Who are the true initiators when it comes to dating?

[somedude81]

I'm going to say that it's actually women.

 

If a woman shows that she is interested in a guy, and obviously makes it known to him, how many men would not fallow through and not ask her out?

 

My belief is that an average looking man can ask out 100 single women, if none of them have shown him that she is interested beforehand, less than 10 of them would say yes.

 

Yet if an average looking woman gives obvious signs of interest to 100 single men, maybe a handful of them wouldn't try to pursue her.

 

In essence, it's the women who start things off. All the guys can do is hope that they are chosen, and then try not to screw things up.

[somedude81]

I don't know what is considered "lots", but there's been girls who either asked me out (and I said, "Sure...we can hang out sometime" trying to make it obvious I just saw her as a friend) or tried to "trick" me into a date (one girl wanted to bet me on a Laker game and the bet was loser takes winner out on a dinner date). Another girl was very obvious in that she had a crush on me and the sexual innuendo from her was off the charts. Pretty much told me to my face that I could do whatever I wanted to her. There was another girl who wanted me to be with her, but she was a virgin and I wasn't about to be her first, so I ended up slowly fading away (I think I told this story a few times before).

 

If I'm not into the girl...I won't go out with her in a romantic sense. Sure, I'll hang out with them as friends...but if it gets awkward, I end up doing the slow fade.

Then there is the main difference between you and I.

 

In my entire life, there has only been one non-obese woman who has shown interest in me. Care to take a guess who she is?

 

I wonder if the number of women showing interest in you is higher than average.

 

Also, I'm curious how often women get "rejected" by guys not making the moves.

[KungFuJoe]

Then there is the main difference between you and I.

 

In my entire life, there has only been one non-obese woman who has shown interest in me. Care to take a guess who she is?

 

I wonder if the number of women showing interest in you is higher than average.

 

Also, I'm curious how often women get "rejected" by guys not making the moves.

 

You've seen what I look like. I'm not winning any modeling contests anytime soon. I think I'm a decent looking guy. Nothing special...put me in a room full of people and I don't think my looks is what makes me stand out.

 

But, what I think does make me stand out is my attitude and personality. Also, I'm a very social person with a lot of different circles. I guess you could say I'm a social butterfly, but I also have some very close and dear friends of mine (male and female) that mean the world to me.

 

This is why I always harp on not stressing so much about looks. I was clueless about physical appearance when all the stuff I mentioned was happening to me. But, it just seemed like the more a girl hung out with me, the more they started to like me.

[carhill]

If a woman walks up to me and starts talking to me, whether in general or in a flirtatious manner, I'd call her the initiator, if she turns out to be single and the conversation leads to a dating experience, even if it's me that asks her out on a date. To date, with a 55th BD coming up shortly, bzzt, they must be initiating with someone else! Good on them! I wish them well in life!

 

I'm very social as well, as my track record with MW's proves. Women love me. They just happen to all be married.