My birthday passed a few days ago...

[lauri]

As an update - last night I came home around 11:30 pm and my ex was sitting outside of my house. She had texted me saying she wants to talk and she is in my area. I didn't respond - but considering I pulled up my driveway and saw her I didn't know what to do. She opened up by saying she saw me at the mall and couldn't get me out of her mind - she thinks about me everyday and is in pain knowing what she did to me because I didn't deserve it.

 

First, I told her that I'm going to sleep and there is nothing to talk about - she broke down crying and started to tell me she made a mistake, she regrets it everyday, she is sorry for what she did to me because I didn't deserve it. She blocked my way to my door and continued to say "let her have a chance to explain because I never did give her the chance". She went onto say that she constantly messages me but I ignore her, as she put it, she was "testing" the water to see if would even respond. She said she misses having me, never felt as comfortable with any guy other than me and all these other guys mean nothing to her.

 

She continued to go on about how I almost became her husband she wanted to know if I was over her, if there was a chance to get back together and if I will ever forgive her for her mistakes. I told her I am over her and I've moved on. She even would cut me off sometimes while I was talking saying I look good and would try to flirt. I didn't bite, ignored it and kept a cold face (even though inside I was turning like crazy). She wanted to end it, start as friends again and rebuild her interest in me. She wanted to just eliminate the pressure - she told me that what she did was crazy but the pressure she was feeling made her feel trapped and she had to get out of it. She went on to say that is no excuse for what she did and she can't take it back, although she wishes she could.

 

She admitted she was wrong to let me come home for her and that she started to lose interest in me 3 months before coming home, felt so much pressure from her parents and didn't understand why she did lose interest and wish she didn't. I told her straight up I didn't care she didn't want to be with me but it doesn't take away from her actions. She told me shes been waiting around for me for 9 months, hurting every single day and not able to get over what happened. She told me she's told all of her friends what happened, her family and they all tell her she is wrong, and she said she knows she was wrong and takes full responsibility.

 

Luckily because I honestly kept NC and rebuilt my strength, I was able to with stand this and hold my ground. I told her that I can't believe how selfish she is and how she thinks she is entitled to be in my life. She doesn't deserve to talk to me and she doesn't deserve me. She kept asking if there was any chance of us getting back together - I told her I don't think so and that I don't even know who she is anymore. I know I freaked out when I saw her in the mall, but now that I was force to face my demons I am actually feeling okay.

 

I don't trust her and I don't think she wants to be with me - I think she is just testing me to see if she can still have me. When I finally listened to her, I said I'm going to bed, wished her well and went closed my door. She told me regardless of my decision, if I talk to her ever again or not, she just said she truly cares about me, thinks about me every day and just couldn't live going on knowing she didn't try to make things right.

[movingonnow1]

As an update - last night I came home around 11:30 pm and my ex was sitting outside of my house. She had texted me saying she wants to talk and she is in my area. I didn't respond - but considering I pulled up my driveway and saw her I didn't know what to do. She opened up by saying she saw me at the mall and couldn't get me out of her mind - she thinks about me everyday and is in pain knowing what she did to me because I didn't deserve it.

 

First, I told her that I'm going to sleep and there is nothing to talk about - she broke down crying and started to tell me she made a mistake, she regrets it everyday, she is sorry for what she did to me because I didn't deserve it. She blocked my way to my door and continued to say "let her have a chance to explain because I never did give her the chance". She went onto say that she constantly messages me but I ignore her, as she put it, she was "testing" the water to see if would even respond. She said she misses having me, never felt as comfortable with any guy other than me and all these other guys mean nothing to her.

 

She continued to go on about how I almost became her husband she wanted to know if I was over her, if there was a chance to get back together and if I will ever forgive her for her mistakes. I told her I am over her and I've moved on. She even would cut me off sometimes while I was talking saying I look good and would try to flirt. I didn't bite, ignored it and kept a cold face (even though inside I was turning like crazy). She wanted to end it, start as friends again and rebuild her interest in me. She wanted to just eliminate the pressure - she told me that what she did was crazy but the pressure she was feeling made her feel trapped and she had to get out of it. She went on to say that is no excuse for what she did and she can't take it back, although she wishes she could.

