Author born Posted April 18, 2014 Author Share Posted April 18, 2014 When she returned in england on february we were skyping for a week. one night she called me and i opened my camera and then she told me she isnt alone but with another dude... i couldnt believe this .. i say are you serious ... then she was standing there sad saying he is only my friend ... i can keep my camera on for you to see we are not doing anything... he just brought me home cause i passed away for smoking weed... whatever when he left she said that he asked her if i was her ex from greece and he asked if we are together and she said i think we are... Link to post Share on other sites
Author born Posted April 19, 2014 Author Share Posted April 19, 2014 But will i ever see her again ... isnt it weird a person you loved so much no is not a part of your life anymore Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted April 19, 2014 Share Posted April 19, 2014 Dude, this wasn't your fault. The fact that this dude had to ask her if she was dating you or an Ex already tells you that she wasn't telling anyone that she had someone waiting at home. You didn't matter enough for her to tell people about you. That's where you stood with her. And when she told him "I think we are" was probably said with a lot of disappointment in her voice. You asked if you'll ever see her again. Probably. But, right now, you need to focus on NC and heal from this. The goal is to get you indifferent about her so that if that day does come, you won't give a damn if you see her or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Author born Posted April 20, 2014 Author Share Posted April 20, 2014 Guys i cant im having a hard time keeping with nc Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted April 20, 2014 Share Posted April 20, 2014 Guys i cant im having a hard time keeping with nc It's supposed to be hard. Most things worth doing are. It sucks, but if you keep with it, you'll see progress. You just have to keep patient and stop caving. Link to post Share on other sites
Author born Posted April 21, 2014 Author Share Posted April 21, 2014 Guys im reading this thread again and again to make sure i have made the right desicion.... i feel crap right now but sending me pictures of guys saying she was sending them to all her contacts was just too much ... Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 Guys im reading this thread again and again to make sure i have made the right desicion.... i feel crap right now but sending me pictures of guys saying she was sending them to all her contacts was just too much ... Of course you feel like crap. No contact feels like crap. Why? It's because it is severing that attachment to her. It's like coming off a drug. The withdrawals are bad and it'll make you feel like it would be far better to go back to what you once knew because at least while it sucked, it didn't suck this bad. But the good news is that it is temporary. This feeling like you're falling in a hole isn't always going to be this way. BUT being in contact with that woman will always make you feel bad. Four pages of advice with everyone telling you to cut her out -- we all can't be wrong. It's hard for you to see because you are emotional. Deep down you have to know this is the only way. NC is hard OP. We've all done it. It's gut-wrenching. But it works in the end. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 Guys im reading this thread again and again to make sure i have made the right desicion.... i feel crap right now but sending me pictures of guys saying she was sending them to all her contacts was just too much ... Then that would have been your motivation not to contact her. You're right, her stating that it went out to all of her contacts is STILL a kick in the balls because she knows damn well that you were in her contacts list. NC is hard at first. Not gonna lie. Weekends tend to be the hardest. But, just get through the day and I promise it does get better. Link to post Share on other sites
Author born Posted April 21, 2014 Author Share Posted April 21, 2014 Funny thing is she still wears a necklace i've bought her and last time we spoke she said sometimes she is worried that she had lost it and she is checking to see if she is still wearing it... total bull**** Link to post Share on other sites
KaliLove Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 I'm wearing a necklace my ex gave me a few years ago but it's only because it goes with my outfit..not because it means anything to me. I would not keep the promise ring he gave me..I gave that back to him even though he tried numerous times to get me to take it. That one has meaning. Sometimes a necklace is just a necklace though. Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 Funny thing is she still wears a necklace i've bought her and last time we spoke she said sometimes she is worried that she had lost it and she is checking to see if she is still wearing it... total bull**** I wore sunglasses my ex bought me for over a year after our break because they were nice sunglasses that looked good on me, not because it was some reminder of her. I'd keep wearing them to this day if I hadn't lost them at a wedding last summer. My ex's Facebook picture is of her on a day trip we took almost two years ago (I'm not in the picture) but it doesn't mean a thing. My sunglasses were just sunglasses, and the picture was just a picture she liked. You really need to stop reading into things and stay in NC. This girl is extremely disrespectful to you, and you need to figure out how to get your self-respect and self-esteem back. Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted April 21, 2014 Share Posted April 21, 2014 OP, you keep going through everything with a fine tooth comb. When you start with these thoughts, try to stop them. It doesn't do you any good to keep regurgitating about the time she did that, the time she said that, the time she wore that, the time she felt that, etc. When those thoughts come to your head, try to re-route to something else. Link to post Share on other sites
