Snipercatt Posted April 25, 2014 Share Posted April 25, 2014 , I'd have to question how bright she is marrying a guy who's capable of deceiving her in such an obvious way Wait! What? ? ? There are plenty of examples of extremely bright people that didn't know their partners werre committing fraud! (That's why it is referred to as cheating, or fraud -because it is hidden). 4 Link to post Share on other sites
FoolishOW Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 Wait! What? ? ? There are plenty of examples of extremely bright people that didn't know their partners werre committing fraud! (That's why it is referred to as cheating, or fraud -because it is hidden). Thanks for the dramatic definition, Snipercatt. If you consider the situation for a second, instead of just jumping at a specific statement that is NOT a generalization, you might have considered that my comment refers to a woman who is apparently getting married in 2 weeks. That typically means that for the last 18 months, or so, the couple is closer than at almost any other point in a relationship, or at least it would normally be expected so. Engagement, wedding showers, family celebrations, planning almost daily or weekly for a life long step together... These are the kinds of activities engaged in, more often than not, for quite some time prior to a wedding. If this woman truly has no idea that all is not right with her fiancé during this traditionally highly bonded time in her relationship/engagement, than I stand by my statement, but don't twist my words to make it sound as if I've made a general statement towards ALL women who have EVER been cheated on. I made an observation that I believe is a reasonable one, given this situation. You aren't required to agree, but don't put words in my mouth. Link to post Share on other sites
Snipercatt Posted April 26, 2014 Share Posted April 26, 2014 My definition wasn't dramatic, but truth. I was responding to this specific situation and your post regarding it. I didn't put words in your post. No matter the intelligence of a person, nor the closeness of a couple, means that infidelity is discoverable. By its very nature it is secretive. .to think that your intuition, your intelligence, or your closeness, will make you aware of the infidelity of your partner is foolish. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Bootsie Posted April 27, 2014 Share Posted April 27, 2014 I'm having difficulty working out exactly who is the OW here. Maybe it's irrelevant anyway because it sounds like that until recently neither knew there was someone else in this guy's life. One is pregnant and apparently got pregnant to him while he was engaged to someone else, and the other is marrying him just after he got another pregnant. I'm not sure how anyone can imply that only one of these 2 women isn't very bright!! In fact you can't really say that about either of them as clearly he's a master-manipulator and deceiver, so the way I see it it's not a reflection on the "brightness" or intelligence of either woman. As only one woman is posting here, I would suggest that this guy needs to be exposed. In other words tell the fiancée and tell his family what he's been doing. Also take action to ensure that you get whatever child support you're entitled to once the baby is born. It's certainly a mess! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
goodyblue Posted April 27, 2014 Share Posted April 27, 2014 Oh my god. Tell her. And tell him to go to hell. You deserve better. I'm sorry, I was OW, and I generally don't advise this, but to you I am, because you shouldn't have to deal with him forever and this woman shouldn't marry him without he eyes wide open. Wishing you luck and peace. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Hazeleyes1991 Posted April 28, 2014 Author Share Posted April 28, 2014 Thank you I surely will Link to post Share on other sites
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