 

She admitted she was wrong to let me come home for her and that she started to lose interest in me 3 months before coming home, felt so much pressure from her parents and didn't understand why she did lose interest and wish she didn't. I told her straight up I didn't care she didn't want to be with me but it doesn't take away from her actions. She told me shes been waiting around for me for 9 months, hurting every single day and not able to get over what happened. She told me she's told all of her friends what happened, her family and they all tell her she is wrong, and she said she knows she was wrong and takes full responsibility.

 

Luckily because I honestly kept NC and rebuilt my strength, I was able to with stand this and hold my ground. I told her that I can't believe how selfish she is and how she thinks she is entitled to be in my life. She doesn't deserve to talk to me and she doesn't deserve me. She kept asking if there was any chance of us getting back together - I told her I don't think so and that I don't even know who she is anymore. I know I freaked out when I saw her in the mall, but now that I was force to face my demons I am actually feeling okay.

 

I don't trust her and I don't think she wants to be with me - I think she is just testing me to see if she can still have me. When I finally listened to her, I said I'm going to bed, wished her well and went closed my door. She told me regardless of my decision, if I talk to her ever again or not, she just said she truly cares about me, thinks about me every day and just couldn't live going on knowing she didn't try to make things right.

 

I really don't understand what she is trying to do. Good for you holding your ground...that was a tough situation to be in. I would have not even given her the chance to speak. I may be reading this wrong but I don't really buy that she wants to get back with you either...she may be lonely, maybe some guys didn't work out for her, or who knows.

 

Just go NC again and let it be...if she shows up again tell her to not come back.

[Elle1975]

As an update - last night I came home around 11:30 pm and my ex was sitting outside of my house. She had texted me saying she wants to talk and she is in my area. I didn't respond - but considering I pulled up my driveway and saw her I didn't know what to do. She opened up by saying she saw me at the mall and couldn't get me out of her mind - she thinks about me everyday and is in pain knowing what she did to me because I didn't deserve it.

 

First, I told her that I'm going to sleep and there is nothing to talk about - she broke down crying and started to tell me she made a mistake, she regrets it everyday, she is sorry for what she did to me because I didn't deserve it. She blocked my way to my door and continued to say "let her have a chance to explain because I never did give her the chance". She went onto say that she constantly messages me but I ignore her, as she put it, she was "testing" the water to see if would even respond. She said she misses having me, never felt as comfortable with any guy other than me and all these other guys mean nothing to her.

 

She continued to go on about how I almost became her husband she wanted to know if I was over her, if there was a chance to get back together and if I will ever forgive her for her mistakes. I told her I am over her and I've moved on. She even would cut me off sometimes while I was talking saying I look good and would try to flirt. I didn't bite, ignored it and kept a cold face (even though inside I was turning like crazy). She wanted to end it, start as friends again and rebuild her interest in me. She wanted to just eliminate the pressure - she told me that what she did was crazy but the pressure she was feeling made her feel trapped and she had to get out of it. She went on to say that is no excuse for what she did and she can't take it back, although she wishes she could.

 

She admitted she was wrong to let me come home for her and that she started to lose interest in me 3 months before coming home, felt so much pressure from her parents and didn't understand why she did lose interest and wish she didn't. I told her straight up I didn't care she didn't want to be with me but it doesn't take away from her actions. She told me shes been waiting around for me for 9 months, hurting every single day and not able to get over what happened. She told me she's told all of her friends what happened, her family and they all tell her she is wrong, and she said she knows she was wrong and takes full responsibility.

 

Luckily because I honestly kept NC and rebuilt my strength, I was able to with stand this and hold my ground. I told her that I can't believe how selfish she is and how she thinks she is entitled to be in my life. She doesn't deserve to talk to me and she doesn't deserve me. She kept asking if there was any chance of us getting back together - I told her I don't think so and that I don't even know who she is anymore. I know I freaked out when I saw her in the mall, but now that I was force to face my demons I am actually feeling okay.

 

I don't trust her and I don't think she wants to be with me - I think she is just testing me to see if she can still have me. When I finally listened to her, I said I'm going to bed, wished her well and went closed my door. She told me regardless of my decision, if I talk to her ever again or not, she just said she truly cares about me, thinks about me every day and just couldn't live going on knowing she didn't try to make things right.

 

I had read your post about your mall experience.

Now I read this. Wow!

 

Her last sentence tells me you did the right thing "she cares" (not love) and "doing the right thing" (as in apologizing to fix her bad behavior). Could be wrong, that's how I read it though.

