David87 Posted April 16, 2014 Share Posted April 16, 2014 OP go with your gut on this one. If you consider meeting her then ask first what's it about... Tara I think you were a little to hard on Marta, she just gave her opinion, may be his ex wants him back, no one knows. OP my advice is NC but It's up to you what you'll do... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted April 16, 2014 Share Posted April 16, 2014 That wasn't 'hard'.... I've been 'harder'. As several Infractions and 2 moderators will confirm.... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
David87 Posted April 16, 2014 Share Posted April 16, 2014 That wasn't 'hard'.... I've been 'harder'. As several Infractions and 2 moderators will confirm.... Yeah I know but still:) she's new and I think that we have to make her feel good among us This is just my personal opinion. Link to post Share on other sites
Darren Steez Posted April 16, 2014 Share Posted April 16, 2014 I'm so torn on what to do. Yes I still love her but I've been through enough heart ache and don't wanna get hurt again if this is just some bs. I don't know, just don't know. Yeah buddy, don't meet her and for the love of god please don't text her, you be looking at your phone every two minutes waiting for her reply and if she doesn't reply that's you f*cked up all over again. She already messed you up once, this is about power and feeling wanted, dude I understand totally, ish is hard but why put yourself in that position again? If she did want you, she would have been breaking doors down to get with you, no? Isn't that what you would do? There's that imbalance, and imbalance ain't good my friend. Heck it's even worse if you think she dumped you so she can go and bang another dude, and you'd want her back? You want to be plan B? You want to know that the next time she feels she wants the freedom to be with someone else she can dump you all over again? Don't do it. You might not think it but you're on a good path to healing, it might suck and it might be hard but down the road it will be so worth it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted April 16, 2014 Share Posted April 16, 2014 Yeah I know but still:) she's new and I think that we have to make her feel good among us This is just my personal opinion. This isn't kindergarten. She's an adult, I'm sure she can handle Tara's advice. Tara thought her advice was naive and something out of a romantic comedy and called her out about it. No biggie. Link to post Share on other sites
martaldn Posted April 16, 2014 Share Posted April 16, 2014 (edited) This isn't kindergarten. She's an adult, I'm sure she can handle Tara's advice. Tara thought her advice was naive and something out of a romantic comedy and called her out about it. No biggie. There wasnt any need for u to step in the conversation though And u didn't need to judge my advice as naive or out of a romantic comedy As u see I'm adult enough to handle your advise too Edited April 16, 2014 by martaldn 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted April 16, 2014 Share Posted April 16, 2014 There wasnt any need for u to step in the conversation though And u didn't need to judge my advice as naive or out of a romantic comedy As u see I'm adult enough to handle your advise too See, this one has some sass to her. She'll be fine. Link to post Share on other sites
martaldn Posted April 16, 2014 Share Posted April 16, 2014 See, this one has some sass to her. She'll be fine. Course I will Now we should stop the off topic.. Link to post Share on other sites
Author surf123 Posted April 17, 2014 Author Share Posted April 17, 2014 Ha Ha you guys and gals thanks for the advice although some a bit off topic lol. I still haven't text her back or emailed her. Its been two days since she contacted me to meet with her and I've just been thinking things over. I'm thinking if she contacts me again I will ask her want she wants to talk about. I'll keep you posted. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
David87 Posted April 17, 2014 Share Posted April 17, 2014 Yes ask her, if she says she wants to talk about getting back together and that she made a mistake ten go meet with her, if not..... well, ignore her and start NC again. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted April 17, 2014 Share Posted April 17, 2014 Ha Ha you guys and gals thanks for the advice although some a bit off topic lol. I still haven't text her back or emailed her. Its been two days since she contacted me to meet with her and I've just been thinking things over. I'm thinking if she contacts me again I will ask her want she wants to talk about. I'll keep you posted. Make it monosyllabic... "So, you wanna meet?" "Why?" "Because I want to talk to you..." "About....?" "Well....us...." "Why?" Make her work for this. Because whatever happens, remember the Guide: SHE has to do the work. If she wants to reconcile, it's going to be HER job to repair everything, and prove to you that she won't flake. Don't give an inch. If she really wants this badly enough - she will crawl over molten glass to be with you. (Trust me, that smarts..... ) 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author surf123 Posted April 17, 2014 Author Share Posted April 17, 2014 Text her today around lunch time asking her why she wanted to meet with me? Still no response. BS! Not surprised. Link to post Share on other sites
Author surf123 Posted April 18, 2014 Author Share Posted April 18, 2014 I sent her one last message saying that I would take the fact that she didn't respond as a indication that she did not want to see me after all. I then proceeded to text her to please not contact me again, and that was that. All I have to say is what a cold heart-less cunt to contact me acting as if she wants to give our relationship another chance and then say nothing. Clearly she just wants to mess with my head. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted April 18, 2014 Share Posted April 18, 2014 Good. Fine. Now block her on your phone in every and all ways you can. delete her number, take down your FB account, block her texts; do everything you can to absolutely ensure she can never, ever get to you again, because if she really wants to - she will find a way. If she really wants to, she would crawl over hot burning glass to be with you. Link to post Share on other sites
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