Should I ask to try LDR?

[yorozo]

Okay so I posted this in the dating section before but now I was wondering from people who have done LDR (I have before for 6 months but I wanted other opinions as well please;) )

 

This guy that I've been hanging out with, making out, etc. came over couple nights ago and he was like "why are you so nervous"

and i told him that "I dont want to just hit it and quit it" and he was like "do you really think Id do that to you" and I was just silent and he told me "You're so awesome, I promise I'd never do that to you."

I told him that still I wanted my first time to be with someone I was dating. And he said he understood. He was like "Yeah I would have already asked you to be my girlfriend but you leave soon to go back home for the summer and I am getting deployed."

I just kind of nodded and told him that I just wish we could have a chance. He said in a funny voice "will you go out with me" but i think he was joking so I laughed it off.

He didn't pressure me to do anything, we just kind of layed together and then he was like "I have something to tell you....it is kind of big though." And I asked him what and he said "I think I'm falling in love with you. I've said those words to someone before but I've never really felt it until now, with you." And then he kissed me. After that his friend came in the room and was like "we gotta go man let me take you home now." And he left

 

My question is...what can I do now? I mean, I'm willing to still try with him even though it'd be long distance on and off as he is in the military and I am in college in one state but my home state is another so I go back and forth. But hinted at it in a big way that I would try and he didn't say much to it. (I said 'I would date the sh** outta you) haha. So the ball is all in his court now right? Or next time (which may be the last time) I see him should I explicitly say I still want to try?

 

Thank you for any insight...

[Michelle ma Belle]

LDR can be wonderful but also very challenging. If it's something you want to pursue then good for you.

 

From what you explained, I would agree that the ball is now in his court. The only thing I would caution you about is NOT to fall into the trap where you think you should sleep with him sooner rather than later for fear of losing him. I'm not saying he's a player but from what you said, he sounds like a typical horny soldier looking to say whatever he can to get whatever he wants. That's not to say he doesn't have real feelings for you or wants to try a LDR but I'm pretty certain he's thinking more with his c*ck than his brain right now. And as for his declaration of "love", I'd take that with a grain of salt as well. Don't fall for that right now.

 

Considering that you said you wanted your first time to be special, I'd be careful giving it up too soon and would rather see you wait it out a bit until he can prove he's in it for the right reasons.

 

That's just MY feeling on the subject but see what others have to say.

 

Good luck.