Fiancé not wearing her ring to work?

[JamesM]

if your so smug and certain that your wife never cheated with " Special friend" then why not ask her to take the lie detector.

 

She was very open about him and how she felt. I went to her work often.

 

Why on earth would I ask for a lie detector test 26 years later and after this many kids when I never suspected anything then?

 

My spidy senses detect that you suspect something,

 

Actually, no, I never did. I was using him as a comparison to the OP's example. My wife has had a number of male coworker friends over the years and no, there was nothing of concern. I have met them all and liked them...as they did me.

 

And yes, I have had many woman coworker friends.

 

Neither of us spend time with coworkers outside of work unless we are together.

 

isn't fair to say that their friendship was closer than most male to female friendships.

 

No, that would not be a fair assessment.

 

(This sounds like a day in court! )

 

It seems you want to believe that there's one relationship in life that's beyond betrayal a relationship that's beyond that kind of hurt. And there isn't.

 

No, there isn't any relationship that cannot be broken, but my point was....if there isn't trust now as I had trust then and now, then the OP should reconsider his relationship.

 

Isn't it true that the fear of being stabbed in the back so close home clouds judgment?

 

I suppose it would. I am glad I don't have that cloud.

 

Isn't it fair to say that because your heart has been broken so often that you can no longer be objective?

[hard2c]

She was very open about him and how she felt. I went to her work often.

 

Why on earth would I ask for a lie detector test 26 years later and after this many kids when I never suspected anything then?

 

 

 

Actually, no, I never did. I was using him as a comparison to the OP's example. My wife has had a number of male coworker friends over the years and no, there was nothing of concern. I have met them all and liked them...as they did me.

 

And yes, I have had many woman coworker friends.

 

Neither of us spend time with coworkers outside of work unless we are together.

 

 

 

No, that would not be a fair assessment.

 

(This sounds like a day in court! )

 

 

 

No, there isn't any relationship that cannot be broken, but my point was....if there isn't trust now as I had trust then and now, then the OP should reconsider his relationship.

 

 

 

I suppose it would. I am glad I don't have that cloud.

 

Isn't it fair to say that because your heart has been broken so often that you can no longer be objective?

I am a person whose repertoire of behavior appropriate could not possibly be predicted or any other person for that matter. To say that a gf/wife is unfaithful because she cheats is to give an operational definition of infidelity. To say that she cheats because she is sex addict is to trace her behavior to a supposed inner trait. But whether or not a person engages in the kind of behavior called cheating depends upon circumstances which are not mentioned in either question. The betrayal assigned as an inner possession ( demon possession) is actually reinforcement.

[Tayla]

This is most definitely not true and actually sounds like a bitter response. I love this girl with all my heart. I'm not the one who made a new friend of the opposite sex. In fact, I don't just to be respectful to her and make sure she feel safe and secure with our relationship. If I wanted out I would be out and not play games.

 

Denial Denial, so be it. I still think you aren't ready to accept that she can be respectful of your relationship and still maintain friends . Go ahead and keep trying to find reasons of suspecious behavior. Its a great way to tear apart a relationship. She invites you to functions and straight up tells you the truth. Its your choice to bend it to suit your doubts. And you ARE playing Games by making assumptions. Step back and ask yourself seriously if she is that untrustworthy . If so, then remove yourself. Not being harsh, realistic at best. I'd drop you like a hot potatoe if you made false claims and tried to go so far as to come online and get others to automatically agree you are right in your suspecions. This is a trust issue that you have, not her.

[Phoe]

I understand where she's coming from about the ring.

 

I have destroyed several rings being too active and hard on them. My boyfriend doesn't know what to do with me!

 

 

I am currently wearing a cheap fake ring most days, but I do not wear it at work. I work an active job with a lot of manual labor, and I KNOW if I wear it to work daily, it will be destroyed in no time. I also do not want to wear it at the gym, because I'm sure that led to the demise of my last ring. Even though it was cheap, I don't want to destroy it and have to get another one all over again.

 

 

My boyfriend isn't thrilled with me not always wearing my ring. I have a necklace I wear daily, I could easily string the ring onto that chain while at work and the gym, then slip it back on my finger after, but to my boyfriend it's still not the same.

 

 

Any future ring of mine will need an insurance/warranty/protection plan on it in case of damage.

[anne1707]

when a woman mentions manual labor it's moving chairs or a stack of papers. men do the real manual labor.

 

Says the man who has managed to use bad spelling or incorrect grammar in just about every post made so far.

[Phoe]

when a woman mentions manual labor it's moving chairs or a stack of papers. men do the real manual labor.

 

Don't be rude.

 

 

I work in a male dominated field. It's REAL manual labor, heavy lifting, running around, using tools and machinery, 9 hour shifts with no sitting all day.

[anne1707]

Don't be rude.

 

 

I work in a male dominated field. It's REAL manual labor, heavy lifting, running around, using tools and machinery, 9 hour shifts with no sitting all day.

 

I think he is an expert on "tools" already

[anne1707]

what's it like to be a virgin?

 

You tell me dear.

[anne1707]

your below my league

 

For that I shall be eternally grateful.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[KatZee]

Bro I don't trust hot chicks because all that's important to them is money and getting pregnant. Start with non offensive leading questions, ending with three options.

 

Okay I'll help you with another example, I've been married four times they all cheated on me.

 

This has to be the most ignorant statement I've heard to date on LS.

 

You've been married 4 times and they've all cheated on you? Hate to break it to you, but the only common denominator between the five of you, is... well... YOU.

 

You pick S.HITTY people and that's on YOU. Has nothing to do with being "hot" or not.

 

For the record. I'm always told I'm hot. Couldn't give any s.hits less about how much money a dude makes, and I actually dislike kids. So there goes your theory.

 

As far as OPs situation goes, if she was going to cheat on you, or was currently cheating on you, she'd do it. Ring or not. Not wearing it to work means absolutely nothing and she actually gives legitimate reasons for not wearing it.

[bubbaganoosh]

I wouldn't be so worried about the kids in her class being touchy, feeley, but maybe someone else whose a bit older.

[hard2c]

This has to be the most ignorant statement I've heard to date on LS.

 

You've been married 4 times and they've all cheated on you? Hate to break it to you, but the only common denominator between the five of you, is... well... YOU.

 

You pick S.HITTY people and that's on YOU. Has nothing to do with being "hot" or not.

 

For the record. I'm always told I'm hot. Couldn't give any s.hits less about how much money a dude makes, and I actually dislike kids. So there goes your theory.

 

As far as OPs situation goes, if she was going to cheat on you, or was currently cheating on you, she'd do it. Ring or not. Not wearing it to work means absolutely nothing and she actually gives legitimate reasons for not wearing it.

I'll say it again hot young girls only care about two things Money and Pregnancy. Those who don't have trauma in their childhood i.e abuse or a loss of a parent. This is axiomatic!