SCJACK Posted April 30, 2014 Share Posted April 30, 2014 -My Virginity Jk.. I still have that.. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Elle1975 Posted April 30, 2014 Share Posted April 30, 2014 -My Virginity Jk.. I still have that.. Good for you Aren't you glad you didn't give it up. It makes me think about the saying "why by the cow, when you can get the milk for free". Link to post Share on other sites
Author FredJones80 Posted April 30, 2014 Author Share Posted April 30, 2014 See! My ex stole your thread too! Ha, add that to your/my list then! Link to post Share on other sites
PhillyConnection23 Posted May 1, 2014 Share Posted May 1, 2014 I lost someone that I viewed as a partner and someone I legitimately saw spending the rest of my life with. A family that I really enjoyed being around. We didn't really exchange gifts that much. Our view was instead of exchanging physical gifts (we did) we would make memories together. This led to vacations, new restaurants, activities. I'm afraid that in the future I'll be unwilling to go back to these places because of the memories I made with my ex. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
km19 Posted May 1, 2014 Share Posted May 1, 2014 (edited) I lost someone that I viewed as a partner and someone I legitimately saw spending the rest of my life with. A family that I really enjoyed being around. We didn't really exchange gifts that much. Our view was instead of exchanging physical gifts (we did) we would make memories together. This led to vacations, new restaurants, activities. I'm afraid that in the future I'll be unwilling to go back to these places because of the memories I made with my ex. Me and my ex were quite similar. I'd consider us foodies and we would put gift money towards dinners, staying in the city overnight, etc. I discovered an awesome restaurant and we went probably half a dozen times in the last 6-9 months. We established a friendship with the owner and one of the waitresses. I think it would be awkward if I went back with another girl in the near future. But I think in time it won't be that big of a deal. I love the restaurant, the ambience and food far too much just to ditch it completely. Edited May 1, 2014 by km19 Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted May 2, 2014 Share Posted May 2, 2014 I think I lost - for this moment - my capability to trust. I know I am quite good when it comes to sensing if someone is lying to me or not. I learned that honesty sometimes means shït, people can change their minds in a heartbeat, just because their worlds are centred around them and them alone. The funny part is that she also was the one that made me believe in love again. I makes me feel I lost a lot, even as it was short-lived. She made me also regain something I have tried to find for years; she brought me back into touch with old pain. She gave me work to do. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ahthepain Posted May 2, 2014 Share Posted May 2, 2014 1)I lost My best friend 2) I lost Sex on tap 3) I lost Debt Link to post Share on other sites
Virgin26 Posted May 2, 2014 Share Posted May 2, 2014 - I lost the man I thought was "the one" - I lost my best friend (who's also my ex) - I lost a few other friends (who got sick of my sadness and depression) - I lost free rides (I can't drive. Time to learn I guess) - I lost companionship, laughter, fun times. - I lost physical closeness to someone (so far I can't feel physically attracted to anyone) - I lost the feeling of loving and being loved. The feeling of knowing there is someone out there who'll love you just the way you are. - I lost the exciting idea that after a bad day at work, I can go home and he'll put a smile on my face. and worst of all - I lost my authentic Adidas Brazuca soccer ball that I got for christmas from my ex and I left it at his place 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RDawg Posted May 2, 2014 Share Posted May 2, 2014 In the aftermath I wrote off my car. 2007 model VW Polo. Now I walk, cycle and catch the bus. I miss having a car. It makes dating a difficult proposition.. Link to post Share on other sites
jt27 Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 I lost my best friend and what I thought was the one thing I would always have...her. Besides that things I lost but can get back... My sense of self My confidence My goals and ambitions My ability to trust My ability to find joy in things Things I am not so sure I will get back... Replacing the memories I have of us in a specific setting with someone new at that same setting. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillfiguringitallou Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 - My bestfriend (or so I thought) - My imagined future - A dream I wasn't ready to let go of - A baby (but that happened before) - My ability to trust what anyone says at face value 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Sunbathe Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 I lost my best friend I lost my movie buddy. I lost back rubs. I lost great conversations. I lost having someone to lean on. I lost mutual friends, as they seem to want nothing to do with me now. But I also lost spending nights crying over how distant he was. I lost being insecure if he would make any time for me. I lost someone who became thoughtless and selfish. Link to post Share on other sites
