changirl3 Posted April 16, 2014 Share Posted April 16, 2014 (edited) My ex boyfriend and I broke up mutually more than a month ago. I was doing okay, we've met up twice and ended up making out each time (he would start it, by kissing me). Even though he is still attracted to me, for more than a month, he has shut me out of his life, blocked me from facebook and just replies to me through email. I am feeling so down all of a sudden, because I know he is just being his social self and meeting all these new friends, while I'm still an indoor person. I am feeling so miserable and panicky because we went from spending so many hours together to nothing. We're strangers. I've done well recently, met up with close friends, went out more, and talked to family...But on nights like these I just want to break down and cry. I want to believe in the light at the end of the tunnel, but I feel like I have made mistakes, should've been a more patient and outgoing girlfriend...but now that he's cut me out of his life, I feel like I'm just a boring person who shouldn't exist...If I wasn't valuable enough in his life, I don't feel valuable myself. I haven't eaten properly or enjoyed food this whole time, and I feel like I'm in a waking nightmare of regret. I also get very jealous and anxious at the thought of him dating another girl. I'm currently dating someone new, someone much sweeter than my ex, but I keep comparing him to my ex. As superficial as this seems, I really miss my ex physically as well as his company. He was a really attractive guy. Any advice on how to change my mindset? :'( Thank you so much. Edited April 16, 2014 by changirl3 Link to post Share on other sites
Breadimus Posted April 16, 2014 Share Posted April 16, 2014 Hello Friend, I am so sorry that you feel this pain, believe me I know what is like. I also know what is feels to be an introvert partnered with an extrovert, how ever for me I use to have an undying belief in myself and I am a very charming person, so I have been told. You I think also have this, which is why your ex fell in love with you. You need to take some time away from him and the other man to truly settle with yourself and make yourself whole again. It is hard when you are introverted to get that go get them attitude back, but once it is done we do not need the validation of others. Stop talking to the man who left you, it was his right to do so, it is now your right to be whole again. Cry and grieve and feel all the pain until it is gone and you are ready to fully give to another. It will take time but once done you will be wise. Link to post Share on other sites
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