reconciliations work! if done the CORRECT way!!!

[lvroflife]

So now you maybe asking what is the correct way?

 

Guess what?! There is no magic formula!! The correct way is decided by you and you're partner!! Only you two know each other best. And only you two know what that CORRECT way is.

 

You can enhance the chances of it working by doing a few things.

After the BU. Go and stay NC until you're emotions are cool and in check. Follow all the NC guidelines while in NC.

 

when the ex comes back (because most likely they will) keep and I repeat keep doing what YOU'VE been doing while they were gone. This is a must!! You have no idea how attractive you will be if you do. SO TRUST ME ON THIS.

 

make sure when THEY(and only them can bring it up) bring up the old relationship you talk about ALL of the relationship good and bad. This talk will help you and your ex (soon to be current).lover figure out YOUR CORRECT way!

 

Its that simple!

[somedude81]

Of course this only works if your ex comes back.

 

If you're ex never contacts you, then odds are you'll never get back with them.

[organizedchaos]

Of course this only works if your ex comes back.

 

If you're ex never contacts you, then odds are you'll never get back with them.

 

Exactly. There is no "because most likely they will". So please don't fill people with false hopes.

[lvroflife]

My mistake you both are right. I will correct it. It won't let me edit

Edited April 25, 2014 by lvroflife

[tlegend]

If it didn't work the first time, don't expect it will work the second time unless things have changed.

[No Limit]

Reconciliation can work, but I simply won't bother trying to glue the pieces of shattered trust back together, especially because it'll never be what it once was and chances are I'll never trust again anyway.

Besides, there might be a kind, faithful guy waiting out there for an equally loving and faithful girl. And why would I choose a cheater over him?

 

Just my philosophy, but change is life.

 

And I'm dead sick of beating dead horses.

[lvroflife]

No Limit you say "faithful". Clearly you were cheated on.

 

And in that case yes reconciliation would be hard. But if it was a mutual break up or someone was unsure it can work. Depending on as other posters stated, a change in both parties has occurred.

 

Sometimes, as we know of it is broke, let it stay broke. But there are cases where reconciliation is a great idea. Again, only you and your partner know the answer to that.

[mangetout]

No Limit you say "faithful". Clearly you were cheated on.

 

And in that case yes reconciliation would be hard. But if it was a mutual break up or someone was unsure it can work. Depending on as other posters stated, a change in both parties has occurred.

 

Sometimes, as we know of it is broke, let it stay broke. But there are cases where reconciliation is a great idea. Again, only you and your partner know the answer to that.

 

I was cheated on and yes reconciliation is very, very difficult. Two years later and we are still suffering from the consequences.

 

 

But I am ready to move our relationship to a new place. I have forgiven my partner and I trust him not to hurt me again.

 

 

Yes OP reconciliation is a personal decision and it feels right for me and my partner

[No Limit]

No Limit you say "faithful". Clearly you were cheated on.

 

I haven't been in a relationship yet, only lost a best friend. But that's another and far too long story.

When saying "faithful" I was actually trying to express that's me. I don't have to be 30 years old to say that I'll never cheat. I do it today.

And judging from the postings of many desperate people in the breakup or infidelity forums there are plenty of other people who don't cheat either.

 

Just trying to say, if you're like me and cheating/betrayal crosses your boundaries, stick to them. Don't draw lines with pencils.