barbie24 Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 Hello, i had a summer fling with a guy from another country , well it was more than just a fling, it was something very special. He went back to his country, and we are supposed to reunite in a few months. The first days we were apart he was really missing me but lately i feel he is becoming distant (even though he still says good stuff to me like he wants to see me etc). Right now he is visiting some of his friends near his hometown and i dont know if that is what is keeping him distracted and distant. But i dont know how to react because i cannot ask him because i dont want him to freak out, i want to give him freedom and i would want him to want to be closer as the first days. What do you think is happening with him? is he distant because he is very busy with his longtime friends that he hasnt seen for a huge while, or what? I know we werent a couple but what we had was very intense for both of us and we have plans to meet sooner than later. how can i keep him interested without being annoying? Link to post Share on other sites
TMichaels Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 Hello, i had a summer fling with a guy from another country , well it was more than just a fling, it was something very special. It was special *to you.* His behavior doesn't indicate it was all that special to him. I know we werent a couple but what we had was very intense for both of us and we have plans to meet sooner than later. how can i keep him interested without being annoying? Don't be the one who's doing all the planning and fretting. Back off and make him work for it. He needs to decide whether you're worth it. If you are, he'll be the pursurer instead of the pursued. Best, TMichaels 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 You characterized it as a fling, then contradicted yourself saying it was more, it was special. Flings, by definition end, usually because the people don't want to deal with the distance. That could be what's happening here. You may be the girl from last summer, somebody he's happy to be with when it's convenient but not somebody who he will put effort into maintaining contact when life gets in the way. You need to talk to him & clarify your status while apart & what your expectations are. If they aren't the same, this may be over before it began. Link to post Share on other sites
justwhoiam Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 Hello, i had a summer fling with a guy from another country ... What do you think is happening with him? Have you ever seen the movie Grease? Or the musical? The story is the same. Link to post Share on other sites
Tressugar Posted April 15, 2014 Share Posted April 15, 2014 Summer flings are just that-summer flings. They aren't meant to continue any longer than that particular season. Ahh...(sigh) enjoy while it last. They are always memorable and sweet. Link to post Share on other sites
Author barbie24 Posted April 15, 2014 Author Share Posted April 15, 2014 and how i'm i supposed to make him work?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author barbie24 Posted April 15, 2014 Author Share Posted April 15, 2014 (edited) of course it was special for both.. you just speak because you dont know the deal. Dont be mean by saying things just to say. it was special period. HE STILL is very nice with me and looking forward to see me, we have a LOT of plans together in a few months, BUT he is a bit distant this days. i dont know if he is like a little bit distant because he is visiting his friends which he hasnt seen for ages, and he also knows we are going to see each other in a few months.. SO, maybe he is like very sure about me?? i dont know how to make him work for me? You are right.. the only way is backing off, i though about it, im doing it. Edited April 15, 2014 by barbie24 Link to post Share on other sites
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