aemm Posted May 2, 2014 Share Posted May 2, 2014 Hello, I liked this man and he liked me. We had an amazing connection but then he ended things because he said neither of us was ready for a relationship. He told me I would need to wait to talk to him again because we needed to adjust to being friends. He doesn't know when he will be ready since he is newly divorced. When I tried to talk to him before he told me he wasn't ready to talk to me yet. I ran into him 2 months after he ended things. He stared at me the entire time. I just nicely waved and tried to go on with my own business, but we were at the gym so we were both in the same room. When I waved and smiled he smiled back...but he wouldn't stop staring at me. His whole body was facing me and in an awkward position to how he was standing with friends (like his body facing me and not his friends). Does this mean he could still like me? Why do guys stare? He wouldn't look away when I looked back...just would smile. Link to post Share on other sites
Michelle ma Belle Posted May 2, 2014 Share Posted May 2, 2014 I'm not a guy obviously but maybe you're reading too much into this. He has made it VERY clear that he not only isn't ready to get back into a relationship with you but he's not ready to even talk with you yet! Why is he starring at you? He's a guy for heaven's sake. Maybe he still finds himself physically attracted to you especially as he watches you bounce around the gym. I wouldn't put much stock in that though. Until he makes a move to call or let you know with his words that he's ready to reconnect with you, save your dignity and forget about him already. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Jiivy Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 perhaps I can give you some perspective. 1) I'm a guy 2) I am newly separated from my fiancée 3) I made what is clearly a mutually attracted connection with a new woman recently. I never intended to make this "kind" of connection, it just did - she's a good looking girl, nice. But I barely sleep, I wake up in the middle of the night and cry myself back to sleep. It's not even the slightest bit fair for me to give this woman what she wants, and I've explained this to her. Don't be disheartened. The fact that he's able to find something in you is actually quite a powerful compliment to yourself... Know that he's still healing. If it's right, he will come to you when he's ready. I promise. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author aemm Posted May 3, 2014 Author Share Posted May 3, 2014 (edited) What exactly did you tell her? He told me that he was just going to break my heart and couldn't give me what I needed. He said he needed to back off. He still won't talk to me though. I just want to know if I am waiting around for nothing. It is hard to see him around and not know what he is thinking. May I ask how long were you with your ex for? I am sorry to hear about your heartache. It is hard to give your heart to someone and then have things end. I hope you're doing okay under the circumstances. Edited May 3, 2014 by aemm Link to post Share on other sites
Jiivy Posted May 3, 2014 Share Posted May 3, 2014 What exactly did you tell her? He told me that he was just going to break my heart and couldn't give me what I needed. He said he needed to back off. I told her that I'm still in love with my ex and I couldn't give her my full commitment. I said that in time I'll heal, but on my clock, when I'm ready. He still won't talk to me though. I just want to know if I am waiting around for nothing. It is hard to see him around and not know what he is thinking. May I ask how long were you with your ex for? I am sorry to hear about your heartache. It is hard to give your heart to someone and then have things end. I hope you're doing okay under the circumstances. We were together for 7 years. We have an intense history..the relationship was a secret from my family for 5 years. I was disowned by my family for finally standing up and pursuing our relationship openly (it was an inter-cultural thing, my family are quite strict). I was driven to be briefly jobless and homeless for it. We lived together for a year and her father gave me his blessing to marry her. We were first loves. I've learnt never to give yourself like that to someone else again - to the point where your life's happiness is on THEIR shoulders only. I don't think mine was, but she was convinced of it...or perhaps it was a BS excuse to get out. The greatest gift you can give to somebody is your personal wellbeing. I used to say, "I will take care of you, don't worry about me." Now I say, "I will take care of me for you. If you will take care of you for me." Link to post Share on other sites
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