AnneT1985 Posted May 2, 2014 Share Posted May 2, 2014 Hi y'all! Hope everyone is doing well. I have a very clichéd question- I know we should do things for others from our hearts and not to be thanked or receive anything in return and I mindfully try my best to do that but I have to ask why some people are so ungrateful? For example...I bought a family member a lovely baby gift. She did not say thank you and instead complained she wasn't getting a second baby shower. I have been to 6 weddings and only one couple said thank you for the gift in any form at all. I am not even referring to thank you cards. I love to send people cards to celebrate their special days and occasions just because it makes me happy to do so but I will be honest in saying it is rarely acknowledged. Does it just annoy people to be thought of and loved? Or should I keep being myself and show my love anyhow regardless of their behavior? Do these people tend to be unhappy? I'd love your thoughts. Thanks so much y'all! xx Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 2, 2014 Share Posted May 2, 2014 (edited) I understand what you saying because I'm very much the same way. There was a very long period where I became disheartened and even annoyed with the lack of gratitude from the people around me. So much so that I stopped being so accommodating and generous with my time and money. I was done with always putting myself out there and for what? What I realized in doing this was a few things; When I was able to sit with clarity and really think about those situations and ask myself WHY it bothered me so much, if I was honest with myself, I came realize that some (not all) of my actions were done in the hopes of receiving recognition and/or kudos. Not so selfless after all. The other thing I realized is that being so closed off like this really wasn't who I was at my core. It felt incredibly unnatural for me. It was hurting me more than anyone. And the biggest lesson I learned in all of this was that sometimes we expect more from others because we are wiling do to that much for them. Once you accept that that is not the case and that doing things is about YOU and not THEM, it won't matter anymore. These days, I give as much as I ever did but I give for the RIGHT reasons and I give it if and when it feels right in my sole to give. If not, I don't and I never feel bad about it. Edited May 2, 2014 by Michelle ma Belle 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author AnneT1985 Posted May 2, 2014 Author Share Posted May 2, 2014 Thank you Michelle Link to post Share on other sites
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