Will moving out of home make me more attractive to men?

[clia]

Of course you should move out. You are a legal adult, working full time and making $54k a year. There is no reason you should still be living with your parents. Get an apartment with a friend to cut down on your rent expenses.

[MissBee]

So i'm 22, have been working full time for 2 years and am on 54k. I live with my parents in suburbia (20 mins bus from the city). They don't let me have boys over for the night, want me home by 4am and if I date anyone, want to know his phone number and will usually text him asking where i am etc (soo embarassing). Do you think it will impact my ability to catch a good guy (working, educated, 23-26 age bracket) if I keep living at home?

 

I'm saving quite a lot staying here, despite paying some bills, and already have enough for a house deposit and am going to start further study soon. So I don't think I'm a loser or anything.

 

Lately, I've been having urges to acquire my own 'stuff,' decorate my own space, look after myself and have guys come and go as I please. I also dont have many friends, though I know lots of acquaintances I could perhaps become better friends with if I invited them over for game nights etc. Its too awkward with my parents here, and I want a trendy place I can show off. If i can do this, again, i think it will make me more appealing to the opposite sex. Opinions?

 

If the guy has his own place then I find that many men don't care as much if a girl lives at home. However, you need to move out, reason being is that not only do you live at home but your parents treat you like a teenager. That is the bizarre part that would turn men off....your parents texting them about your whereabouts??? Expecting you home by a certain time? And why 4 am? I mean if you're out til 4 am what's so different from 5 or 6...at least it's light out by then.

 

I'm in graduate school in one state and my parents live in another and when I'm on break I often go back to their house and stay for a while; my own space is preferable, as I can do what I want with whom, whenever, but they are also not overbearing and treat me like the adult I am. Basically, once I started college I lived on campus but was home for breaks, and I simply told them I was going out and wouldn't be back until late and that was it. When I had boyfriends I would let them know I'd be spending the night or would be over by their place for a few days so not to worry. They wouldn't text anyone neither did they attempt to dictate when I could come home. Had they been the type to do that I would have made sure to have my own space all the time.

 

If you're making 54k a year, there is no reason with overbearing parents why you should stay at home. Yes you "save" but is it really worth it? You are single and are making enough money where you can have your own place and still be financially alright and independent instead of being treated like a child.

Edited April 25, 2014 by MissBee

[suladas]

The living at home doesn't bother me, it's more what that means for most people. I also compare it to myself, moving out at 21. So while 22 is totally fine to live at home, are they actually saving to move out, are they independent etc? I have my own place so I don't care if they do in that regard it's mostly the maturity that comes along with moving out of your parents place.

 

I know so many people mid 20's who live at home and their mom still takes care of them, cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc. To me that is a HUGE turn off. Paying rent or not, if their mom still does all that they are a child to me. Unless they were very independent I would be incredibly hesitant to ever live with someone who is moving straight out of their parents house. It's a huge adjustment and I wouldn't want to be teaching them how to do all of that.

 

So it's not a huge turn off to see living at home, it's based on the person. And considering how many people early-mid 20's still live at home, it's not a big deal.

Edited April 25, 2014 by suladas