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Potz4prez Established Member

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Hello, all... please share any insight you may have. :)

 

We had been going on dates for a month now. We were both physically and emotionally intimate (me more than her probably... hadn't had sex yet). She wanted to "take things slow," but was very clear that she was interested in dating me and wouldn't waste my time. The last time I saw this girl, everything was great.

 

The last text she sent was "Okay, I'll call you around 8 :)" the day before we had a date scheduled. She never called. I waited ~2 days... nothing. No text... no phone call. Obviously we didn't have our scheduled date.

 

I just texted her today "So, what's up?" as kind of a way of gauging what the hell is going on - No response.

 

It's just the fact that the last in-person and text contact were so positive, and then... NOTHING. Aaagghhh

 

 

What I want to think: She lost/broke her phone and can't find me on facebook (I even have a hard time finding me on facebook). I almost want to message her... eventually. I don't want to write this girl off if this is the case.

 

Things that are stewing in my mind: I gathered she had a messy break up from a 2 year relationship recent enough... exact relative time unknown. I'm afraid she got cold feet, or met a new guy that night, or hell... I dunno. You know the thoughts that run through a guys mind.

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Hello, all... please share any insight you may have. :)

 

We had been going on dates for a month now. We were both physically and emotionally intimate (me more than her probably... hadn't had sex yet). She wanted to "take things slow," but was very clear that she was interested in dating me and wouldn't waste my time. The last time I saw this girl, everything was great.

 

The last text she sent was "Okay, I'll call you around 8 :)" the day before we had a date scheduled. She never called. I waited ~2 days... nothing. No text... no phone call. Obviously we didn't have our scheduled date.

 

I just texted her today "So, what's up?" as kind of a way of gauging what the hell is going on - No response.

 

It's just the fact that the last in-person and text contact were so positive, and then... NOTHING. Aaagghhh

 

 

What I want to think: She lost/broke her phone and can't find me on facebook (I even have a hard time finding me on facebook). I almost want to message her... eventually. I don't want to write this girl off if this is the case.

 

Things that are stewing in my mind: I gathered she had a messy break up from a 2 year relationship recent enough... exact relative time unknown. I'm afraid she got cold feet, or met a new guy that night, or hell... I dunno. You know the thoughts that run through a guys mind.

 

It's like you are living the same life I am. Weird.

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It's like you are living the same life I am. Weird.

 

Yeah, I read your post. *brohug* The date that never happened seemed like the date that would have escalated things too (same as you)... just something about how intimate our goodbye was the last time I saw her.

 

OH, and maybe important info. Thanks to that goodbye, I really wanted to see her, so we scheduled something this past weekend despite us both having finals and originally saying we'd schedule something after. She canceled because she had to help her grandpa (understandable). That saturday I called her and stupidly left a "just saying hi" voicemail. That monday we talked on the phone and set up our date that never happened. Maybe I started moving too fast? I figured a month in, stuff like that wouldn't bother her. It's not like I was texting/calling her every day.

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Valen Established Member

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Did you two had hot make out sessions during that time?

Assasda Established Member

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She'll never see you again, because you are a wuss,

you've projected so much onto her, and she's almost at the top of the pedestal.

 

You have no chance, when being a wuss.

Move on

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Hello, all... please share any insight you may have. :)

 

We had been going on dates for a month now. We were both physically and emotionally intimate (me more than her probably... hadn't had sex yet). She wanted to "take things slow," but was very clear that she was interested in dating me and wouldn't waste my time. The last time I saw this girl, everything was great.

 

The last text she sent was "Okay, I'll call you around 8 :)" the day before we had a date scheduled. She never called. I waited ~2 days... nothing. No text... no phone call. Obviously we didn't have our scheduled date.

 

I just texted her today "So, what's up?" as kind of a way of gauging what the hell is going on - No response.

 

It's just the fact that the last in-person and text contact were so positive, and then... NOTHING. Aaagghhh

 

 

 

 

What I want to think: She lost/broke her phone and can't find me on facebook (I even have a hard time finding me on facebook). I almost want to message her... eventually. I don't want to write this girl off if this is the case.

 

Things that are stewing in my mind: I gathered she had a messy break up from a 2 year relationship recent enough... exact relative time unknown. I'm afraid she got cold feet, or met a new guy that night, or hell... I dunno. You know the thoughts that run through a guys mind.

 

She's just not that into you. Sorry

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There is nothing worse than someone just disappearing or fading out. So disrespectful.

 

You spent a month of your life spending time with her, surely you deserve an explanation - if you want to get one.

 

Forget texting and FB messaging. Too easy to ignore. Phone her. Go by her house. Not to try to get her to go out with you, but to ask: why the hell would she just drop out like that?

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Did you two had hot make out sessions during that time?

 

No :/ Which leads to this (?):

 

She's just not that into you. Sorry

 

I just thought it was just apprehension about getting into a relationship... probably a mix of both.

 

She'll never see you again, because you are a wuss,

you've projected so much onto her, and she's almost at the top of the pedestal.

 

You have no chance, when being a wuss.

