Author janedoe67 Posted April 22, 2014 Author Share Posted April 22, 2014 Considering the earthly consequence for many sins was death in the early days of the bible, I'd say, as a society, we've possibly become more tolerant and forgiving of certain sins . OP, hope you can find tolerance in your heart for others you think are holding on to grudges. Your hubby may have forgiven, but it doesn't mean others are wrong for taking time to build trust again. They don't have a relationship with you like your husband does. You messed up, and it's just going to take time to rebuild bonds. Forcing the issue (i.e. forcing someone to be over it already) doesn't seem, well...the best way to go about it. Just give it time. You're right. They don't know me. They have never even met me. I am not angry with them. I understand that their...motives come from a place of pain and bitterness that has nothing to do with me. However, I confess without remorse that the protection of my children, one of whom is very fragile, is of paramount importance to me. I will protect them at any cost. I only hope I do not have to do so. Link to post Share on other sites
M30USA Posted April 22, 2014 Share Posted April 22, 2014 (edited) You're right. They don't know me. They have never even met me. I am not angry with them. I understand that their...motives come from a place of pain and bitterness that has nothing to do with me. However, I confess without remorse that the protection of my children, one of whom is very fragile, is of paramount importance to me. I will protect them at any cost. I only hope I do not have to do so. What would you do in a situation where you were forced to choose between your children and the Lord? Abraham was put in this situation. And even though the modern church would consider what he did to be a terrible evil, did you know he chose the Lord? It is for this very reason that, today, you and I know his name. (See Genesis 22:1-15.) Edited April 22, 2014 by M30USA Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted April 22, 2014 Share Posted April 22, 2014 You've gotten really great input! As far as your friends or acquaintances who won't forgive you, even after your husband has? I know it's frustrating! If you can, see them as a blessing in disguise in some ways. The pain they are now causing you is a repeated reminder not to engage in the same mistake again. Second, we're all human and none of us is perfect. We all fail our friends in some way even when in our hearts we feel that what we're doing is right. It's hard when you're on the receiving side of the injustice as you are right now. I try to not to view my friends' or others' shortcomings too harshly or to take it personally. For the most part, they are well-meaning people simply trying to do the best they know how based on where they are in their journey. Remember God and your husband forgave you your debt. Allow yourself to forgive what you perceive as theirs. That's what is expected us. (Matthew 18:33) I hope you find peace in your interactions with them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pie2 Posted April 22, 2014 Share Posted April 22, 2014 You're right. They don't know me. They have never even met me. I am not angry with them. I understand that their...motives come from a place of pain and bitterness that has nothing to do with me. However, I confess without remorse that the protection of my children, one of whom is very fragile, is of paramount importance to me. I will protect them at any cost. I only hope I do not have to do so. I'm a little confused then. Why do you have to fervently protect your children from people you've never even met? What do you mean "protect them at any cost"? Your words have a very ominous tone! ~eek~ Have you felt you're in danger? Because that's a whole different discussion. But if you're talking about feeling ostracized, well, that might have to do with whatever's happened in the past... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
pureinheart Posted April 22, 2014 Share Posted April 22, 2014 Amen! One of my favorite parables of Jesus: And Jesus answering said to him, “Simon, I have something to say to you.” And he answered, “Say it, Teacher.”“A certain moneylender had two debtors. One owed five hundred denarii, and the other fifty. When they could not pay, he cancelled the debt of both. Now which of them will love him more?” Simon answered, “The one, I suppose, for whom he cancelled the larger debt.” And he said to him, “You have judged rightly.”...Therefore I tell you, her sins, which are many, are forgiven—for she loved much. But he who is forgiven little, loves little.” Oh wow dude…completely powerful! The last sentence shot right into my heart. I love it when God does this. After just watching "The Bible" series again tonight, I noticed that emphasis was put on Peter's ability to "see". He was very much in tune with Jesus and what was going on. Then God leads me to JD's thread…and you know what the really trippy things is? God had me read what you have bolded as "he who forgives little, loves little"…God then took me through some revelation on a personal level, that if I forgive more, and really forgive, I will then understand what love really is. Too cool TFW! Thank you! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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