Stupid deal breakers and weird habits that make you say NO. JUST NO.

[K.K.]

I dunno. I guess I just keep looking at the big picture. There has to be some compatibility. I don't want to play video games and watch zombie shows. I don't wanna hear movie quote after movie quote of every comedy guy flick ever written. I want them to like the things I do and feel the way I feel about certain things. Is that so wrong? Anything else would be settling wouldn't it? I don't like cologne. I don't like mouth breathers and jaw crackers. I can't stand it when a guy ALWAYS thinks he's right and will act like a 2 year old to prove me wrong. It gives me that frustrated feeling in my guts. Yea of course I know that if I really met and liked and cared for somebody and the chemistry was just right , yes I know ALL of this would go right out the window. But I don't think I'm necessarily wrong for knowing what I don't want.

Edited April 23, 2014 by K.K.
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[K.K.]

Look, I can kinda see the OP's point on this one. The ex and I had vastly different tastes in television. So in the beginning, I would give in and sit with him through Sportscenter, the basketball game, etc. But he would never sit through Grey's Anatomy or Dateline Mysteries with me. After awhile, I got sick of listening to sports commentators all day and after a few years, we started always spending time in separate rooms. The question would always be, "Which room you going in, the livingroom or bedroom?" The only show we watched together was Family Guy and that was in bed right before going to sleep.

 

I love dateline mysteries!!! I have the ID Channel all the time! I also like the haunting and even 20/20 now I know I'm not gonna find a guy that is into all of that. But I really wish I could. Hey at least you tried to sit through the sport center. I wouldn't have made it that far. That's what I'm talking about see.. It seems like a teeny problem. But it isn't. Compatibility is no joke.

[bubbaganoosh]

The only one I disagree with is the spoon, I have to eat ramen noodles with a spoon because I consider it soup. I know, my son corrects me all the time.....LOL

 

Me too because it is soup. Although break up the noodles in the package before it goes in the water. I hate it when one of those scalding hot noodles gets on your chin.

[janedoe67]

I have a few dealbreakers

 

Laziness

Meanness

Self-centeredness

Condescension

Being controlling

Angry

Cold/non-affectionate

No sense of humor

[bubbaganoosh]

I'm a guy and the things that drive me crazy with women is that a lot of them either don't care or lost their sense of smell but my God how much perfume does one need? Is it because you don't bath or you just don't know ho to apply it.

 

It's supposed to be subtle, not supposed to hit you in the face like a hammer.

 

Not to mention that the perfume blocks out the smell of the Ramen noodles that I'm eating with a spoon and the hunk of chicken fat smells like Chanel # 5 or 9 or 23.

 

Just kidding. But don't let me stop your rant. Your on a roll!

[K.K.]

Hahahahahaha :-D !

[Icydescent]

The two major things I can think of for me are children & animals. I do not want children, so that's an obvious one.

 

I've not run into anyone personally who hates animals, but I've heard of other relationships where one's partner wanted them to get rid of their pet, choose between them, or even have them put down. Now, I totally understand not everyone likes animals, & that is more than fine by me. If someone ever came into my life however & made such insane demands, I'd make the decision real easy for them & be out of there.

 

Other things are really general, like being kind, open-minded, etc. There's no habit I can really think of as a major deal breaker unless it hurt/affected me or others personally. You're never going to love the habits or flaws of someone else 100%, & I definitely think that's where personal space to do your own thing is useful.

[Raena]

OP I think your specific list of deal breakers is quite funny to me, I really did laugh out loud at some of them. The Skyrim one... well yeah, who wants a guy who is still living in his Momma's basement, that's pretty clear cut. But what it does tell me is that you are hypersensitive to wanting that one person who wants the same things you want right? Seems like your ex must have been pretty insensitive to your needs.

 

I completely get that! I'm not where you are right now, I haven't even bothered to try to look or date just yet but I have a feeling I'll be the same way. I caved so much to my exes wants and needs for so long that the next time around I won't be so tolerant to the little things...

 

Some of mine seem ridiculous too:

- leaving his underpants, shoes, clothes WHEREVER he took them off, drove me nuts. I'm not your frigging maid, clean up after yourself

- leaving the kitchen cabinet doors open all the time. How many times did I have to slam the doors shut after cussing because I hit my head on them AGAIN before he finally got the hint to close them when he was done.

- leaving garbage (wrappers, paper towels, etc) on the kitchen counter RIGHT NEXT TO THE GARBAGE CAN but too lazy to put the trash where it belongs

-laying around scratching his nuts. That scratching sound drove me absolutely bananas! I kick my cats and dogs out of the room when they start licking themselves because it sounds exactly the same as the nut scratching

- taking over my things and claiming them as his own. Get your own crap dude! I lost the couch, the television in the living room, 2 laptops, the side of the bed that I like, my own music on my own ipod in my own car and many other things that he just took over and claimed.

