dudeguy56 Posted April 27, 2014 Share Posted April 27, 2014 I'm going to ask this question hypothetically but it's relevant to my situation. If you had a friend of the opposite gender who you knew for about half a year. You're not best friends but you know each other and get along well. You maybe hang out once or twice a month. This person likes you. He/she has a really bad self-esteem, gets easily jealous and has been in a really bad mood because he/she doesn't want to risk the friendship by telling you that they have feelings for you but they want an answer because they're asking themselves the "what if"s, it's having a bad impact on their life. What would you want them to do? Would you be fine with them telling you how they feel? Would you wish to remain friends? Do you want them to endure and not say anything, hoping they get over you, even if it's really upsetting them deeply over a relatively long period? This is a pretty specific hypothetical question because I'm the person who likes another and I'm having a really **** time coping. I've tried taking an emotional distance but that just didn't work. I can't avoid her because we have many mutual friends who do stuff relatively often. I just want to get it out of my system and get a straight answer, even if she doesn't feel the same. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted April 27, 2014 Share Posted April 27, 2014 This is the 3rd time I have told you the same answer to this same Q about your situation. No matter how you phrase it, the answer doesn't change. Man up. Ask the girl out already. If you insist on doing nothing & continuing to have a pity party, nothing in your life will ever change. You are miserable now. Even if she rejects you, you will at least know where you stand & you will be free to move on which is a heck of a lot better than the daily torture you inflict on yourself. The longer you don't make a move, the more likely that another guy is going to swoop in & take her away. The choice is yours. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted April 27, 2014 Share Posted April 27, 2014 Speak up, respect the response that is then given , and from that gain proper perspective. Ohh and if ya want, you can tell this fictious person that the world doesn't crumble or fall apart by laying the cards on the table. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
melodicintention Posted April 27, 2014 Share Posted April 27, 2014 I would want him to get help for his self esteem issues before pursing me. The greatest love of a lifetime is inside of you. Cheesy, but true. How can someone love you if you don't love yourself? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Pablo1 Posted April 27, 2014 Share Posted April 27, 2014 Make yourself clear to her what you want, no ifs or buts 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ja123 Posted April 27, 2014 Share Posted April 27, 2014 I would want him to get help for his self esteem issues before pursing me. The greatest love of a lifetime is inside of you. Cheesy, but true. How can someone love you if you don't love yourself? ^ ^ ^ This ^ ^ ^ 2 Link to post Share on other sites
The Like Fairy Posted April 28, 2014 Share Posted April 28, 2014 What would you want him to do? Examine your self esteem, mood and jealousy issues. What's up with that? Then take a risk and ask her out. If she says no, don't hold a grudge. Get over it and move on to the next love interest. There are plenty of fish in the sea. But not if you only focus on just one. Link to post Share on other sites
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