Author born Posted April 22, 2014 Author Share Posted April 22, 2014 Im much better now... i hope i will continue this ... there are times that i cant help it ... i was thinking texting her happy easter but thank god i have learned from previous mistakes ...even if she ever wanted to be with me again she needs to do some growing apologise for everything etc but ok in a way i understand that she is 19 and cant settle with a guy in a ldr but she shouldnt treat me like that. Ive treated her like gold and thats how i will treat the women i will be with . I dont deserve to be treated like trash ... i could easily flirt with girls while we were together before she left for england to have my back ups just in case but really i couldnt do that to someone i loved ... Link to post Share on other sites
Author born Posted April 22, 2014 Author Share Posted April 22, 2014 Just to mention that she has slept with 3 guys in 4 months Link to post Share on other sites
Trapito Posted April 22, 2014 Share Posted April 22, 2014 Just keep doing what you are doing, do NOT contact her. You are doing great (even if it doesn't feel so right now). You WILL heal, you WILL feel better, it just takes time. Time away from her. If you are feeling low, post here. We will be here for you. ((Hugs)) Link to post Share on other sites
Author born Posted June 1, 2014 Author Share Posted June 1, 2014 Guys this has nothing to do with my ex .. i was pursuing another girl for 3 weeks now and although she liked me the first time according to a friend she said she liked me but i had a depressing look in my eyes... whatever the second time that we went out in a group of friends i wasnt depressed and i did my best to look good. Dont know if she didnt like the new shorter haircut that i got because it was the first thing she mentioned when she show me... anyway that feeling of rejection hurt the same way my ex hurt me when she dumped me ... i mean seriously why is life so unfair ... i did nothing wrong was the best boyfriend and still got dumped ... now im getting rejected again ... and when i finaly will find a girl i kinda like and get a relationship with her i will propably get dumped again ... seriously it sucks being a man those days... and dont say things like it doesnt matter cause im just tired of the dating scene ... doing your best and getting rejected... its just so ****ing hard to find a decent woman especialy young ones Link to post Share on other sites
Author born Posted June 25, 2014 Author Share Posted June 25, 2014 Guys my ex came here for summer... we had sex and all but it felt so wrong without the i love you and her ignoring me on purpose... i just took back the dslr camera i had bought 2 years ago... i know she loved it but i was so deeply hurt by all the thing she has done... i asked her to buy me a 2-3 euro souvenir while she was in paris and she told me she didn't have the money ... i'm so badly hurt right now ... i knew that taking back a present wouldn't make me feel better but it was just for her ****ty thing she did to me... she even asked me sorry after a week and that she is disgusted by her actions and all the pain she put me through... Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted June 25, 2014 Share Posted June 25, 2014 I guess you'll have to learn the hard way. Advice falls on deaf ears. Only you can help yourself at this point. Until you decide to do that for yourself nothing anyone can say can help you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author born Posted June 25, 2014 Author Share Posted June 25, 2014 I just ...i don't know ... i was in so much pain for 10 months that last time i saw her a few days ago she said it was over... she said she has done so much for me and i went nuts...i just can't believe how she could have said that when all she had done for me is to emotionally abuse me ...i called her a name and now i feel bad for myself... i feel bad that i took back a present that i gave her with best intentions ... i never thought it was going to end this way but she was so bad to me... i just couldn't take it any more ... Link to post Share on other sites
Author born Posted June 26, 2014 Author Share Posted June 26, 2014 And the sad truth was that you were all right... i really dont understand whats wrong with me ... after all this emotional abuse she put me through i still hope we can be together in future... my head says no that she isnt worth it but my heart wanted to end on good terms and start healing via nc but keep reconciliation door open ...while we were talking i said to her i know why you want us to be fwb...its because you dont want to loose me completly so if you dont find something better you will come back to me and she said in some way yes... Link to post Share on other sites
Smarty Pants Posted June 26, 2014 Share Posted June 26, 2014 Then stop. Stop talking to her. Stop hooking up with her. Your way clearly isn't working. Time to try something else. Link to post Share on other sites
Author born Posted June 26, 2014 Author Share Posted June 26, 2014 She aint talking to me now so i just have to move forward Link to post Share on other sites
Author born Posted June 26, 2014 Author Share Posted June 26, 2014 Can anyone reply? Link to post Share on other sites
David87 Posted June 26, 2014 Share Posted June 26, 2014 About what? MOVE ON its over. Focus on you...... Link to post Share on other sites
Zahara Posted June 26, 2014 Share Posted June 26, 2014 Can anyone reply? Reply to what, Born? Enough already. It's over. It's done. Get back to NC and start healing. Feel the pain. Just go through it once and for all. You've done it your way for 6 months now and all you have to show for is pain and hurt. Nothing has changed. NOTHING. Try something different for one. You move forward because you are sick and tired of this shytt. Not because she's not talking to you. I really want to slap a backbone on you because this is just insanity. Link to post Share on other sites
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