 

These are just some of them for me that if I meet a new man and he displays ANY of that behavior will make my blood boil and I'll have to run for the hills, ripping my hair out screaming NO NOT AGAIN!!!

[Elias33]

Ramen with chopsticks! Boom!

[SpiralOut]

Your list cracks me up. lol.

 

There are a few things I am totally disgusted by, and I can't get over it.

 

- using cutesy or immature words. this one guy called a restaurant "horny africa" as a joke which made me feel kind of sick.

 

- obsessed with hockey. If he just likes it, I will feel uneasy but will give him a chance. If he is a hardcore fan, no thanks.

 

- I feel so turned off by receding hairlines. I can't get past it.

 

- Doesn't know what the word "introvert" means. That's not a good sign. It means that he won't understand me at all.

 

- Doesn't know how to cook. I don't expect a chef, but I feel grossed out when someone eats all of his food from a can, or from something frozen. I hate it when guys eat gross food. Last guy I dated ordered this gross looking spaghetti and kept getting sauce all over his face then wiping his face on the napkins. So there were spaghetti stained napkins all over the table and he just slurped away at it for like an hour while I ate my spring rolls in only three seconds. It was gross.

Edited April 23, 2014 by SpiralOut

[todreaminblue]

As far as eating goes it doesn't bother me if a guy gets food on his face , probably because i end up with food in strange places , don't know how or why, guys find it hilarious, i think i forget i have a fork in my hand so i am pretty easy going as far as eating habits go........

 

It annoys me when a guy doesn't think of others especially kids......gets himself a slurpee and doesn't find out if anyone else would like anything sort of attitude.......its a bit thoughtless

[PinkInTheLimo]

-laying around scratching his nuts. That scratching sound drove me absolutely bananas! I kick my cats and dogs out of the room when they start licking themselves because it sounds exactly the same as the nut scratching

 

I actually wanted to mention the scratch his nuts thing myself. I started in a new job in January and the colleague I have to work with all the time is always touching his junk. AAAGGGHHHRRR!!! And of course now that I have noticed it, every time I have to talk to him (which is unfortunately a lot) I can't help but checking if he is doing it again.

I am wondering if he is doing this on purpose or if this is just a bad habit. And I'm also wondering if I should call him out on it. Sometimes it's really bloody blatant, as if in he is coming into my office, standing in front of my desk and there goes the hand to his scrotch. It makes me wanna scream.

 

On top of it he's the kind of guy who likes to make some stupid remark about sex. We were once discussing euthanasia and he started: "Why would anyone want to die? As long as I still can have sex, I certainly would not want to die. Hahaha." Everybody around him of course cringing. I was tempted to say that those who always feel the need to talk about sex, are the ones who are not getting any.

 

In general this guy is the kind of guy I would not want to touch even if they gave me 10 million dollar. I presume he showers every day but he does not use any perfume which results in him having this uncensored natural smell which I find gross. That's fine if you go and live in the woods but not if you work in an office. And then he's always eating at his desk, drinking coffee at his desk, then touching his papers, he touches his junk and then he touches his computer screen so his whole office gives such a filthy impression. And then he has to show me something on my computer but as soon as his hand goes to my screen (I never touch my computer screen and I hate it when other people do) I scream: "Don't touch my PC screen."

 

The guy is married!!! How on earth can you be married with a filthy guy like that??? Shows again that all guys can get married!

 

I am going to observe how this further evolves. If I ever get any indication that he is doing this on purpose I will give him hell. He is on a temporary contract so he has less job security than me.

 

On top of it, the work he does is sloppy. He is a smooth talker but what he delivers is rubbish.

[Shepp]

It's the little things in life that you sometimes will find yourself missing later down the road. It's those little abnormalities that give meaning to an otherwise normal life.

 

A pet peeve to you may be the cutest damn imperfection to someone else, and vice versa.

 

I do hope you find someone to your liking. I'm sure he's out there, if he's not taken already.

 

This is it! No ones perfect after all, but when you realise you love their imperfections you've got something special!

 

Me and the gf used to argue about the right way to cut a kiwi since I've known her (she slices it horizontally not vertically - why would anyone do that? Horizontal makes perfect bite size pieces and is easier to cut!! )

Anyway, the other day I went downstairs after my shower and she was making breakfast and she'd sliced it horizontally! I looked at it and was like why've you done that? And she was like 'cause your right, it makes more sense' ....I've been waiting to here that off like 6 years, I thought I'd be victorious, but the truth is I was disappointed!

 

If we all thought the same and acted the same how boring would that be! Remember your looking for someone to date not someone to be you!

