Is he hinting at marriage? Should I listen to everyone else or my heart?

[mir2003_07]

My boyfriend and I have been dating almost 6 months now. We met each other about a year ago in one of our classes and really didn't talk until last year when we met up again by a weird coincidence. We started hanging out and fell for each other even though our personalities are drastically different. I love him very much and it is apparent that he loves me very much also.

 

We've tried to do the best for our relationship and overall I'd say that both of us are pleased. However, things haven't been easy. I don't think that my parents like him that much and sometimes we have a hard time seeing things eye to eye. He's never been truly mean to me but he isn't the nicest person in the world when he's in a bad mood. He does things sometimes that leaves me not-so-happy, due to my insecure nature, but I'm sure that he's unaware of it and is very apologetic when I tell him. I'm sure that I do things that annoy him also, so I try my best not to let little things get in the way. For example, my mother puts serious pressure and stress on me and it really gets on his nerves, so I know for a fact that those two just don't go together. Sometimes I question our relationship, but after a little while I realize why we're still together and I forget all my doubts, even though other people try to plant them in my head.

 

Alright, after a main overview of my relationship, I'll get to the main thing. Things have went pretty fast for us. It wasn't that long into our relationship that he told me that he loved me with all his heart and that I was unlike any of the other girls that he'd ever met. That he could see us together for forever. Things keep on getting more serious between us and lately he's been saying some stuff that starts to make me wonder. At first, he started off saying things like "will you (something) when we're old?" Then there was some other stuff that I can't remember. That didn't have me thinking too long, but then he started getting a little more direct. We were watching Jay Leno the other night and this comedian was saying something about marriage not being good for sex and he looked at me and said "oh-no." Then today as we were leaving school I was talking to him about PMS and he started joking with me saying it stood for pre-marital syndrome. There's a handful of stuff..not too explicit, but it all made me think. I wonder...is he hinting at marriage? Do you think he could be asking me sometime soon, or am I just making things up in my head?

 

If it is true, my heart would definitely be telling me to say yes. However, everyone else would be telling me that he isn't good enough for me. Any advice on how I should go about this and how I can decide whether he actually is the one for me and I should tell everyone just to leave me alone or if they're right and I should reconsider my relationship?

 

I would appreciate any responses. Thank you.

[SoleMate]

Please learn about what marriage really is by reading http://www.marriagebuilders.com.

 

And please start looking at ACTIONS in preference to WORDS. If you'll be happy having a husband who hurts you carelessly or ignorantly, then go right ahead. You both should be working hard to care for each other and avoid needless hurt. Otherwise, yes, you WILL fall out of love and no longer want to have sex (on the woman's side anyway).

[DinNJ]

I don't believe marriage would make things 'better'. They should be good already, not just 'ok' As far as I'm concerned ... any 'doubt' whatsoever should be used as a red flag to reconsider the relationship. Trust me.... Im at the age now where half of my friends a married. The ones that had 'doubts' prior to the marriage are now unhappy and married or filing for divorce or seperated. "Doubts" and "Questions/concern" is a major red flag.