Move on

 

However this is totally true in the modern "alpha/beta" bs the dating world has become. Like damn... can't show someone you like them anymore.

 

There is nothing worse than someone just disappearing or fading out. So disrespectful.

 

You spent a month of your life spending time with her, surely you deserve an explanation - if you want to get one.

 

Forget texting and FB messaging. Too easy to ignore. Phone her. Go by her house. Not to try to get her to go out with you, but to ask: why the hell would she just drop out like that?

 

I'd rather have a fade out honestly. The disappearing act is quite jarring.

 

I don't have problems getting dates (already had one lined up in case this didn't work out... didn't think I'd need it at the time haha), so I'm cool. Her loss.... Which is hilarious, because she had joked about how her friend said she was going to end up alone forever.:p

 

She's obviously just not emotionally mature... which I kind of knew going into it. Guess I did this to myself :p

 

Maybe she is trapped underneath something heavy and the phone is just barely out of the reach of her fingers.

 

This is how I'll imagine her... crushed under a rock haha -.-

 

 

Alright... not gonna fb message her or anything else. Thanks duders.

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No :/ Which leads to this (?):

 

 

Sexual chemistry is important, if you don't develop it during your first month of dating, it's usually leads to fade-aways or friendzone or disappearing acts.

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Call, but do not go by her place. That would be creepy, stalkish...If no answer, move on. If her phone was broken, whatever, as attached as we are to our phones now days, she would have had it repaired by now. You should have contacted her minutes, an hour or so before the date instead of waiting days after????

 

Anyway, she likely came to the conclusion that you two were not compatible. Or she found someone else.

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Sexual chemistry is important, if you don't develop it during your first month of dating, it's usually leads to fade-aways or friendzone or disappearing acts.

 

Yeah, never been in a sexually intimate relationship (at 25) outside of a few hook-ups. Self perpetuating cycle I suppose.

 

Something to work at I suppose.

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Who knows whats on her mind. Though sounds like she wasn't on the same page as you.

 

That said, if a girl says she'll call at a time and doesn't, why not CALL and ask if shes okay?

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Who knows whats on her mind. Though sounds like she wasn't on the same page as you.

 

That said, if a girl says she'll call at a time and doesn't, why not CALL and ask if shes okay?

 

Yeah, looking at things objectively now, totally true. I should have cut ties earlier.

 

And holy ****, you're right... I got caught up in the game. However, at that point the ball was in her court, and it was up to her to keep this going. Even if she had called, but wasn't reciprocating more, I would have ended things anyways. Thanks to her not calling, I didn't waste my evening :)

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hey buddy - when did she end her relationship?

 

When I ended my relationship there was a time that I thought I was ready to date... but really I was just trying to distract myself.

 

I've been over a full year and only now have I met someone that i am crazy about. And in between i've dated a lot of people that have gone nowhere.

 

If she's recently single, she could just be dating to get her feet wet again,and if something better came along, or she got spooked, and if she's immature and doesn't know how to deal with feelings, at least acting with integrity with actually letting you know that it's not working out. move on.

 

If she comes back with some excuse - listen to it but, you know, i've had it before when some guy will disappear for a bit, (to test out something else, something that didnt work out), and then come back, cus you're now a sturdy back up.

 

don't be a back up.

 

be #1.

 

Find someone who's gonna be on the same page as you and appreciate you for all you are. The guy i'm crazy about right now, is a big bag of mush and sensitivity and I love it. And i'm the kind of girl a lot of ppl want to date (not to blow my own horn). So. Just find someone that fits with you. Not her.

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You should have contacted her minutes, an hour or so before the date instead of waiting days after????

 

I just wanted to see if she cared.

 

hey buddy - when did she end her relationship?

 

When I ended my relationship there was a time that I thought I was ready to date... but really I was just trying to distract myself.

 

I've been over a full year and only now have I met someone that i am crazy about. And in between i've dated a lot of people that have gone nowhere.

 

If she's recently single, she could just be dating to get her feet wet again,and if something better came along, or she got spooked, and if she's immature and doesn't know how to deal with feelings, at least acting with integrity with actually letting you know that it's not working out. move on.

 

If she comes back with some excuse - listen to it but, you know, i've had it before when some guy will disappear for a bit, (to test out something else, something that didnt work out), and then come back, cus you're now a sturdy back up.

 

don't be a back up.

 

be #1.

 

Find someone who's gonna be on the same page as you and appreciate you for all you are. The guy i'm crazy about right now, is a big bag of mush and sensitivity and I love it. And i'm the kind of girl a lot of ppl want to date (not to blow my own horn). So. Just find someone that fits with you. Not her.

 

You are awesome :D

 

And yeah, it's definitely a lot of that. Her last relationship could have been sooner than she let on. Said she had a regrettable one-night-stand immediately after, went on 2 dates with a creepy Russian dude, and then she met me. But I never asked exactly how long it had been.

 

And yeah... definitely not anyone's backup. On top of being awesome (not to blow my own horn haha), I was actually making my female friends jealous when I told them about our dates :p

 

Thanks :)

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