[Simon Phoenix]

Way to stand your ground and way to be strong. That's a tough situation and you handled it like a champ. I agree with your skepticism -- it seemed more like she was trying to get forgiveness from you for her own peace of mind than anything. Either way, kudos to you for handling that situation like a boss. How are you feeling about it right now?

[Elle1975]

Way to stand your ground and way to be strong. That's a tough situation and you handled it like a champ. I agree with your skepticism -- it seemed more like she was trying to get forgiveness from you for her own peace of mind than anything. Either way, kudos to you for handling that situation like a boss. How are you feeling about it right now?

 

I was thinking something similar. I tried to go take a nap an hour ago, and I couldn't. I was daydreaming: he comes back crawling on his knees, blah blah blah.. anyway, I then was thinking "I wonder how this guy slept after she left".

 

Yes, I think about cyber strangers while I am in my bed. So?

[lauri]

Way to stand your ground and way to be strong. That's a tough situation and you handled it like a champ. I agree with your skepticism -- it seemed more like she was trying to get forgiveness from you for her own peace of mind than anything. Either way, kudos to you for handling that situation like a boss. How are you feeling about it right now?

 

To be honest, I wish I didn't have to go through it. I have already forgiven her in my mind and heart, but I don't really want to tell her that. I'm kind of confused because she was saying stuff like "I'll make you mine again" and flirting really hardcore at some points - but I ignored it and didn't bite. I don't believe her in my mind but its planted a seed for sure.

 

I know she loves the "idea of me" (different then loving me) and realizes that meeting someone who she connected with like we did will be very difficult. It's almost like she inputted false hope into my mind - I won't cave and I won't ask show anything. She was even asking me if I had someone else, you know the typical run around.

 

I'm glad she realizes what she did was wrong. I know it may sound silly, but I'm happy for the next guy she may end up with - she will know to not do that to them. This way I know no guy will ever go through what I went through, because I didn't deserve it...actually no one does.

 

Either way, I'm proud of myself. How I reacted outside was completely different then how I felt inside...she kept telling me about this this belief that we could have re-gained that spark again if I stayed around after she ended it with me. She was saying that she doesn't want to be with anyone else and no other guys interest her. She even texted me asking to come over because she is lonely - I ignored her.

 

I'm just worried she will come back again and keep trying to chip away at the ice around my heart. We will see how I feel in a few days lol

[Simon Phoenix]

To be honest, I wish I didn't have to go through it. I have already forgiven her in my mind and heart, but I don't really want to tell her that. I'm kind of confused because she was saying stuff like "I'll make you mine again" and flirting really hardcore at some points - but I ignored it and didn't bite. I don't believe her in my mind but its planted a seed for sure.

 

I know she loves the "idea of me" (different then loving me) and realizes that meeting someone who she connected with like we did will be very difficult. It's almost like she inputted false hope into my mind - I won't cave and I won't ask show anything. She was even asking me if I had someone else, you know the typical run around.

 

I'm glad she realizes what she did was wrong. I know it may sound silly, but I'm happy for the next guy she may end up with - she will know to not do that to them. This way I know no guy will ever go through what I went through, because I didn't deserve it...actually no one does.

 

Either way, I'm proud of myself. How I reacted outside was completely different then how I felt inside...she kept telling me about this this belief that we could have re-gained that spark again if I stayed around after she ended it with me. She was saying that she doesn't want to be with anyone else and no other guys interest her. She even texted me asking to come over because she is lonely - I ignored her.

 

I'm just worried she will come back again and keep trying to chip away at the ice around my heart. We will see how I feel in a few days lol

 

I think you have the right approach. It doesn't really seem like she's taking your well-being too seriously -- this all seems to be about her. But yeah, keep moving forward.

[movingonnow1]

I think you have the right approach. It doesn't really seem like she's taking your well-being too seriously -- this all seems to be about her. But yeah, keep moving forward.

 

While I agree with you, I still think it is kind of odd how she keeps trying even after 9 months. Something doesn't add up - OP she may want you back but I think she is scared to admit it.

 

I would not trust her if I was you...good for you for not caving and giving her exactly what she wanted. In the end, you deserved to be treated better - she realises she made a mistake but....I don't know what her motive is here. You mention she was flirting, she may be looking to hook up with you and boost her ego as well.

[Simon Phoenix]

While I agree with you, I still think it is kind of odd how she keeps trying even after 9 months. Something doesn't add up - OP she may want you back but I think she is scared to admit it.

