Girl I Like, She Likes Me But Seems Hesitant, Were To Go From Here. Help Urgent!!!

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THERES A GIRL IVE LIKED SINCE I WAS A YOUNGER ABOUT TEN YEARS AGO. WE BOTH REALLY LIKE EACH OTHER BUT I THINK I LIKE HER A LITTLE MORE THAN SHE LIKES ME. WELL I JUST RECENTLY STARTED TO PURSUE HER. THE PROBLEM IS SHE HAS A SERIOUS BOYFRIEND. AT FIRST I DIDNT KNOW. SHE WAS REALLY STARING AT ME AND ALTHOUGH SHE DIDNT EVER SAY ANYTHING THAT INDICATED SHE LIKED ME, SHE DID. SHE KNOWS I LIKE HER AND SHE ALSO KNOWS I KNOW SHE LIKES ME. WELL RECENTLY SHE TOLD ME SHE HAD A BOYFRIEND AND WELL I STILL WANTED TO GO FOR HER. I THOUGHT SHE WOULD PROBABLY STOP CHECKING ME OUT SO MUCH BUT SHE STILL DOES IT. SO ALTHOUGH IT DOESN'T SEEM LIKE SHE WILL LEAVE HER B.F. FOR ME YET SHE STILL LIKES ME A LOT AND I STILL LIKE HER. HER B.F. SEEMS LIKE A NICE GUY AND LOOKS LIKE HE KEEPS HER HAPPY. BUT WE STILL HAVE STRONG FEELINGS FOR EACH OTHER SO I AM GUESSING AND HOPING SHE WILL PICK ME SOME DAY. I NEED ADVICE ON WHAT TO DO FROM HERE. I STILL WANT TO LET HER KNOW IM INTERESTED AND WANT TO KEEP HER INTERESTED BUT I DONT WANT TO VIOLATE HER RELATIONSHIP. ALSO IM ALWAYS THE ONE DOING ALL THE WORK IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN. SHE'LL ACT LIKE SHE WANTS ME TO PAY ATTENTION TO HER BUT WHEN I TALK TO HER SHE DOESNT SAY MUCH. YOU MIGHT SAY SHE IS JUST PLAYING ME BUT SHE IS DEFF. NOT, SHES TOO NICE OF A GIRL I KNOW HER. MAYBE YOU COULD SAY THAT SHE DOESNT WANT TO HURT MY FEELINGS AND SO SHE DOESNT JUST SAY NO BUT IF THAT WERE THE CASE SHE WOULD STOP CHECKING ME OUT AND SEEM SO INTERESTED. ALSO WHAT ARE SOME WAYS WE CAN GET CLOSER TO EACH OTHER W/OUT PUTTING PRESSURE ON HER. I'VE ALREADY DONE A LOT OF THINGS FOR HER AND RECENTLY I STOPPED PAYING ATTENTION TO HER AND SHE SEEMED REAL SAD SO SHE IS STILL INTERESTED. NEED ADVICE HELP PLEASE. IM MOVING AWAY SOON AND I REALLY LIKE THIS GIRL. WE BOTH LIKE EACH OTHER AND I WOULDNT WANT TO LEAE W/OUT HAVING A CHANCE W/ HER.

[Artscrafter]

Okay, first off, never post in all caps again. Your post was very painful to read.

 

So there's a girl you've liked for a long time who has a boyfriend and you want her anyway. And she seems to have something of an interest in you but apparently not enough to drop the boyfriend. But she doesn't react well when you stop paying attention to her.

 

There was a girl in my high school who I had a serious crush on for the better part of two years, who had a LDR boyfriend. I found this out the first day I met her. Nobody thought their relationship would last (it was only two weeks before they had to go LDR) but last it did, and I wasted too much time waiting for something to (not) happen. The moral of the story is that other people's relationships don't end just because you want them to.

 

This leaves you with two realistic options:

 

1. Get over her. I know it's not what you wanted to hear, but she's been stringing you along like that for too long, whether she means to or not.

 

2. Sit her down and ask her very seriously, what's up with her, her boyfriend, and the attention she's been giving you. If she is into you and she hasn't acted on it by now, then she's probably waiting to hear that you're genuinely interested. Most girls I know wouldn't ditch their boyfriends for another guy without being really sure that things with the other guy will work out.