John manning Posted May 14, 2014 Share Posted May 14, 2014 -All of my self worth -Pride 1 Link to post Share on other sites
km19 Posted May 19, 2014 Share Posted May 19, 2014 I was thinking about this thread today and something hit me. I'm sure it will raise some eyebrows and you all may laugh. Having said that, this will definitely be missed. I'm a really big hockey fan. Despite my close proximity to the Toronto Maple Leafs, I bleed orange and black. I'm a die hard Philadelphia Flyers fan. And to be honest, my ex became a fan as well. A few months ago she admitted to me that she considers herself a legit fan. We would watch the games together. She could name every player and their number. We went to games when they came to Toronto. Heck, we even flew down to Philly in October before training it to NYC to watch a game. It main seem trivial but it's something going to miss. Hockey and the Flyers are passions of mine, and it was pretty awesome sharing that with her. Link to post Share on other sites
giblesp Posted May 19, 2014 Share Posted May 19, 2014 Hi, I post a lot here, for that I apologise, its the only thing keeping my sane at the moment. So, what did you lose, both physically and mentally in your break up. - My partner - My home - My family - My CD collection (although I left it, who needs CDs?) - My belonging - My daily routine - Myself, as in who I think I am, now I feel lost - My independence - My outlook on life - My mind - Our joint possessions, as in everything for the home. Some of those by choice, others by situation. I'm sure there is more, I'm not at a stage to list what I've gained, give it a few months and maybe I'll make a new topic At first I thought I'd lost all the above. Then I realized I lost NOTHING. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted May 19, 2014 Share Posted May 19, 2014 It's hard for me to define something I lost by breaking up (back in the single days).. but one thing I always gained was my self respect. 9 out of 10 times I had lost my self respect in the relationship and the breakup helped me re-gain it.. well.. that and some introspection and time to myself afterwards... 1 Link to post Share on other sites
lop98 Posted May 19, 2014 Share Posted May 19, 2014 Fear of heartbreak. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Mondmellonw Posted May 19, 2014 Share Posted May 19, 2014 At first I tought I've lost an opportunity I had with a good man, but after thinking a lot, nope, I didn't lost that. Because I would have screwed the relationship with the good one. Why? Because, even tough I believe the most part was on my ex, I indeed had a lot to learn and was very naive. So, nope, I haven't lost anything, not even my time, because I learned a lot from this. I just gained more independence and a lot of other good stuff, and don't have the desire on to jump on any other thing without making any efforts to be a better person for myself. Nope.... again: I haven't lost anything. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
greenbee81 Posted May 19, 2014 Share Posted May 19, 2014 All my cool furniture and fish tanks. The tiny room I'm renting to make up for the loss can't hold all my stuff so I trashed it. That and my dignity. Link to post Share on other sites
BC1980 Posted May 19, 2014 Share Posted May 19, 2014 Some amazing pottery I had been collecting from New Mexico and my Garmin. I really want the Garmin back, and that pottery was not cheap. Oh, and I also left my bird bath in the backyard that he bought me On the serious side, I lost the naive approach I had to love, but that might be a good thing in the end. I'll be smarter next time, and I will give my love to someone who deserves it. I also lost the stress of having to watch what I do or say for fear that I will be judged. That's been awesome. Can I add that I get to watch "True Blood" and all my other HBO/Showtime shows without getting told they are cr@p and a waste of time. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
sly_fly1 Posted May 19, 2014 Share Posted May 19, 2014 i lost my self respect and fell into drugs and alchohal. i lost my dignity and class after sleeping with dirty chicks to try and forget i lost wieght from all the drugs i lost my happiness but i never did give up now she is back she cried her eyes out i straightend my self out n quit all the bad **** before she came back now i am a man who doesnt revolve around my gf,. now she revolves around me things arnt the same and never will be but at least now i know if she leaves again, i know how to survivee Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted May 19, 2014 Share Posted May 19, 2014 (edited) I lost my best friend I lost the ability to believe guys when they say sweet things I mean like what they say in the now won't necessarily mean the later like"I'll never leave" I lost the will to put such efforts into a person again unless they do it first I lost what I thought was prob the best looking penis in the world and I don't want anything smaller than what I had and I NEVER had this issue before it wasn't even big it was average but just perfect looking so now I have this new super shallow fear that every guy I like is gonna have a penis not as awesome as the last lol. I lost my sex drive Edited May 19, 2014 by Omei Link to post Share on other sites
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