 

I would not trust her if I was you...good for you for not caving and giving her exactly what she wanted. In the end, you deserved to be treated better - she realises she made a mistake but....I don't know what her motive is here. You mention she was flirting, she may be looking to hook up with you and boost her ego as well.

 

Yeah, it's hard to tell. While you'd think that by her doing this that she is indicating she wants him back, it seems like everything she does is cloaked by a layer of bulls--t. The flirting is definitely problematic, especially if she's cutting off his words to do it; you'd think if she was serious about a legitimate reconciliation she'd be expressing herself in a less sexual, more mature way. It definitely comes off shallow.

 

That's why I think you're right in that he shouldn't trust her, and why I think lauri is playing this absolutely the right way. Until she lets her guard down and just comes completely clean without trying to connive through flirting and games he should definitely keep away. There's something rotten in Denmark here, and it's up to her to be genuine and forthcoming if she wants any type of relationship with him. But yeah, there's a hell of a lot more sizzle than steak in what she's doing.

[LadyM]

I think you handled yourself in the most amazing way!!

 

So proud of you!

 

And you sound like such a wonderful guy....some lucky gal is going to make you a very happy man.

[lauri]

Yeah, it's hard to tell. While you'd think that by her doing this that she is indicating she wants him back, it seems like everything she does is cloaked by a layer of bulls--t. The flirting is definitely problematic, especially if she's cutting off his words to do it; you'd think if she was serious about a legitimate reconciliation she'd be expressing herself in a less sexual, more mature way. It definitely comes off shallow.

 

That's why I think you're right in that he shouldn't trust her, and why I think lauri is playing this absolutely the right way. Until she lets her guard down and just comes completely clean without trying to connive through flirting and games he should definitely keep away. There's something rotten in Denmark here, and it's up to her to be genuine and forthcoming if she wants any type of relationship with him. But yeah, there's a hell of a lot more sizzle than steak in what she's doing.

 

It really does mean a lot that you think I did the right thing.

 

I have seen WAY too many times on this site people cracking immediately when their ex comes back and going back to them only to be hurt even more. I'm not stupid or naive - my well-being comes before ANYTHING else. I have been absorbing everyone's experience on here to know that this is more smoke then fire.

 

When she was asking me if I would take her back the back and forth went like this:

 

Me: Why do you ever care? You don't even want to be with me. I'll be honest, it seems like you are just fishing for a way to get an ego boost.

 

Her: If I wanted an ego boost, I would call some guys up right now and get it. I don't need or want an ego boost. If I wasn't curious about being with you, I wouldn't be asking you. I didn't want to (key here is past tense) date anyone else because I knew you would be good for me. I just couldn't handle the pressure and lost interest...but I wanted you to be my friend to regain that interest. People breakup while they are married and get back together, it happens.

 

She would continue to ask me "will you give us another chance? Will your parents accept me again, etc." She even went on to say that she misses my parents a lot (they are amazing people), and that if I do find someone else, that girl will be the luckiest girl alive to be apart of my family. Let's be honest here, if I had stuck around, her interest in me would have dropped even more and she would have moved on. But the fact I burned her and moved on myself, it made her realize her mistake because I stood my ground and made it clear breaking up with my and having me in your life still is NOT acceptable.

 

Comments / responses like that confuse me but I didn't show her or say anything to her regarding it. Like I said earlier, she has defiantly planted a seed. She would even ask do I even think about her anymore, would I have walked past her and not said hi if I saw her in the mall, etc.

 

She has not contacted me since that moment and nor do I expect her to. She may have got what she wanted or she may be waiting around for me to contact her. Either way, I'm not going to. My logic is, to even be someone I would be hi/bye with, she has to EARN that right. She lost all of her privileges the minute she said "I want to be single".

 

I think you handled yourself in the most amazing way!!

 

So proud of you!

 

And you sound like such a wonderful guy....some lucky gal is going to make you a very happy man.

 

LadyM, I really do appreciate those kind words from you. I've come a long way - I'm grateful to everyone, including yourself, for all the wonderful advice and everyone who was hard on me during my "dark" moments.

 

Somehow I feel okay. I almost died when I saw her in person at the mall, but now when I was faced with her I realized that I'm much stronger then I'm giving myself credit for and I'm not going to back down from my beliefs.

[movingonnow1]

It really does mean a lot that you think I did the right thing.

