about my Crush, tell her or move on?

[jenjenjordi]

*The title is supposed to be "What should I do about my Crush, tell her or move on?"

Before I begin, I want to share some background information

I'm 16 years old and I am an introvert with a few really close friends but not many friends overall. According to some of my friends and the girl who rejected me last year, I am average looking. My Crush is in Year 9 and I'm in Year 11 and I leave school for Study leave in 8 days time. I think that she is prettier than I am handsome, and she always hangs around with big groups of people in the Tennis courts, and this includes boys and girls (I think).

 

In January, my Crush, lets call her C, came up to me a few times and said Hi. She used to go to my youth group but left last Christmas. For some reason, even though we hardly knew each other there, in January at school she said Hi to me and hung around near me with her friends. I was too shy to say anything but Hi back to her, and I probably should have said more.

 

When the Tennis courts stopped being out-of-bounds, she sort of left her old group of friends (from what I observed) and began to hang out in the Tennis courts where she currently goes every lunchtime and breaktime. I don't like to go to the tennis courts because I'm not very good at sport and I get intimidated by those who are.

 

Over the last few days, my crush is getting worse and I know it's not healthy but I don't know how I can realistically go up to her and ask her out in school because I don't know any of her friends and I am too afraid to leave my friends and go find her and ask her out in front of loads of other people who might be watching. I've left it too late, because I only have 8 days of school to go before Study leave, I will be back there in September, but by then all hope of her becoming my girlfriend will be lost.

 

I don't even know if she likes me or not, but I don't know if I should ask her out or move on, or even how to ask her out. I'm not the average teenager who plays sport and can easily attract girls, I am a web developer who is only confident at speaking to people with my interests.

 

I really don't know what I should do next, because this crush is eating me up inside

[d0nnivain]

Crushes are tough. . It's like flying. It's exhilerating yet scary.

 

If she knows who you are start talking to her. Say hi. Smile.

 

If something is coming up at school, like a dance, ask to go.

[jenjenjordi]

Crushes are tough. . It's like flying. It's exhilerating yet scary.

 

If she knows who you are start talking to her. Say hi. Smile.

 

If something is coming up at school, like a dance, ask to go.

 

I can't ask her to goto something at school because I leave school next friday but she doesn't.

[Chibaby]

GO FOR IT! What have you got to lose? Be brave! I am in my 30s now and at times wishes I had just mustered up the courage to confess my crushes. In school I was an ugly duckling, but I got a reality check and cleaned myself up, spent a little money on myself ('makeup, hair color) and lo and behold I was no longer a misfit (just on the inside). I had a lot more confidence when I spent a little time on myself, both inside and out. Do some soul searching. Yes looks always factor into things weather we want them to or not, but give it five years and likely the tables will be turned. As long as you take care of yourself physically and mentally, you will be a catch! Looks fade, personality will make all the difference.

 

Trust me, if things go south, no one will remember. I have had embarrassing moments that ice dwelled on and my best friends have no clue what I'm talking about. Besides She may be into you too! You are an older man, that is a big deal at your age! And if not, as long as she is kind she is a good person though maybe not the one for you! Don't wait or you may regret it, who cares about these silly tennis courts!!!