so confuesed

[noob_saibot]

so were together again kinda , working on things. she says things will never be the same as before. well i guess she says we are seeing eachother, seeing if things are going to work, shes not seeing anyone else, and niether am i. i just feel baffled, she wont bring me around her parents, and certain friends, or relatives. i think shes afraid of what people will think about us getting back together,probably after all that nasty stuff she said, and now she came crawling back, the reason why we broke up plain and simple is because she started liking someone else,

 

the reason why she came back is because she realized what me and her actually had.

 

she says she sees us differently now and sometimes wonders if she should even be in a relationship. i dont quite know what she means by her seeing us differently. she says i have nothing to worry about. i just dont get why shes taking so much time to make things more relationship like, like am i always going to be this hidden boyfriend. or will she step up and start telling people we are back together. like i did, she betrayed me, and i was the one who put all the effort getting back, now shes finally more gf like to me, but its just this secretive thing i dont get, like kinda keeping me a secret, like everyone knows we are seeing eachother again, its just she wont officialy bring me around. i think shes being a coward

 

i think she is afraid to swallow her pride and tell people, yeah! i made a mistake.

 

well i started putting the effort to a minimum, she now grabs my hand and kisses me and what not, why is it so hard for her to just surrender, why is she so afraid to take down this road block.

[chados]

You're saying she realized what you had. Are you sure about that? What happened between her and the guy? He didn't want her? Do you know for sure she's telling the truth? I think she lost attraction and now when you're not there and she's alone she wants you back. Be careful is all I can say. Don't let her play you around. If she wants you back then let her work for it.

[Jiivy]

I'd be incredibly careful here. It sounds likes she's very confused...scared and not committed to making this work again.

 

You deserve for her to be clear about things. She left you for someone else - and if you value a partner who has the courage to take responsibility for their mistakes, then she should be taking responsibility for this one too.

 

Talk this out or lose her again. That I can guarantee you.

[noob_saibot]

well how do you regain attraction. how can i make my gf fall inlove with me again.

[chados]

This is not something you want to hear but I'm gonna be honest. She needs to get you back. It's not your job to make her feel attractive to you. Nobody is worth that after dumping you. But to answer your question. Don't make her feel she can have you easily. Make her work. Don't be scared to say no. If you have plans with a friend then go with your friend. Make time for her when you have time which even if you always do shouldn't be every day. Basically be in charge.