 

I have seen WAY too many times on this site people cracking immediately when their ex comes back and going back to them only to be hurt even more. I'm not stupid or naive - my well-being comes before ANYTHING else. I have been absorbing everyone's experience on here to know that this is more smoke then fire.

 

When she was asking me if I would take her back the back and forth went like this:

 

Me: Why do you ever care? You don't even want to be with me. I'll be honest, it seems like you are just fishing for a way to get an ego boost.

 

Her: If I wanted an ego boost, I would call some guys up right now and get it. I don't need or want an ego boost. If I wasn't curious about being with you, I wouldn't be asking you. I didn't want to (key here is past tense) date anyone else because I knew you would be good for me. I just couldn't handle the pressure and lost interest...but I wanted you to be my friend to regain that interest. People breakup while they are married and get back together, it happens.

 

She would continue to ask me "will you give us another chance? Will your parents accept me again, etc." She even went on to say that she misses my parents a lot (they are amazing people), and that if I do find someone else, that girl will be the luckiest girl alive to be apart of my family. Let's be honest here, if I had stuck around, her interest in me would have dropped even more and she would have moved on. But the fact I burned her and moved on myself, it made her realize her mistake because I stood my ground and made it clear breaking up with my and having me in your life still is NOT acceptable.

 

Comments / responses like that confuse me but I didn't show her or say anything to her regarding it. Like I said earlier, she has defiantly planted a seed. She would even ask do I even think about her anymore, would I have walked past her and not said hi if I saw her in the mall, etc.

 

She has not contacted me since that moment and nor do I expect her to. She may have got what she wanted or she may be waiting around for me to contact her. Either way, I'm not going to. My logic is, to even be someone I would be hi/bye with, she has to EARN that right. She lost all of her privileges the minute she said "I want to be single".

 

Considering she has not contacted you, that should speak volumes of what her intentions where. She may be waiting for you to reach out - but now is not the time for games. If she wants to make things right, she will.

 

Her responses confuse me because I'm not sure if she actually means that or not. I was not there so I can not judge her facial expressions, body language and her sincerity.

 

I kind of feel like your situation is unique due to the distance, the pressure and her doing something crazy without realising what she was about to do. But as it has been said earlier, something is not right and I'm not sure what is the next step for you. I think maintaining NC and letting things be is probably the best option.

 

All I can say is, faced in your situation, I would have handled it completely different. Try to not read too much into it and just continue to focus on yourself. You're a champ.

[lauri]

Considering she has not contacted you, that should speak volumes of what her intentions where. She may be waiting for you to reach out - but now is not the time for games. If she wants to make things right, she will.

 

Her responses confuse me because I'm not sure if she actually means that or not. I was not there so I can not judge her facial expressions, body language and her sincerity.

 

I kind of feel like your situation is unique due to the distance, the pressure and her doing something crazy without realising what she was about to do. But as it has been said earlier, something is not right and I'm not sure what is the next step for you. I think maintaining NC and letting things be is probably the best option.

 

All I can say is, faced in your situation, I would have handled it completely different. Try to not read too much into it and just continue to focus on yourself. You're a champ.

 

Believe me...I'm confused too. In the end, it doesn't matter what really happened and why it happened. All that mattered was she didn't want to be with me - she keeps making it seem like she did but the truth is she lost interest and no way by me sticking around she would have regained it.

 

I'm not sure where I will go next from here but I'm going to stick to my guns - hopefully I'm going to make all the right moves moving forward... I have a feeling that she isn't done.

[movingonnow1]

Believe me...I'm confused too. In the end, it doesn't matter what really happened and why it happened. All that mattered was she didn't want to be with me - she keeps making it seem like she did but the truth is she lost interest and no way by me sticking around she would have regained it.

 

I'm not sure where I will go next from here but I'm going to stick to my guns - hopefully I'm going to make all the right moves moving forward... I have a feeling that she isn't done.

 

You have come a long way and good on you for holding your ground. Don't let the curiosity get to you...all she said was words. She does not want to be with you but she clearly seems to miss you and feels guilty about everything. Like it has been said before, something does not add up.

 

And excellent point on sticking around. Had you stayed around, she would have defiantly not had any respect for you right now. Confusion usually means bad news in my experience...

[lauri]

I gotta be honest - all that flirting she did and all the things she said is really making me think a lot about her lately. She hasn't contacted me since and I think that makes things pretty clear, but I don't get what she was trying to do.

