Author Partlys4int Posted May 3, 2014 Author Share Posted May 3, 2014 (edited) None of the things listed in this thread are solid proof that she has feelings for you. Looks can be misinterpreted. As for standing next to you or wanting to talk to you..she probably just knows that you have a crush on her and it makes her feel good so she encourages it by flirting with you. But if she really liked you as much as you think she does, she would leave her boyfriend. There's no reason for her to stay with him if she loves someone else..they're not married, they have no children together..what's keeping her there? I think you are misinterpreting her intentions. Edit: "what's keeping her there?" I don't know for sure about this. But I am quite a solitude/introverted person. I get described as mysterious/ absent (so I've heard). I have not said anything about me wanting to build something with her, nor do I constantly send her messages/give her likes (lol) ,... I just let life run its course. But maybe I should tell her I'm available, I don't really know if she knows if I'm single or not even. That's what I meant with being an introverted person. I only say the necessary. "why not go find a single one?" She struck me. No other women interest me, I don't have the urge to be with someone. I was content with living a solitary life. She changed that. Edited May 3, 2014 by Partlys4int Link to post Share on other sites
Wambo Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 I could give you a list of examples (and there are already some in this thread) but let me just say that I've had my fair share of women who were in love with me and made it clear. This one is, by far, the most obvious one. I'm embarassed, proud, flattered and my heart grows fonder at the same time when she's in one of our class night outs standing next to me (seeking my proximity, leaning towards me, dooey eyes,...). I'm afraid the others might talk to me about it, well knowing she has a boyfriend. Ofcourse I can never be sure. As fellini and others pointed out. She might as well be crazy for all I know lol It'd be very loveable craziness, that's for sure. On average a person fall in love three times in their lifespan. I don't want to sound cruel but how can we help you when you'll not allow us to do so? Can you please give us examples of this emotional affair or give us a valid reason why you aren't giving them to us. At the moment you are coming across as someone who's misreading the signs and putting your friendship in danager. Link to post Share on other sites
fellini Posted May 4, 2014 Share Posted May 4, 2014 (edited) So you're saying there are indeed women, who stay in a relationship until they've found a 'better' partner? This is mindboggling to me, I could never fathom the idea. Oh, and I already made clear that I'm not gay. I told her the story of a gay intern hitting on me once and me gently deflecting his attempts. The gay thing was just an example of how her thought processes are not mirroring yours, even though you think she feels the same for you.... There are indeed women, and there are indeed men who trade up. "Stay in a relationship" is not the phrase I would use. People can be comfortable with someone, and in fact, tell themselves that this is good enough. Until someone else comes along and surprises them that maybe they committed too early on the whole "love of my life" thing. Of course this sudden shift towards a new person can be a fantasy, or it can be a reality. That's not the issue, the issue is some people move from relationship to relationship until they think its time to stop. Edited May 4, 2014 by fellini Link to post Share on other sites
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