 

 

I'm totally on board with some of your list though! The dog and the basement ones!! I have stupid deal breakers too - doesn't everyone? Has to like camping. Prefers country to city. Thinks friends is funny. Has to like boats. Has to understand why sport is crazy important.

[TheGuard13]

My dealbreaker is a person for whom minor things are dealbreakers.

[Under The Radar]

IMO, deal breakers should be major things ...... not idiosyncrasies or annoying habits. If you need more than 10 fingers (I'm tempted to say 5) to list your deal breakers ...... the likely reason you are still single ...... is because of you.

[Iguanna]

They are not stupid but they are deal breakers for sure:

 

- If he doesn't like dogs. You are a mean person and I hate you.

- If he can't speak with correct grammar and use difficult words in sentences. Unless you are a football player and you make 1.000.000 euros per game, then you are not justified.

- If he makes fun of other people's insecurities. I can't deal with arrogant people.

- If he has an opinion for EVERYTHING. No, I don't want to be with the encyclopedia man. I have google for this.

- If he is bragging about his achievements in life. I don't care.

- If he can't be there for me as a friend first of all. I want to feel special and not just another woman in your life.

- If he doesn't want kids at all in life. You must be shallow and superficial. Life is not all about fun and games. We got to grow up sooner or later.

[RedRobin]

Trying to kiss me on a first date.

 

Smokers

 

History of promiscuity, substance abuse, violence

[KaliLove]

- Can't be shorter than 6 feet (I'm 5'9 and I like heels!)

- No skinny guys

- Can't be religious

- No history of cheating

- Must want children

- No bad breath

- Must be intelligent and have a sense of humor

- Can't have tiny hands or long fingernails..nothing is more disgusting than long fingernails on a guy..it's got nothing to do with sex, it just creeps me out

[Omei]

I dont mind ball scratching, I mean like sometimes my vag gets itchy, esp for men and women they both shave and you get prickles I think that's pretty normal.

 

One thing I remember now that I seriously dislike is men that act tough or gross and do that hork/spit on the ground in public its so gross I cant help but look at it and I've come pretty close to barfing lol.

[PinkInTheLimo]

I dont mind ball scratching, I mean like sometimes my vag gets itchy, esp for men and women they both shave and you get prickles I think that's pretty normal.

 

It's normal that it gets itchy but that does not mean that you have to scratch your private parts in front of me...

[Icydescent]

- If he doesn't want kids at all in life. You must be shallow and superficial. Life is not all about fun and games. We got to grow up sooner or later.

 

Just out of curiosity, why do you feel one who doesn't wish to have kids must be shallow & superficial?

[Iguanna]

Just out of curiosity, why do you feel one who doesn't wish to have kids must be shallow & superficial?

 

Cause the main reason they don't want kids is cause they want to be free and do whatever they want in their lives, which is cool up to the point where you eventually have to start caring about someone else more than yourself and you have to take some responsibility in life. It's my opinion anyway.

[Icydescent]

Cause the main reason they don't want kids is cause they want to be free and do whatever they want in their lives, which is cool up to the point where you eventually have to start caring about someone else more than yourself and you have to take some responsibility in life. It's my opinion anyway.

 

I see. That's a fairly big generalization. There's a lot of people who make very good livings, are responsible, & don't want kids. There's also a lot terrible parents out there. Anyone can procreate, it doesn't automatically make them good/bad/responsible.

 

Like you said though, just my opinion.

[man_in_the_box]

Might be kind of a no-brainer but: post on LS. Too many of you people are either somewhat mental, complete narcissists, depressed whackjobs, nobodies with ridiculous expectations or otherwise deranged personalities. Sorry for whoever doesn't fit in there but I've never seen a place with such a concentration of obvious deal-breakers all together.

[kiss_andmakeup]

LOL. Well, I for one, thought your post was great and I needed a good laugh. My ex only had one bad quality that I couldn't stand - breathing.

 

But seriously, here are my stupid deal breakers -

 

Sideways or Flat-billed ballcap wearers. Ugghhh...do not come within 25 feet of me!! You'll cause me to throw up in my mouth a little. For pete's sake!! Bend the damn bill!!

 

Men that think there is no better shoe than Michael Jordan tennis shoes. This man has made a gazillion dollars off of nitwits buying the same shoe over and over again in different colors with slightly different modifications.

 

Mouth breathers.

 

Men that can't handle sitting through a good scary movie. I love scary movies. We both know it's not real. Get a grip and man up!

 

I think you and I were separated at birth. The flat-billed hat thing...good lord. Stahhhhhhp it. It might well be the least attractive accessory a guy can sport. I think I would even prefer a giant Flava Flav clock over the flat-billed hat.