way. It's so frustrating sometimes. Is he just pulling a fade out? Was thinking maybe he's just grown too comfortable, but usually a guy will react if he thinks maybe his rs is in jeopardy and the fact that he just meets your actions with the same..doesn't look too promising. Whatever the reason, no I don't think you're overreacting at all to want to be prioritized by your boyfriend some of the time and feel like he's communicating with you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Viking-Liz Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 Definately not overreacting. Are you willing to give him the ultimatum of more you and less that? It`s not worth spending time in an unhappy relationship "just because"... Especially not a LDR. Link to post Share on other sites
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