FredJones80 Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 If you ask me (and it's only a guess) she is self projecting. If you seriously haven't spoke to her, made contact or any of the above since you say you have then there is no reason for her to send you stuff like this 6 weeks on. So I say, self projecting... Urban Dictionary: Projection 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Monacle Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 (edited) She's laying it on there a little thick, especially if she was the one to come up with the break and now she's telling you this BS? Wow! She doesn't want to be the guilty party, little late for that. Keep going km19! Edited June 5, 2014 by Monacle 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author km19 Posted June 5, 2014 Author Share Posted June 5, 2014 If you ask me (and it's only a guess) she is self projecting. If you seriously haven't spoke to her, made contact or any of the above since you say you have then there is no reason for her to send you stuff like this 6 weeks on. So I say, self projecting... Urban Dictionary: Projection Hey Fred. Thanks for taking the time to respond. I can ensure you that there has been absolutely no communication on my end. I sent her the "final" message at the end of April (28th or 29th) Up until Tuesday when she texted me out of the blue, the only form of communication was her mother messaging me a few weeks ago to return some things. She then followed up Tuesday's message with sending me a Pinterest email less than 24 hours later. Both form of communication I have deleted and not responded. The feedback I'm getting is that she is having issues herself. Why else would she be searching for inspirational quotes? I'm sure she's extremely familiar with self-projecting as well. She's a psych major and extremely smart. And i too believe this is what she's doing. It's unfortunate because she has her own inner demons she has to figure out and this is only masking them. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author km19 Posted June 5, 2014 Author Share Posted June 5, 2014 (edited) She's laying it on there a little thick, especially if she was the one to come up with the break and now she's telling you this BS? Wow! She doesn't want to be the guilty party, little late for that. Keep going km19! Thanks Monacle! Yeah I believe the guilt is getting to her. As made evident by the text she sent me, she's still trying to justify this as something good for me as well. I just really hope this doesn't become a pattern. Im holding on to the possibility that no responses will cause her to give up. Edited June 5, 2014 by km19 Link to post Share on other sites
Monacle Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 km19, just keep doing you and disregard whatever BS she's spewing at you. You are the most important person in this situation Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 Keep going strong, dude. If you want a quote about your situation here's one from your friends at LS to get you by: "It's funny how the person that hurts you is the one that swore they never would" Link to post Share on other sites
Author km19 Posted June 5, 2014 Author Share Posted June 5, 2014 Hey Chi_Town. I was hoping id hear from you! You summed it up well. Not much else to say other than that. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 Yeah dude, she thinks she doing you a public service with all that motivational BS she keeps sending to you. But, when push comes to shove, she's the one that caused all of this. Ignore her. You don't speak bat sh*t crazy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author km19 Posted June 5, 2014 Author Share Posted June 5, 2014 Yeah dude, she thinks she doing you a public service with all that motivational BS she keeps sending to you. But, when push comes to shove, she's the one that caused all of this. Ignore her. You don't speak bat sh*t crazy. It's amazing how correct you and others were when they say you pray your ex doesn't contact you. It's a total mind fu*k. Two days in a row my head was spinning because she contacted me on back to back days. Now that I've gone through a day where she hasn't contacted me (let's keep it this way) I do feel back to where I was before she messaged me on Tuesday. Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 Well, look at what she's sending you! Motivational quotes! Written and thought up by someone else! Nothing from the heart from her. Dude, you got your head on straight and you know the path you need to be walking down. Keep on making positive changes in your life. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lolablue17 Posted June 5, 2014 Share Posted June 5, 2014 (edited) The feedback I'm getting is that she is having issues herself. Why else would she be searching for inspirational quotes? I disagree. I dont think she feels guilty. I think she's worried about the possibility that you moved on and overcame her. She wants you to be miserable and weak, thinking about her, yearning for her. She needs that ego boost. So she is trying to do some fishing, sending you stuff like "you will survive", as if she knows whats going on with you. She has some nerve to send you these messages, sabotaging your moving on. UUUGGGHHH Edited June 5, 2014 by lolablue17 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author km19 Posted June 5, 2014 Author Share Posted June 5, 2014 I disagree. I dont think she feels guilty. I think she's worried about the possibility that you moved on and overcame her. She wants you to be miserable and weak, thinking about her, yearning for her. She needs that ego boost. So she is trying to do some fishing, sending you stuff like "you will survive", as if she knows whats going on with you. She has some nerve to send you these messages, sabotaging your moving on. UUUGGGHHH I'm not ruling out any theory. It's possible that this is her mindset, I don't know. But I also plan on never knowing because I just don't care. And if she is trying to sabotage my recovery it isn't working. Sure, my head was spinning yesterday, but it's in a better place now, even only a day later. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author km19 Posted June 19, 2014 Author Share Posted June 19, 2014 Hey everyone, just wanted to check in I was "fortunate" enough to run into my ex on the way to work the other day. Same old story, I got the "we need this to grow" speech. Before she could go any further I just flat out told her I had no interest in speaking to her or hearing the same thing over and over again. So I went on my merry way Coming up on 2 months since the BU and NC (if you still count it after I ran into her recently). Feeling pretty good right now. Still have more progress to make, but I'm happy with where I'm at. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Trep Posted June 19, 2014 Share Posted June 19, 2014 Hey everyone, just wanted to check in I was "fortunate" enough to run into my ex on the way to work the other day. Same old story, I got the "we need this to grow" speech. Before she could go any further I just flat out told her I had no interest in speaking to her or hearing the same thing over and over again. So I went on my merry way Coming up on 2 months since the BU and NC (if you still count it after I ran into her recently). Feeling pretty good right now. Still have more progress to make, but I'm happy with where I'm at. You sir, are an absolute champion. Link to post Share on other sites
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