 

I don't even know why I'm thinking about this - but she knows how to spike my curiosity really well. I'm not doubting my words and decision to stand strong but I just think its unfair for her to come to see me. I think I still got a bit of feelings left for her but by no means am I going to cave and talk to her.

[LadyM]

Of course you're thinking about her. That was some major breadcrumb she threw your way. It's completely normal and expected to have her in your thoughts, especially because you're not completely over her. In a week or so, the thoughts of her will lessen and the incident will fade.

 

I still so admire your strength in how you continue to handle this recent upheaval. I doubt I could be as strong as you.

 

You've been incredible and a real inspiration to us all.

[lauri]

Of course you're thinking about her. That was some major breadcrumb she threw your way. It's completely normal and expected to have her in your thoughts, especially because you're not completely over her. In a week or so, the thoughts of her will lessen and the incident will fade.

 

I still so admire your strength in how you continue to handle this recent upheaval. I doubt I could be as strong as you.

 

You've been incredible and a real inspiration to us all.

 

I really hope so. I've been thinking about her A LOT now. Its so funny how long I wished for a chance to be back with her and now I may potentially have it I turned her down hard.

 

I guess I'm kind of surprised she hasn't reached out to me again since our encounter. Honestly, I don't know what I want anymore. At least this confirms it was breadcrumbs.

[Simon Phoenix]

I really hope so. I've been thinking about her A LOT now. Its so funny how long I wished for a chance to be back with her and now I may potentially have it I turned her down hard.

 

I guess I'm kind of surprised she hasn't reached out to me again since our encounter. Honestly, I don't know what I want anymore. At least this confirms it was breadcrumbs.

 

It's only natural for you to think about it. As long as you aren't acting on it, which you aren't, then no harm done (though I'm sure it's annoying the piss out of you). Your girl has some sort of weird agenda going on which seems cloaked in bs. While she did seek you out, she was trying to manipulate and play games with you. If she really is serious about wanting you back, she better stop with the childish crap -- every time she pulls a stunt like this she drives you away.

[lauri]

Arg...she contacted me again today. Its really hard to not respond because I'm curious...

[FredJones80]

Arg...she contacted me again today. Its really hard to not respond because I'm curious...

 

What was said?

[lauri]

She said some small talk stuff like Hey how are you and what are you up. Not exactly sure what she wants or if this would lead to further conversation..

[Simon Phoenix]

She said some small talk stuff like Hey how are you and what are you up. Not exactly sure what she wants or if this would lead to further conversation..

 

Stay strong man. She's just throwing more bs at you.

[BC1980]

She said some small talk stuff like Hey how are you and what are you up. Not exactly sure what she wants or if this would lead to further conversation..

 

Don't respond. You know her history, and she is not reliable.

[lauri]

Don't respond. You know her history, and she is not reliable.

 

You're right.

 

She sent me another text yesterday saying she is in my area with her friend and she would like to meet up with me. I find it really really odd how she is trying to meet up with me AND her friend at the same time. I've held my ground and avoided contact.

 

Seriously, after all those major breadcrumbs she sent me... I'm confused, I have that horrible feeling in my chest and I feel really upset with myself for even talking to her when she came to my door. It has only left me confused and not able to understand what is going on. Like...she thinks that its a good idea to meet with her and her friend while things clearly aren't okay? What the hell....

[movingonnow1]

You're right.

 

She sent me another text yesterday saying she is in my area with her friend and she would like to meet up with me. I find it really really odd how she is trying to meet up with me AND her friend at the same time. I've held my ground and avoided contact.

 

Seriously, after all those major breadcrumbs she sent me... I'm confused, I have that horrible feeling in my chest and I feel really upset with myself for even talking to her when she came to my door. It has only left me confused and not able to understand what is going on. Like...she thinks that its a good idea to meet with her and her friend while things clearly aren't okay? What the hell....

 

You know what she is all about.

 

I had a feeling something did not add up when she contacted you and was playing games. You've handled yourself well so far...don't let yourself get sucked back into something that is not worth your effort.

 

She clearly must think that everything is "OKAY" if she is asking you to meet with her and her friend. Don't put yourself down for a situation that was unavoidable...what you are feeling is normal and I probably would not be able to sleep since the moment your ex did what she did. You are handling it a lot better then most people would at this stage.

 

Keep strong and maintain NC.